<p>Requirements
Out of State (I live in texas if it matters)
In a city with good transit, car being unneccesary
More females (18-24) than males
Big number of students</p>
<p>I’m almost 18 and never had a girlfriend so its very important to me to have loads of opportunites (meaning lots of girls available). I’m fueled by being social, I had pretty much no friends until 2 years ago, still a low number. I really don’t want to drink because alcohol has caused problems in my family. I want to be able to meet girls that want more than sex. You know, an actual relationship. I realized even if two people are in love and one or both of them already lost their virginity, it’d still be special because they’re in love. I myself am still a virgin, I have my reasons, and now it’ll have to wait until college. I can’t focus on work all the time if I don’t have friends, a girlfriend (I could be ok without one for awhile but I’d really love to have a girlfriend, not just a sex buddy, an actual girlfriend). I am a nice guy and not an a hole. I respect girls and would actually talk to my girlfriend/wife and listen to her and ask her how her day was and, you get it. I want to do something where I can help people. People with mental illnesses, any type of disease or disorder. Or create things in the technology/engineering field, maybe. I think it’d be REALLY cool to make a robot. They could take over the world one day, but people are already making them anyway. Maybe I could make it less likely for them to malfunction. Owning a business would be cool too. I will need lots of financial aid. I have $1,300 in my savings, I’m not working, I’m going to school 8 hours everyday. I need 9 more credits now (to make it short all work is done on NovaNet). You graduate whenever you get all your credits. I think my family makes somewhere between $49,000-$59,000. Thats what my parents put on a scholarship app. Some of the colleges in mind I have (I really want to go to one of these, I found out only two are public though, which means the other 3 are much more expensive).
University of Washington (Public)
Portland State University (Public)
Boston University (Private)
Denver University (Private)
New York University (Private)</p>
<p>I think you might experience much culture shock going to NYU. There is no campus really there. </p>
<p>What do you want to major in? What are your career aspirations? You mention many, so you will have to find one that offers majors like that and/or is easy to change majors or take classes in another area.</p>
<p>Maybe Biomedical Engineering is a thought…you can the technical/mechanical work plus helping people with their health.</p>
<p>If you want to find a serious girlfriend, you would be wise to prefer colleges that have an equitable male-female ratio to those that have significantly more females. </p>
<p>Gender-imbalanced schools tend to have more of a hookup culture. All colleges have hookup culture to some degree, but it’s exacerbated by gender imbalances. There’s research to support this fact, or you can just look at what students say about life at schools like Sarah Lawrence or Vassar.</p>
<p>Your insistence on a large campus may also be misguided if your primary reason for that is “more dating options”. One of my nearest and dearest friends is a Ph.D. who studied the formation of romantic relationships. She and I have conversed extensively about the subject, and she would assure you that having too many options can actually be a hostile factor to the formation of intimate love. What does tend to foster love is proximity…physical closeness leads to emotional closeness. A small, residential college where students live on campus all 4 years would likely give you a better chance at a love connection than a big state university.</p>
<p>So if your number one priority in going to college is to find a girl, you’re looking for love in all the wrong places.</p>
<p>But please, oh please, tell me that’s not your number one priority. Tell me you’re more passionate about making robots or owning a business. </p>
<p>Look at it this way: no matter what campus you’re on, you have to actually <em>attract</em> that girl you’re into. And the best way to do that is to be leading a life in which you are happy, fulfilled, challenged, and pursuing your dreams. When you’re doing that, the air around you is perfumed with pure mojo and tiny nanobots march before you gilding your path wherever you go. ;-)</p>
<p>So set aside all your prejudices about which campus is most likely to get you a girl, and focus on which is likely to make you into the best and brightest possible version of you. I guarantee that if you can do that, male/female ratios and campus size won’t matter. Because ultimately, while the statistics may be interesting, the equation of love is rewritten every time you substitute a new person into it. It’s the individual that matters…find a college that is ideal for the individual you.</p>
<p>Can you give us your stats (GPA, SAT scores, any EC/distinction)?</p>
<p>If you need lots of financial aid, look for schools that guarantee to meet 100%need or almost and not out of state public universities…</p>
<p>First of all, run Net Price Calculators.
You’ll find that out of state public universities are not affordable - they exist to serve their state’s students, so there’s no financial aid for out of state students in most cases. Some universities offer very good merit aid, but since we don’t know your stats…</p>
<p>NYU is also very bad at financial aid: run the NPC… and move on because it’s unlikely to be affordable for a 50-60,000 income (In addition, it’s really not conducive to meeting people since there’s no campus.)</p>
according to *****, these colleges have the students who are happiest with their choice and close-knit communities: Vassar, Carleton, Colgate, Brandeis, Grinnell, Boston University.
those colleges also have close-knit communities and/or require a specific “fit” - they’re very different though so check out the websites
Whitman, Occidental, Macalester, Goucher, Rhodes, Hiram, Wooster, Hendrix, Olin, Pitzer, Pomona, Sewanee, Beloit, Rice, Haverford, Butler, Illinois Wesleyan, U Chicago.
The colleges in the “colleges that change lives” consortium
[Colleges</a> That Change Lives | Changing Lives. One Student at a Time.](<a href=“http://www.ctcl.org/]Colleges”>http://www.ctcl.org/)</p>
<p>Romantic relationships are more frequent on close-knit campuses that require a specific “fit”, ie, a specific type of students - therefore, more likelihood to come accross someone who shares values or interests with you, thus, a relationship. For this reason, I don’t think a large campus is a good idea. It’s harde rto make friends, especially if you’re shy - even if, true, you have more people to choose from.</p>
<p>You may want to read “Insider’s guide to the colleges”, “Fiske guide”, “princeton review’s best colleges”. Look for small or medium colleges that you’d really like to attend. Someone who wants to attend that same school is likely to “match” you in several respects. It’ll be good for you… and your potential girlfriend.</p>
<p>DSD, Waxing a bit poetic for a CC forum! ;+) I love the nanobots riding on currents of [not just any kind of mojo but] pure mojo. Reminded me of Horatio’s eulogy for Hamlet: “and flights of angels sing thee to thy rest.” Outstanding work.</p>
<p>Well, if you are in a major metropolitan area, there are usually other universities around. If you want an engineering-heavy school you might find that there are fewer women on campus. Typically Tech schools have about 30% women.</p>
<p>I don’t know what social life in the real world is like, I’ve lived in a SMALL town my whole life, everyone knows you and you can’t recover your rep, I have a rep of being a “loser”. There’s a lot of fake people here. I hate this town. A lot of my friends plan on leaving here eventually too.</p>
<p>I didn’t have the enjoyable teenage years like everyone assumes I had, just because of my age anyone who doesn’t know me thinks I’m the average teenager who parties all the time and has a lot of friends and a girlfriend. None of those things have ever been true for me. If I can’t go to college my life will never get to even start! I’d rather be in debt with friends and a girlfriend/wife then living with my parents still or a ratty apartment, laying on the couch gaming and watching TV all day because I couldn’t start my life. My life quality depends on college!</p>
<p>A place wouldn’t need to have more women than men in order for you to have dating opportunities; it would just need to have a gender balance. (However, there’s very little research on hook-up culture at colleges and universities as it relates to gender imbalance. In fact, one of the most recent papers on it - published in 2010 - could only speculate on whether gender distribution was related to hook-up culture because there weren’t any studies on it.)</p>
<p>Your NovaNet classes are unlikely to transfer to a four-year college you are considering.</p>
<p>If you live in Texas and you need a lot of financial aid, you shouldn’t focus on any OOS publics (UW-Seattle and Portland State). They don’t give a lot of financial aid to non-residents. Neither NYU nor Boston U is known for being particularly generous with their financial aid.</p>
<p>Cartman3000, don’t you have any other more personal reasons for wanting a college? Do you know if you want small or big, urban or rural, regional/geographical location, artsy or technical or just broad?</p>
<p>Also, it’s silly to assume that if you don’t go to college that your life won’t get started, or even that your life quality depends on college. The majority of Americans don’t go to college and get on with their lives; most of them meet others, find jobs, and get married. My brother’s one of them - he didn’t go to college and he dates quite a lot, owns his own house and lives a quite comfortable life. Not to say that you won’t go to college, but your sole purpose in going shouldn’t be to find a partner or because you think your life would be over otherwise - you should go because you want to learn, because you want a BA to find jobs that require one, and because you want to grow as a person.</p>
<p>So what should I do? I’ll freak out and maybe even have an actual panic attack if I try to drive again. And public transportation is very rare in Texas. And on Holidays it’d be a problem going to see my family. It’d be very embarrassing to have to rely on someone else driving me. But if itwas transit I’d be fine with that cause lots of people do that anyway. It sucks how one event can traumatize you for life. I have this thing where if I accidentally do something I have to do it a certain number of times (usualy 3 or 5). I have OCD and I think thats part of it but I think also some kind of impulse control problem could be involved. I avoid even numbers, and avoid doing something 6 times three times, because triple 6 is the number of the devil, even if I was an atheist I’d still avoid it. I’m not really religious but the point is I avoid that number (6 times three times) because it’s the devil’s number.</p>
<p>Most college kids don’t have a car. Most campuses have some kind of bus system to get you around campus and/or to local stores/malls/etc. Most kids don’t drive home for breaks, but take a bus/plane/train or get a ride with someone else who is driving back. You don’t have to be in a city to be able to not need a car.</p>
<p>When I told my parents about my fear of driving from slipping on the pedal and going fast and braking real fast (OCD made me want a thrill), the sudden stopping from going so fast was terrifying. And when I slipped and floored it all the way for a few seconds it’s like I lost conscious control for those few seconds. Those events made me never want to drive again. My dad sdaid I need to get over it and don’t be a wuss (or something like that, he did say get over it for sure though), I said I might need therapy and he said you don’t need to go to the doctor for everything in life. My mom just keeps saying I need to learn to drive and it’s very annoying.</p>
<p>Intrusive thoughts about driving are a common OCD issue.<br>
I have a friend with OCD, and it was hard for her parents to understand as well.
You really should consider therapy/medications. Why? Your OCD is starting to interfere with your life.</p>
<p>I can’t wait for self driving cars, hopefully they’ll become affordable for the average person like estimated (they won’t be available to consumers until 2016-2020 according to what I read). They will bring down the number of car related accidents, which will save life, and that’s wonderful. Too many people drink and drive, pay more attention to their phone, their whole purpose of making self driving cars is to bring down the car related death number. I bet the computer would malfunction way less than my brain lol</p>
<p>I had to go to a treatment center (inpatient) because my OCD was WAY worse and I couldn’t function anymore and was gone for 2 and a half months. I’m on medication for OCD now and am WAY better. But I still have OCD but it is WAAAYY better than it was. Certain rituals would literally take like 6 hours out of my day.</p>
<p>Bollocks. Your life quality depends on YOU and what YOU make of any opportunity that comes your way, including college.</p>
<p>Don’t depend on circumstances to make you happy. Depend on yourself.</p>
<p>Otherwise, you sacrifice your agency to the whims of fate.</p>
<p>And don’t rule out in-state schools if your only reason to get out of Texas is because you don’t want to drive. Thousands of UT Austin students get by without a car. With buses, bicycles, pedicabs and taxis, there is always a way to get around.</p>
(In addition, it’s really not conducive to meeting people since there’s no campus.)</p>