<p>Our family is attending our nephew’s wedding. I bought a gift for my daughters to give, and was wondering what an appropriate amount of cash to give. The wedding is in the northeast. not super fancy. traditional. My H and I are debating this.</p>
<p>$25-$50…</p>
<p>I usually give $100 to $200 depending on who it is.</p>
<p>This question is a tough one because it depends entirely on what you can afford and how close you are to the nephew.</p>
<p>Everyone’s financial situation is different. It’s really impossible to advise someone as to how much they should give. Insomniatic believes that $25-$50 is an appropriate gift for a nephew. My H and I gave the son of a good friend $500 last week as a wedding gift. As I said, there’s really no good way for us to know what you should give.</p>
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<p>How old are your daughters? Why are they giving a separate gift?</p>
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<p>Wow. I didn’t even get that much in total when I graduated from high school. lol</p>
<p>It all depends on your budget and how close you are to the relative- as above. Consider the precedent set for any other relatives geting married in years to come- you may have many other similar expenses.</p>
<p>Northeast…relative…not super fancy…$200.</p>
<p>NE friends but close ones… $200-$300.</p>
<p>I’d give more to a nephew - the venue or the lavishness of the affair wouldn’t enter into it.</p>
<p>I wanted to give them something they would “have” for years. So I decided to buy something from my d’s who are students and only work in the summer I wasnt aware that people sent out on the shower invites the address you could contribute to for the honeymoon. My cousin has a place you can contribute to a house fund. All new to me. Now that I think about it, I did go to a wedding but we spent a large amount of money as it was my H’s business partner’s daughter. someone who has been a mentor and exceedingly generous to us. I like this nephew and his fiance but am not exceedingly close to them. I am closer to his sister’s kids.</p>
<p>When family members have gotten married in the past, the cash gifts have ranged from about $50-500, not counting the very generous grandparents. I will give depending on how close I am to the couple discounting the lavishness of the affair. My niece and nephew received the same gift ($300) in spite of the fact that he had a small wedding at a cottage under a tent and her was in a country club. From what I saw though, the amount given was all over the place. Some very wealthy people who have known the couple all their lives have given as little as $100 while some of their young friends gave more than that. I especially noticed that people whose children were not old enough to have gotten married yet gave way less. I think they remembered their own weddings.</p>
<p>Northeast - we went to 2 weddings last year. One was for a young, very hard working co-worker. I believe H and I gave them $200.00 (wanted to give more, but finances at the time didn’t allow it). Second wedding was for the daughter of my best friend. We have watched this girl and her sister grow up since she was 5. Our families have shared a lot. We gave her $300.00. Again, wanted to give more, but just couldn’t swing it right then. I also did the shower which I think was about $100.00.</p>
<p>I really don’t know how my gifts compared to others - it’s not something that’s talked about.</p>
<p>Three of my husband’s nephews have gotten married over the past three summers (all brothers). We are very close to the family and our sons are like brothers to their 4 cousins. We gave $300 in 2010, $400 in 2011 (this nephew was also DH’s godson) and will give $300 again this year. In all three cases we also gave ~$50 shower gifts and DS and DH paid whatever at the stags. Our kids both also gave separate gifts in 2011 and will in 2012. College DS gave/is giving $50 and older DS who is graduated and working gave more.</p>
<p>Thank you for all the responses. its a tough thing to bring up money. I just had no point of reference. My H tends to go way overboard, and I am middle. We usually do more than his family. who tend to be cheaper. Frankly, this time of year is so costly, with D2 graduating, double tuitions. etc… I just want to keep it to a dull roar. thanks for your responses. I know it is touchy</p>
<p>It so depends on the situation and relationship. When we go as a family to a wedding, we usually give a family gift, and I get it from the registry. I try to get something that is more memorable like a china or silver setting rather than the pots and pans, but that is my personal bias. My kids might, if they know the person well, buy their own private gift, and sometimes I’ve done that too, but only if I find a “must get” item and it’s always been something inexpensive but that fits the person well. I have also written an additional check for $100 if the occasion seems to call for it… and if I can afford it.</p>
<p>That last bit is important. I absolutely would not want anyone I invite to any wedding to be hurting financially because they felt they HAD to pay a certain amount for a gift, and I want those that I would invite to come, regardless of what they can afford in gifts. When i was first working, it was often all I could do to make it to my friends weddings, and the gifts were not often not from registries because the bottom lines did not meet up. But I well knew I was invited because my friend(s) wanted ME there, not my gift. </p>
<p>As an older person now, there are occasions when we are invited due to protocol, and certain standard gifts are sort expected, and I do understand that. BUt I am not going to endanger our finances that way. My close friends and family tend to be such that they are interested in those they care about to be there, thank goodness. </p>
<p>The only time I would be concerned about appearances in gift giving would be if it were a client/business situation where such things could make a difference. Otherwise I give what I feel like giving and can manage that month. When it’s a business expense, it has to be treated and researched as such.</p>
<p>[The</a> Envelope](<a href=“http://www.theweddingenvelope.com/calculator.php]The”>http://www.theweddingenvelope.com/calculator.php)
This was suggested, helpful</p>
<p>Oh my, now I feel that I under-gave at some recent weddings! I will need to step it up for the four fall weddings on my calendar!</p>
<p>Oh no I think I under-gave as well. It’s funny but all the things they asked in “the Envelope”, I think about before writing out the check. I already told one of my friends who is considering a third marriage, that she might as well elope. lol. Anyhow, I am going to bookmark the link as a good guide, I can use my own judgement from there. Currently, I have to figure out how much to give my niece for her communion this weekend. I am also her godmother.</p>