What "hardships" are sheltered kids supposed to write about?

<p>St. Louis College of Pharmacy’s essay says in their prompt, “Explain a time when you overcame adversity and what you learned from the experience.” I’m pretty sure that by “adversity” they don’t mean “My iPod broke and I didn’t know what to do with my life.”</p>

<p>I’m be honest, I’m sheltered. I can eat whenever and whatever I want, I live in the nice suburbs, I go to a good school, and I’m typing on my own laptop. I live with my family. My dad is technically unemployed but we’re still doing fine because of savings. But when colleges ask what hardships I had, I feel pathetic for not having misfortunes happen to me. So what do I write about? The only issue I’ve had is extremely personal, and probably makes me look like a psychopath.</p>

<p>Some experiences that sound (very slightly) harship-y
-Sun allergies in 4th grade, all face and arms had hives and tiny bumps
-Grass allergies in 4th grade, got something in my eye, went to ER because eyeball swollen up and couldn’t close it.
-My dad lost his job
-My brother got a concussion and my dad wasn’t in the country and my mom was busy with my brother so I had to stay at an aquaintence’s house</p>

<p>Please? anything?</p>

<p>Unfortunately, none of the things you mentioned qualify as overcoming adversity. You need to do some more soul searching . . . and if you truly cannot answer the question then maybe you should not apply to St. Louis College of Pharmacy, as they seem to be looking for the kind of student that just isn’t you.</p>

<p>The prompts are to get you thinking. Clearly, right now, you are thinking narrowly: hardship, misfortune. Gibby’s link is great- read between the lines.</p>

<p>^^ I deleted the link from my post, but here it is again: [Dare</a> to Live Without Limits](<a href=“http://www.daretolivewithoutlimits.com/ColDisp-30.htm]Dare”>http://www.daretolivewithoutlimits.com/ColDisp-30.htm)</p>

<p>It really can be a tough question. We used to joke that my daughter would have to write about overcoming the security of being raised in a comfortable suburb by bourgeois and highly educated parents. The freedom from want and worry, the opportunities for educational and personal enrichment…oh, the humanity!</p>

<p>Did you ever have a teacher that didn’t like you? Get in over your head with your schedule? Kid tease you because you have freckles? Not understand a class and have to work extra hard? Those things are all adversity on a smaller scale.</p>

<p>I agree with Sikorsky. Some kids (mine included, who by way of comparison, grew up in NYC with many kids who experienced adversity) just did not have to overcome that much of it in their life – certainly nothing on a grand scale of being poor, homeless, hungry, a divorce, absentee parent, sibling addicted to drugs, displaced from a hurricane, etc. Writing about getting teased because you have freckles, or when a teacher didn’t like you and you persisted and got good grades anyway, when other students have experienced real adversity, is NOT going to win the hearts of an Admissions Committee at any college. When my kids applied to college several years ago, any college that asked the “adversity” question was automatically crossed off the list. And that’s okay!</p>

<p>Thanks for your inputs. I want to agree with gibby, to just forget this college altogether, but it’s a place I really want to get accepted to. This essay prompt is in three parts, and I think I wrote the other 2 just fine. If I go at it anyways, what do you think my chances will be? I have a 3.67 of 4, and a 2180 SAT score with EC’s.</p>

<p>As so much of the college admissions process these days is subjective and comes down to how an Admissions Officer “feels” after reading your essays, teacher recommendations and guidance counselor’s SSR and compares them to all other applicants applying in a given round, it’s impossible to predict what your chances will be. You just have to send your applications out into the universe and hope for the best. Good luck to you!</p>

<p>Thanks so much for the advice!</p>

<p>I’m going to disagree slightly from the other posters. I don’t think not having faced tremendous adversity is a reason to not apply to a school that you would really like to go to. Pick something to write about, and talk about it form a mature and thoughtful perspective. If you’ve never faced any real adversity, that’s okay. Be grateful and mature about it, and explain yourself thoughtfully. Don’t try to create a sob story; just be honest.</p>

<p>When I was applying for graduate school (in counseling), some of the schools I applied to required personal history or diversity essays, where they asked for unique or challenging factors in my background, how they affected me, and how they would contribute to the diversity of the incoming class. There’s nothing particularly special about me. I was middle class, was always able to focus on school, and never really had to struggle for anything. So–and from the responses so far, I have a feeling many will disagree–I wrote about that. I talked about how I was lucky to have a family that valued education, and I talked about the sacrifices that my parents made to put education first in my family–the magnitude of which I didn’t realize until I was older. I talked about how the my parents protected my siblings and I from stressful times–when my dad lost his job, when we had to move, when family members were sick. I was well-adjusted, from a happy home, and I owned up to it.</p>

<p>When I interviewed at the programs, some of my interviewers commented about how they liked my essays–one in particular mentioned how he appreciated what I said about how appreciative I was to have parents who always put education first. This may not exactly answer your particular prompt, since mine was more open-ended, but it is possible to be successful without having faced really compelling adversity (given, of course, that the rest of your application is strong). I interviewed at most of the places that I applied and was accepted to all except one (where I was waitlisted), and my field is very small (the incoming class at my program was six students) so the application process was very competitive.</p>

<p>Also, in one of my interviews, they asked this exact adversity question to one of the other interviewees (we had group interviews), and I thought she gave a very articulate and honest answer about how she was fortunate not to have faced very difficult circumstances and gave an example of a set-back (and not a particularly heart-breaking one) she had faced, how she overcame it, and what she learned from it. I don’t know how it turned out for her, but she was a great applicant so I’m confident she got in somewhere.</p>

<p>I’m not saying that that’s the right choice for you, but that’s just an example of someone who didn’t face adversity and isn’t diverse approached writing an essay about it (and was successful!). Be honest, mature, and thoughtful. Don’t be overly dramatic about whatever story you’re telling, but I’m sure you have something in your life that can demonstrate your determination, your drive, and your maturity. Have multiple other people read it so that you can make sure you’re not coming off in a way you didn’t intend to.</p>

<p>If this is a school that you would really like to go to, don’t let this one essay stop you. It is possible to be well-adjusted and from a happy home, and get into schools like these. It’s only one piece of your entire application package.</p>

<p>Best of luck!</p>

<p>Be creative. You can talk about your adverisities and how they don’t amount to much because you have been privileged. It may impress the adcom that you are honest and aware that you’ve been more fortunate than many.</p>

<p>Just say that you have not encountered adversity, but you know those who have, and that you have learned empathy from knowing them.</p>