<p>OP: If your D is a minor when she goes to therapy, don’t worry about it. Her records will be sealed. I don’t know how things are where you live, but therapists are bound to confidentiality agreements. Perhaps ask the therapist her approach on that? I wouldn’t give up on therapy so quickly. And I certainly hope that you are not discouraging her from seeking help… Your fears about therapy aren’t really accurate. Previous psych history does not influence a later psychological assessment. If she failed the test, it would be based on her answers.</p>
<p>Several presidents have had drug histories… Many politicians have records of numerous illegal activities… A few sessions in therapy will not hurt her chances at success. </p>
<p>“Considering that my kid is on the honor roll, well respected by peers, and has never had sex, done drugs, drank, smoked, stolen, or skipped school, I’d say that she’s doing pretty well!”</p>
<p>Welcome to my adolescence. I was not, in any sense, doing well. I was scared and depressed. She may be too, and, if so, she should get some help.
The level of paranoia that you have expressed and the level of insecurity she seems to display warrants, I think, some outside help. Please don’t let your fears get to her even more. They are already, I can tell. Happiness isn’t just found in a career or mate. It comes from the person.</p>
<p>We are saying this to help your D. Not to insult you. Please look past what seems like offensive comments and look at the heart of what we are saying.</p>
<p>Also, I am very glad that the therapist did not allow your child to stay. I know that it was hard for you, and seemed like a betrayal, but it would have been unethical to keep her there depending on what you were discussing. 2 year old kids are pretty aware. I still remember things from when I was 1.5 years old (though I have an unusually sharp long-term memory). Do you really want to risk your child having issues because she remembers mommy needing extra help because she was sad about needing to raise her? (aware, not mature enough to understand the involved situation)</p>
<p>“I know of a woman who was denied a professional license because she had suffered from depression. I am sorry, but that is bull. She managed undergraduate and doctoral school and then could not practice. I am sure that she is not thankful for the “help”. Therapy helped her right into poverty”</p>
<p>This is a difficult situation. I’m assuming her diagnosis wasn’t the issue though. Likely, she took the psych assessment and it revealed the extent of her depression. While she managed undergrad and doctoral, she may not have been able to handle dealing with other depressed individuals on a regular basis. I don’t know much about the psych assessment, but if it revealed that transference or something was likely, then she wouldn’t get the chance to practice. The situation is bad, but it is the best thing for the many who would be her potential clients. A therapist who can’t practice objectively is truly dangerous.</p>
<p>I disagree with emeraldkity4 on the MSW point. I have found them the least helpful, next to school counsellors, but least expensive. Do your research though. Maybe ask if the initial visit is free.</p>
<p>Also, your brother-in-law is only one counsellor. Different circumstances for different places and people. The dds/adhd situation is also VERY far from the norm. </p>
<p>As for sweet men, I can also guarantee that they exist! With the exception of one male therapist that I knew, ALL the men in my life were horrible jerks until my bf. This weekend will be two years for us. I am pretty shy/uncomfortable around guys (to the point where my top two schools are women’s colleges), but he is <em>very</em> quiet and subdued, and was “non-threatening” to me. He is protective of me, actually. I know that he would never pressure or hurt me. In fact, for a long time he would stop dead if I said “Oh!” or something because he just wanted to make sure he didn’t mishear a “no!” He is very attentive to little cues of mine showing that I’m nervous or upset or something also (I hestitate on showing that sometimes, but he also doesn’t want me to feel anything other than happy with things, even if I don’t feel off enough to stop things). Good guys exist, I promise. Sex can be great and safe for her. She just needs to be smart about the guys she pursues. The best way you can help her is to teach her to be smart (NOT PARANOID) about the partner/s she chooses. She MUST know that she always has the right to say no or walk away from the guys like those who hurt you and your family females. Those guys should NOT be given second chances. Second chances turn into 80th chances. She has the right to demand that her mate treat her with respect, ALWAYS. This best friend of hers is not very respectful, IMO. He made moves that seriously feel like mixed signals to me, and that is not fair to her, especially when he was made aware of her feelings. Maybe the first step she should take is to stand up for herself to him by discussing that.</p>
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) with quite a few people. While I guess a couple were jaw droppingly gorgeous on the outside, what is more important is the soul within. One man I admit I initially went out with because he was so goodlooking. But he also was such a beautiful person * inside*, warm and generous and funny, that after a while I forgot what he looked like, until I would see him through someone elses eyes. </p>