<p>The thing is, by going to UMiss, you do learn and mix with lots of kids from a Mississippi background which would be particularly great for a kid who grew up in let’s say, Manhattan. But lots of the kids at UMiss are gonna be from Miss, just like if my kids stayed at a state school here, they’d meet lots of kids like the ones they went to HS with, country kids from Vermont. Nice kids, bright kids, but all who grew up here.</p>
<p>By going to selective schools out of state, and the fact the most highly selective schools make efforts to diversify the incoming student body…that is something they value…one might get a more varied group to mix with than if staying home at their in state school (nothing wrong with it at all but contrasting it). You seem to be saying that the kids who go to selective schools would really meet more different types by going to UMiss but I don’t agree. I think you are stereotyping kids who go to selective colleges as being all one “type”…I infer you mean rich, white, preppy, from urban areas. Those kinds do exist at elite colleges but there is great variation. Kids come from all over the world which enriches anyone’s education to mix with different cultures and with those who grew up in various parts of our nation. </p>
<p>I also think you don’t realize the different backgrounds one may run into at elite schools. My kid went to a rural public high school and her roomie (who was randomly assigned to her freshman year but will be her roomie for three years so far), went to an exclusive day school in a major city. </p>
<p>You speak of catfishing. While we don’t have catfish in VT, it so happens that my D who goes to an Ivy loves fishing. When she was little, she would push her dad to take her fishing even though her dad was not someone who fishes. She entered the Kids Fishing Derby every June here sponsored by the Fire Department and has won a few trophies for the trout she caught. I have a picture on our mantle of my D at 8 years old, after going fishing with her uncle who lives in Alaska, and catching a king salmon by herself and holding it up, almost as tall as she was at the time. Up the road from us are farms, cows, sheep, horses, and so forth. I think my kids bring their country upbringing to their schools and mix with kids from a great variety of backgrounds and cultures and one of the reasons they wanted to go to selective schools was because they were more diverse than their high school, their local community, and state colleges. Where we live, everyone is white. However, my kids’ have many schoolmates who live in subsidized housing, trailers, very small homes, and so forth. Many of their parents hold blue collar jobs. Now, they are exposed to even more diversity. Actually, it is neat that they have met some wealthy kids. That is also exposure of a different sort. They now know al types. Where they grew up, most were of one religion and my kids hardly knew anyone in this region of our religion and now they have met many of their religion at their colleges. By the way, speaking of fishing, my D at Brown has a good friend she made at college whose dad is a fisherman who also takes out tourists on his fishing boat. When my D visits her, it is a very neat experience to have. Frankly, the meeting of all the students at their colleges has been a big part of my kids’ education. </p>
<p>Recently, when my D went with her Scholars group on a trip to Appalachia, I know it was a contrast for many in the group from where they were raised. Not so for my D. She said it looked just like home and the kinds of people she met there were kinda like from up here. </p>
<p>Anyway, I don’t think one is stifled or less exposed by going to a selective school compared to going to a place like UMiss. I think they do get exposed to different types. I also know that at our HS, my kids were exposed to kids from a wide variety of socio economic backgrounds. Many of their classmates’ parents were not college educated. Some have never been out of our state. I’m glad that had that sort of “mix” in their public schooling. And now in college, they are in a different sort of “mix” and that too is enriching. It is clearly a more of a mix than if they had gone to UVM as many of their local peers have done (great school though) or if they were at UMiss.</p>