I posted in a prior thread about my son’s struggle in school. Son has poor grades, husband and I don't know how to help him
My son’s GPA is very low, by the end of his junior year it will likely be 3.13. This is despite the fact that:
- He receives extensive (and expensive) private tutoring
- He studies so much, frequently more than 8 hours a day on weekends
- He enjoys school and likes learning and academics
- He scored 1580 on the SAT with very little studying
Aside from this, I received advice to “let him do what he wants” and to get him full neuropsychological testing.
I spent more than $5000 getting my son neuropsychological tested. The testing was largely useless. It found that his Full Scale WAIS-4 IQ is at the 99.97th percentile, with each index scale approximately 3 standard deviations above the mean. His score on the Continuous Performance Test and Wisconsin Card Sorting Test indicated that he is very attentive and ‘cognitively flexible,’ has average impulse control, and very strong executive functioning. Based on these tests and questionnaires that he answered, the neuropsychologist said that he clearly does not have ADHD and likely does not have anxiety or depression.
I’m simply at a loss. His testing clearly indicates that he should be one of the top-performing students in his grade, but he’s well in the bottom half of his school. It just kills me to see him not reach his potential.
My husband spoke with several of his teachers about his performance, and they seemed to think that his low performance in their classes comes from a wide variety of sources; low class participation, low problem-solving ability, and an inability to understand material presented to him in class. I’m simply at a loss. I know he tries hard and I know he’s focused because I see him working; I see everything he does, and I know he’s a truly bright kid. I want him to go to college and he wants to go to college, but I worry that he won’t succeed in college.