And the ones conmama linked to aren’t remotely super-high, either!
Wis may have been a little “rough” in her statement above, but for those of us who don’t wear heels (which doesn’t mean we only wear “flats” either - many of the “sandals” posted her ARE crazy high! ( a reason I haven’t bothered to post much on this thread - I don’t have the same shoe taste as OP )
There is plenty of place - from flats to heels to look and feel attractive. However do note that there is plenty of research to back the fact that heels are one of the biggest factors leading to foot problems - often permanent - in women. There is also probably a study or two to say that flat shoes all the time do not provide appropriate support either!
Sure, but let’s not exaggerate that those were “crazy high heels” (they weren’t) or that they have to be “suffered” through or the occasional wearing of heels for a special event like conmama’s is going to cause untold pain and suffering and foot problems. It’s just over the top! And wis75 has consistently held the opinion that one shouldn’t bother “doing oneself up” in any manner, might as well let yourself go. Clearly conmama wanted something nice, feminine and flattering for her outfit else she wouldn’t have asked for suggestions.
Absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to look nice - kudos to that 100 times over!
For many (me included) 3 inch and higher heels - just put me on stilts!
My point was mostly that high heels are an option not a requirement to look and feel attractive.
Totally agreed. It’s not necessary to call her purchase “ridiculous” and “horrible.”
And they weren’t even the kinds of shoes where we all say “enjoy” and secretly scratch our heads! They didn’t have dead muskrats hanging from them, or look like they belonged in 50 Shades of Gray. They are pretty basic, classic, elegant heels. They’re kind of a little black dress. One really has got to be quite deliberately fashion-oblivious to term them “ridiculous.”
no, they don’t work with the dress.
Those look great!
While I appreciate your passion, I don’t think heels are ridiculous. They’re sexy. And I don’t stagger when I wear heels. And like @conmama my shoes are DEFINITELY a reflection of my personality 
(whatever facet I’m showing off that day).
That shoe is definitely not ridiculous - on the contrary, it’s quite classic and a moderate heel height. I don’t exceed 3-½" but I don’t call those who do ridiculous.
One question, it looks like that shoe is not leather…I won’t wear synthetic shoes because they don’t breathe and are dreadfully uncomfortable. Plastic = blisters. I tend to avoid silk or peau de soie for this reason (although a few manufacturers back the silk with leather or suede, so the interior part against the foot is soft and breathable.
Back in my early 20s, I bought all sorts of cheap, fashionable shoes and my feet paid the price. Now I won’t buy anything that isn’t quality and fits my particular foot well…so, I stick to a handful of brands.
Why would you need to “teeter around” in high heels? The first time that you put on high heels for an event (when you were a young teenager getting dressed up for something), why wouldn’t your mother teach you how to walk in them, and why wouldn’t you learn what heights you yourself can and cannot wear? Wis75, would you even wear a kitten heel or is that too girly for your taste?
LOL. Those seemed pretty crazy high to me, but then I really feel horribly uncomfortable in anything over 1 1/2" or so. It’s too bad, I know it’s just conditioning, but women’s legs do look better to me in heels. It seems very unfair to me that men no longer wear them. They used to! (At least the fabulously wealthy ones who didn’t need to do real work) See: http://onthisdayinfashion.com/?p=9039
Ok, let’s not get catty.
Here’s how I taught my daughters to walk in high heels (for the occasions that they want to be amazons): in bare feet, walk on the balls of your feet.
That’s it. When you’re wearing high heels-all weight on the balls of your feet.
When you’re walking in crazy heels, don’t put your weight on your heels. If you do, you become like those poor girls on the runway that teeter-teeter-teeter-FALL because they’re trying to balance on those heels.
My mother (a six foot woman) never wore heels. I learned from other models how not to make an idiot of yourself in heels when walking, and the ballet classes I had as a kid (before I became ridiculously tall) helped a lot. It’s ALL in the toes and the ball of your foot.
Hey, I’m glad that I don’t wear heels every single day. These days I’m pretty much living in yoga pants and cover-up jackets, to be honest. But it’s not necessary to go into conniption fits over wearing heels every now and then!
I have to say – it was actually plain old fashioned fun for me to dress up for this occasion yesterday, and that included heels. It made me feel very feminine and put together.
I wear heels the majority of the time. Not necessarily pumps, but booties and boots too. I have Clarks I wear a lot on the weekends. My heels are typically 2 3/4 to 3" high. I find them very comfortable and don’t have to walk on the balls of my feet. Practice makes perfect perhaps? I own no stilettos. Sometimes I get really annoyed because so many cute shoes and sandals are 4" or higher and there is no way I can wear those.
Well dammit, dammit, damn, damn, damn. They are absolutely gorgeous shoes, and too narrow for my wide foot. I can’t even stretch them out…they hurt. AND were only $15. Can’t even send them back as they charge a $6.00 restocking fee and I have to pay to send them back. So, I’m trying to sell them.
I ended up buying these on sale for $40. I had put them above. I really like the platform and they are incredibly comfortable. I can wear to work, also.
http://www.dsw.com/shoe/nine+west+karoo+patent+sandal?prodId=219209&productRef=CROSS
I actually wore a similar dress to DS’s graduation. I think I ended up wearing white wedges.
Since then I’ve bought a nude colored wedge with elastic straps and gold bling from DSW (Anne Klein) that I probably would have worn if I had them … better for trotting across the grass on campus. This year the style is different from my T-strap, but still pretty. For OP’s wedding it would probably be too casual, but I’m posting it for others looking for a comfy medium height sandle. It also works really nicely with tan slacks. http://www.saksoff5th.com/lacyann-wedges/0400087082222.html?CAGPSPN=pla&gclid=Cj0KEQjwlLm3BRDjnML3h9ic_vkBEiQABa5oeSvyT8hQtXCkAoljbRCGDdkUJzi1I8JdZ6myA44g8sgaAgqj8P8HAQ&CAWELAID=120133820000848920&site_refer=GGLPRADS001_OFF&catargetid=120133820000344231&prod_id=0400087082222&cadevice=c
^^Those are not bad, and nobody’s going to be like “what were you thinking with those shoes?”.
The only downside is for people with wide, um, toe bones? ( I don’t know how to better explain this), the horizontal strap NEVER works well because the pinkie bone of the foot always sticks out past that strap on the outer side. I, and my older daughter both have this issue, and younger D can wear these kinds of shoes and look amazing because she has a long narrow foot.
For the wide foot people like me, I like thongs in the center and very strappy sandals that have straps that can go around that pinkie bone.