Two kids, two different schools and my perspectives. Both my kids are hard workers, but also very social, and I think that is great. Personally I don’t think college is meant to be a relentless grind.
My son is a senior at Wash U St. Louis. Great academic program but a couple of negatives. Social life revolves around frats, and the school seems to be tightening restrictions around them for crimes real and imagined. The problem is there is no other social alternative. Even parties in housing are controlled as the school also owns these units. With no serious sports, or other events on campus, life is very dry. Frankly it is a bit of a nanny state, best populated by introverts. Also there is almost no diversity outside of what is provided by Asians. With the school’s huge endowment, couldn’t it do a little better here, be more inclusive…?
Colgate is quite the contrast socially, as I see from my d. Out in the middle of nowhere, but the place is always hopping. I am not much of a sports person but I will say it adds. There are parties in frats, parties in townhouses and sporting events to go to. Sports teams that are not in frats provide an alternative to the frat scene. There are formals and relaxed gatherings and well as a dance scene. In St Louis there are a bunch of bars, but when you only have a few like in Hamilton , you get a reasonable quorum of people. There is not a ton of diversity at Colgate, but way more than at Wash U. Much of that comes in from the sports but its good to see it. The school can be preppy but daughter found her own crew and totally loves it.