Actually, it’s my engagement ring that’s looking rather skinny after 35 years, but has anyone taken theirs off? My grandfather was a jeweler and said it would always be safer on my hand than anywhere else, and I can’t imagine not wearing it. But I don’t want it to break or get ruined, either. The setting was reset about…6? years ago when I noticed the prongs had shifted.
DH says we could get a replacement ring, but I don’t kmow how I feel about that. My mom took hers off around year 40 during chemo and kept it off.
My engagement ring and wedding ring,neither too thick to begin with, were soldered together after we got married - about 5 years ago or so I noticed that the back of the ring(s) was so thin and likely to break. I took it in and they build the bands back up just like new!
No, it’s the band itself that is wearing thin. The diamond/setting was reset into new prongs (sorry, I am not much on jewelry terms). I assume the band was cut open, a new assembly with the diamond placed back in?
I bet you’d feel sadder about it breaking or getting lost than you would about replacing it. I’d look into replacing it although I understand the sentimental thinking.
When mine was worked on several years ago, just the setting and prongs were involved. The inside of the band continues to wear thinner. You can get the band reinforced/built up. I need it sized down as well as built up, and can’t decide if during that process I will add another band celebrating a milestone anniversary.
My mother’s two rings were separate, and became thin over the years. Around 30+ years in, she had them soldered together and the stone reset. Go see a jeweler, and ask what is possible.
Mine was extremely thin in the back, prongs had been done several times over 35 years. My husband bought me a new setting last summer. I wanted to keep the original diamond (nothing special, just the original). He took me to Cross Jeweler’s in Portland, ME. It was a really fun experience to pick out the setting and I love the new ring even more than the original.
After 36 yrs, wife’s engagement ring had worn so thin, and prongs had fallen off, she needed a new band to hold her stone. Looks great again. Stone is on the small side (didn’t have much $ back then), so jeweler helped pick out a band and mounting that made the stone look bigger.
I had mine soldered together (and enlarged a size) after D was born. Unfortunately, I gained weight again after that and most of the time the rings are too tight to get on. I wear a different band that belonged to a great aunt but was not really a wedding band. I take it off at night because my hands swell up. I still hold out hope that I will be able to wear my original set more often than I can now :(.
H, otoh, hardly ever removes his band, but it was a thick custom made comfort fit, and doesn’t seem to have thinned. Although it has been beaten up a fair bit.
Unfortunately, I mistakenly slammed my hand and sprained my ring finger. My finger got so swollen that I had to have my wedding ring cutoff. My husband said that we will take the ring to be remade at the original jeweler we purchased the ring from. We will be celebrating our 31st Wedding Anniversary on May 16.
What type of metal is it? My grandmother’s engagement ring had a very thin shank and every jeweler always said to replace it and she never did - it lasted for her life (ages 30-85) and most of mine (I inherited it when I was 18). But I think it’s platinum. The chances of a ring breaking and being lost are, I think, fairly small ad if it broke and you had the ring you could get it repaired - does the thinness bother you?
My engagement ring is and has always been thin. Since my knuckle is larger than the part of the finger where my ring rests, the jeweler (our friend) added two small gold balls to the inside of the engagement ring so the stone doesn’t spin around and risk being damaged. As I look at it today, it still appears in great shape.
I have a separate comfort fit good wedding band that is also in great shape. Both rings are 14kt gold.
If it looked thin and was at risk of breaking, we would talk to the jeweler about options.
My mom has permanently lost several diamonds rings, of course when they were off her fingers. I rarely ever take mine off. They have been tight from time to time but most have been pretty comfortable for the > 30 years I’ve worn them.
When I used to push the kids in strollers long ago, sometimes the back of the engagement ring would get flattened, but our dear jeweler would re-round it and it would be good as new.
I had to have the prongs that hold the central stone in my engagement ring fixed a while ago, after I somehow caught it in a shopping cart in the BJ’s parking lot and popped the stone out. It was dark, raining, and the stone is a dark emerald cut sapphire: I was very lucky to be able to find it!
They didn’t have to do anything to the band part, just replaced the prongs, which had apparently thinned. So I think it unlikely that your resetting affected the band.
I’m wearing my great grandmother’s wedding band.The date inside is 11/29/1894, just about 100 years before my marriage. She wore it for about 40 years and I have been wearing it for almost 30. Unfortunately the inscriptions are starting to disappear.
My engagement ring was purchased new for me. I only wear that when I go out. As soon as I am in the house, it goes into the jewelry box. The jeweler suggested it to minimize wear. The engagement ring was set with the diamond from my mother’s engagement ring. Lots of history on my finger.