<p>I can’t believe this thread has been around for an entire week and I am just now seeing it and reading it! </p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with not wanting to race mix. By some of your people’s standards, anyone who puts down only a certain race in a personal ad is a racist. SWF seeks SWM is not racism, its just personal preference. It would take a real hot minority chick for me to date outside of my race or religion, and I personally would like to have white children, just my personal taste. If I somehow had a half asian or half black child I would obviously love it as my own, who wouldn’t. (why if a black and white have a baby, does it automatically go into the black column racewise? people forget Obama is half white.)</p>
<p>As for my future daughter dating outside of their race, initially I would be hesitant, but I would be accepting as long as the kid was clean, from a decent upbringing, and wasn’t a bad boy. No daughter of mine is dating any bad boys. </p>
<p>Getting to the original poster, if you really love this dude, bring him over to meet your parents, if they still don’t like him after meeting him in person, then dump him and go to college. If you want to win, you have to play the game; you just can’t make up your own rules. Unfortunately if you want to win this game, you have to play by your parents rules. That’s just life kiddo, sometimes it sucks.</p>
<p>thats a freakin tough situation.Oviously from the way it seems,ur boyfriend cares about u and would love to get back to u.Here u have to be smart…it will be good to get back with him and DO NOT let ur parents know.i went thru the same situation… was rejected coz i am black and the gal’s prents were against interracial r/ships.If worse comes to worst,just takein the heat and confront ur parents about it.</p>
<p>Honestly keep seeing him and don’t tell your parents. It’s not like they can find out. Or confront them and tell them to tell you ONE legitimate reason why interracial dating is wrong. (and race-related is NOT a legitimate reason, and it’s not even a reason for that matter)</p>
<p>What can they do? And tell them if they keep controlling you, that you’ll cut off your phone line, cancel your email account, get a new cellphone number, not go home, and not talk to them for the rest of your life. That’ll make them cave like <strong>snaps fingers</strong> that.</p>
<p>Oh and get a job in consulting or ibanking or some other high-paying job after college so you NEVER have to talk to them about money, EVER (one of my reasons why I want to go into ibanking…so I don’t have to talk to my parents). Just like don’t answer their calls, don’t reply to their emails, and most of all, DO NOT CALL THEM. IF you cut them out of your life, your life will be so much easier.</p>
<p>Personally I don’t see what’s wrong with interracial dating.</p>
<p>hey
sorry i havent been on CC for a while
thanks again everyone for your responses, i have spent alot of time considering all 3 of the options that i have which is 1) continue dating him anyways and not tell my parents 2) date him, tell my parents, and get out a loan 3) break up with him </p>
<p>in the meantime since i am still living at home i think number 3 in the best option since i still have to respect my parents as long as im living under their roof…BUT…once i get to college i have considered taking option 2) even if i dont end up datng him anyways…simply cuz im sick of being manipulated by my parents, i just cant live like that and honestly id rather handle MY LIFE on my own even if it puts me in debt for eternity…i have thought about option 1) but i thought that that would be too unfair to him
so…my queston now is…how do i go about getting a NON-need based loan?</p>
<p>PM- these are rebelious times for teens. Take it from the mom of a college freshman, Please work with your parents and go off to college in a good frame of mind. College, new routines, finding independence, new friendships. the workload, and a host of other responsibilities will be stressfull enough- this is a great time to know that your paents love you and are pehaps the only people in the world who have your BEST INTEREST AT HEART… do not be so quick to cut the ties</p>
<p>Try to have an honest conversation with the young boyfriend, and let your parents know that the situation -them not trusting your judgment- has hurt you. Now enjoy the rest of your school year and the summer. Fall will be here before you know it by then you will have a different take on things. </p>
<p>I find the kids on CC to be highly motivated and intelligent so i believe you will find the option that best fit your capabilities.
Good luck</p>
<p>Kinda skirted over the whole racial issue, huh? How can not letting her date a black guy solely based on race and threatening to cut her off “have her best interests at heart???” And what do you mean by “rebellious times?”</p>
<p>As a minor you’ll need an adult to cosign a loan for you … your parents (not likely in this case) … a special aunt or uncle (would one of your parent’s siblings do this) … grandma or grandpa? </p>
<p>Paying your own way at an expensive school when your parents do not pay the EFC is a tough road … there have been numerous strings on this topic on CC; I’d suggest searching for … “loans” … “parents won’t pay” … etc and see what you can find.</p>
<p>Maybe the guy is a jerk. The fact you would even consider breaking up should cause you reflect. If you cared about him that much,–braking up would not be an option. Forget the loan. Go enjoy college.</p>
<p>If my parents were racist jerks, I couldn’t care about or like them in the least…to love people who hate others for the color of their skin is pathetic and I wouldn’t take their money</p>
<p>sure they raised me but those are the kind of people who think people not like them have no value as humans and make other people miserable and don’t think they should have the same rights</p>
<p>to gloss over it is really sad…to me, that kind of hatred is a deal breaker from carrying the parent card</p>
<p>assuming you’ll be living in a dorm at college, i think it would be very easy to ‘hide’ him, if you can call it that.
i think it’d be fair to him. I’m sure if you two loved each other that much to be so much affected by this situation with your parents, he wouldn’t mind. if i was in his position, i know i wouldn’t mind.</p>
<p>college loans are very difficult to deal with. i know a lot of people who are in their late thirties and still paying off a substantial amount of debt, and i think doing that would be unfair to YOURSELF and your future.</p>
<p>if they indeed had her best interests at heart, they wouldn’t care the color of skin of her friends…the gall of those parents iks quite astounding actually</p>
<p>and people think their is no need for AA, or civil rights…bet her parents wouldn’t hire or rent to a black person either…</p>
<p>That’s weird… Why r ur parents so rascist? R u sure they don’t like him just cos hes black and nothing else?
Rascism is based on stupidity and lack of understanding. Ur parents would have to be pretty weird/dumb ppl to still be so heavily rascist in this day and age.</p>