My kiddo is considering UVA. Loves the campus and academics. She’s very social and always has an easy time making friends. But she’s not into hard core partying on a regular basis. She does drink alcohol, but would prefer smaller gatherings or house party with good conversation to - say - a giant frat party.
Anyone know of the social opportunities for those that aren’t as interested in the big party scene? No doubt there are others in a school that big, but I am wondering if she’ll be in a tiny minority in her dorm. I don’t want her to feel like she doesn’t fit in.
She isn’t religious and isn’t in to music. Loves to play different sports and is very interested in politics and social impact. Loves outdoorsy and environmental stuff In case any of that helps. She has no hesitance getting involved in campus groups.
All ideas welcome - but would especially
love to hear from any parents that have had this kind of kid go to UVA.
I attended UVA 20 years ago, but I think most of my experience translates (probably).
I was a non-drinking, not religious, introvert who was interested in getting involved on campus. The hard part was learning to say no to opportunities. There are many ways to find your niche, or jump around and be involved in multiple niches on campus (Grounds). UVA students tend to be highly involved and motivated.
Greek life is a thing, but it’s easy to find other things to do. I was a non-drinking brother in a fraternity. When I rushed, I made that clear to houses. Most didn’t care. There are also service fraternities like APO that are another good option.
I was involved with the campus programming board that planned speakers and concerts and short courses like dance, cooking, photography. Some programs, like being an RA or admission guides, can be very competitive. Try out early and learn what they are looking for.
There was a great outdoors club that was very active. Madison House has many volunteer opportunities and the club sports program is very strong.
I teach at UVA and also have a child there. There are absolutely kids just like your daughter and I have no doubt she’ll find her people. We do see more excessive drinking/partying among first years the first few months but my sense is most kids settle into their groups and routines within a few months. She’ll have ample opportunities to engage in the activities you’ve outlined. Best of luck!
Congratulations to your daughter. I am a current parent with a daughter who is very social and has found friends within her dorm, club sports world, sorority and service. Charlottesville is so outdoorsy and many find clubs or groups to take advantage of the beautiful mountains as well.
Since your daughter is a self-starter - I believe she can make UVA anything she wants. There are more opportunities for connecting than there are hours in the day!
