Exactly how old are you?
@Wellspring Contraception that includes anti-androgens and a tiny bit of estrogen. I’ve found them to alleviate a lot of my gender dysphoria.
@washugrad If I’m home with them, it depends on whether I get home first and get to open the package before they do. I’m not too sure about the L and XL sizes…I think different manufactures have different sizing sizes? I’m not sure…I think I’m a 38.
@Greymeer I’m in my 20s and I’m feeling miserable. I just feel that a lot of people are moving forward in their lives, getting into long-lasting relationships, getting married, etc. I just feel time is running out and so much time and energy has been wasted living someone else’s life.
Are you currently in college? If so, when will you graduate?
@ucbalumnus Recently graduated.
You are older than I assumed from your earlier posts (I thought around 18-19). Are you in a small town? Do you have a full time job? Are you in a conservative part of the US? Can you afford to move out… to move to a larger city?
If it was my child who came out of the closet as transgender, how would I react?
First, I’d probably be really surprised. I’d probably cry. Not out of fear or anger or anything like that…I’d probably cry because I’d want my child to be able to have any easy life. And I’d feel so guilty that my child had probably been so depressed and miserable and feeling alone for so long. My DH would probably have a hard time adjusting. But at the end of the day, I don’t care what gender my kids are. They’re my kids. I love them to the moon and back regardless of what they call themselves or what clothes they wear.
You are going to need a support network. A soft place to land when you need morale support. Transgendered individuals often have problems with various types of addiction because they tend to self-medicate in order to try to push away the intense depression and loneliness. If you have found yourself leaning in that direction, then you need to get connected into your local LGBTQ community in a big way. You need to find people who you feel accepted by, people who you can be yourself with, people who will not judge you.
This will also require you to probably reduce contact with your parents for awhile. You’ll have to reduce contact with a lot of judgmental people. If you’re newly out of college and are looking for a new job, then that is a good opportunity to kill 2 birds with 1 stone.
You are going to encounter a lot of angry and judgmental people as you come out of the closet. But you know what? You are also going to encounter a lot of people who don’t care 1 way or another what gender you are.
If you’re in your 20’s maybe it’s time to think about moving out of your parents house and “living your own life.”
@washugrad I’m unable to move out, for now. But at least I have a job that keeps me busy.
Are you in a city that has any sort of LGBT center… Pride center, etc? Of course you want your parents to be supportive… and hopefully that will come with time. In the meanwhile, I think you really need to start building up a local community of allies. Is there anything like that locally?
@washugrad I don’t think there are any… =(. I’ve also noticed even when there’s a LGBT center, a lot lot of LGBt centers only emphasize on the first three letters. The last one is totally ignored.
Why are you “unable to move out” if you have a job and are in your 20’s. This is starting to sound more like a “faliure to luanch issue” than an acceptance issue. You live at home and have a job and still expect your parents to buy your clothes??? How long do you expect your parents to be finacially responsible for you?
@3scoutsmom I see your perspective. I think there are certain things are not as straightforward as they may seem, and some things are little personal and identifying to be mentioned in an open, public forum…
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