<p>Do you argue about your in-laws? The kids? Sex? Money? Which way the toilet paper hangs?</p>
<p>Who usually wins?</p>
<p>Good thing we haven’t even purchased a lottery ticket. He would invest for the future. I would give it to charity. We can’t agree on our dreams!!!</p>
<p>The main thing we argue about is why he never seems to feel it’s important to be on time for anything, yet gets annoyed if he has to wait on anyone else. I still haven’t heard a good explanation for that one yet. Other than that, not too many other repetitive arguments.</p>
<p>We argue about the fact that my husband has a spectacular talent for making me feel invisible in my own marriage. He can talk over me, finish my sentences incorrectly, and go to incredible lengths to forget anything I ever say. That’s the only thing we ever fight about. We’re totally on the same page about money, kids, values and, unfortunately, we no longer have in-law problems, although we didn’t fight about that when we did.</p>
<p>Um, I think some context is needed in order to answer this question fairly. When DW and I were dating the main issue was a long-term flame (smolder?) I’ll just call “Peter.” After we got married it was other things. As we approach retirement, the main “discussion” is about whether one can make the transition from work to retirement over the course of a weekend. Who wins these arguments? Both parties lose IMO … which is why it’s important to keep working to resolve conflicts.</p>
<p>And we can only list one??? :)</p>
<p>^^^My thought also after 30 years of marriage. However, I’D say that long term the biggest conflict has been over how to discipline the kids, with him being the “let them do anything” model, and me being more controlling. It was a great combo for the kids who turned out great. </p>
<p>Now the big conflict is when he will retire. He wants to work for ever, and I am ready to travel the worle.</p>
<p>Mostly kitchen squabbles.</p>
<p>It infuriates me when I am lectured about not bagging the trash correctly, leaving a dish in the wrong place, (etc) or I am ignored when I ask my spouse to move out of my space while I am cooking dinner.</p>
<p>Stupid things. We bicker about things more than true blown up arguements. The few blow ups we have had have been related to money and housework! We are so steriotypical! LOL</p>
<p>Her: “You never listen to me. You always ask me about things I’ve already told you all about.”</p>
<p>Me: “You bombard me with details I don’t need to know, and I can’t possibly remember them all, so I just let you talk, and then later I come back and ask you about the specific details I really need to know.”</p>
<p>Whether the light over the kitchen sink should be on or off.</p>
<p>the thermostat and whether or not the window should be open</p>
<p>I am always hot and he is always cold.</p>
<p>That I am often sloppy in my thinking , a frequent topic .</p>
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Wanna trade?</p>
<p>Hunt- that sounds like a conversation my husband and I would have…except it is the front porch light!</p>
<p>Whether his grandmother’s (broken) dining room table is worth saving. (D does not care how much it costs and has requested it be stored in the basement until she has her own home.)</p>
<p>Whether the exercise bicycle should be kept in the spare/guest room or given away “when no one ever uses it”.</p>
<p>I win. (Both remain where they are and when he revisits I mention that he brings these two things up regularly and we have to agree to disagree.)</p>
<p>We never have one. She is always right.</p>
<p>(Of course, I could be wrong…)</p>
<p>He’s a hoarder (well, a pack rat, really, not like on TV or anything) and I find great joy in throwing out and decluttering.</p>
<p>If we were a cartoon it would be like Tom and Jerry with him sneaking stuff in the house and me sneaking things out to the trash. (we’ve reached the sense of humor stage with most of our differences, at this point in time.)</p>
<p>Things that cause friction between me and the luckiest woman on earth:</p>
<p>When we go to the garden section at Home Depot and I obsess over the ivies.</p>
<p>When we shopped for a television, and I kept asking the salesman which brand had more layman’s prestige, Panasonic, Zenith, or Sony.</p>
<p>When I complain that the “master” bathroom shouldn’t be co-ed.</p>
<p>When I run a red light and ask her to chance me on not getting a traffic ticket.</p>
<p>When I asked total strangers whether it would be better to buy a Kia for $15,000 or a BMW for $50,000.</p>
<p>When I failed two STD tests, and blamed it on just being a bad test taker. I told her when they superscored them, the results were actually pretty good.</p>
<p>When I refer to our kids Henry, Yolanda, and Patricia as HYP.</p>
<p>We have had differenced decideing when we have 'enough" in savings/investments to consider retiring or doing work for a non-profit (low pay/nopay). I thend to anticipate that we need a bigger cushion for anticipated/unanticipated expenses (ie we will help his sister if she needs anything ,and her savings arent as robust as they should be, as she has been very generous with her money; BIL and his family are moochers and poor fiscal planners. I can predict they will need/expect assistance when something does actually happen to them, and they cant care for themselves or their adult children, two of whom probably will never learn to live independently and be self sufficient). So since we will be expected to help them, which in and of itself is a source of disagreement, how much we need to have in savings to be sure we dont outlive our $$ is a source of disagreement.</p>