I understand not wanting a rural school. Try SUNY New Paltz. That is not too rural, there is a cute town, and kids go into the city.
Your mother has people who will travel to upstate NY on a whim? Maryland is closer to you than many SUNY schools.
Keep in mind that you cannot attend a school that does not accept you.
You can find safeties in the south if you want.
Take a look at URI. Itās not south, but might be good to add.
No she has people who currently live there. I donāt really know them well but apparently she has a good enoguh bond to want to visit them this summer and sheās pretty antisocial.
Iāll look at New Paltz. She doesnāt want me applying to SUNY/CUNY but Iāll talk to her about it and try and see if thereās a program or something that is attractive.
I know but she hates the people she knows there. I donāt know how to describe my situation. Weāre from a strict fundamentalist church with a lot of locations. Most of the schools Iām going to apply to are in the north or south by a lot, so hopefully I get at least somewhere. I think in a big city itās easier to hide. I donāt know 
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As for URI when she was looking at brown she said sheād drive/move there with me.
Are you allowed to do community college in another state? Like what if I like moved somewhere, did community college and then transferred? I donāt know if sheād let me do that though. I feel really stuck. I just donāt want to end up somewhere in close proximity and then be stuck. Iāll look at URI though thank you
Iād still have to get these schools approved by her though and sheās picky. Sheās approved of some womenās colleges, Howard, some LACs, UConn, etc. I didnāt tell her about Vermont yet. Iām really trying my best
Ok here is my opinion: apply to a list of reach schools that she approves of. Thenā¦also apply to a few safety schools that you like.
Do not make this more complicated than it needs to be (I know you are not trying to do this). Take a look at some of the schools that have been recommended.
If your mother does not approve of any safeties, you may find yourself without a college and will have to take a gap year.
Everything I thought was a safety per Collegevine apparently is not. Iām not trying to complicate anything Iām just expressing my situation. Whether you believe itās not what Iām making it out to be or what, thatās just the situation I am in. I have looked at some of the schools but they tend to be in extreme PWI areas which Iām not necessarily a fan of. For instance, UVM has a heavy white population and isnāt as urban as Iād like but I still I still added it to the list because the areas at least lgbt accepting
Worst comes to worse I have NJ stars that I qualify for and Iāll just go no contact from there
Have you looked at the schools mentioned above- Denison, Drew etc?
I was not implying that you were intentionally trying to complicate things. That was not my intention.
UConn is not a safety and it is very, very, rural. If you are against rural I would remove it from the list.
SUNY Buffalo is one to add. Yes itās big, but I believe you stand a decent chance of acceptance and it is definitely not rural. Academics are excellent and there are many opportunities. It is also diverse.
Educating āthe whole personā is a big deal at all Jesuit universities.
Like at Villanova, there are course requirements (Theology, which is āhow Humans imagine, write, think about God or Godsā, and Philosophy) which aim at helping you expand your understanding of yourself and the world. The vibe is less religious at Loyola Maryland than at Villanova imho, and all faiths are welcome. You do need to be comfortable seeing crucifixes and priests.
Seconding SUNY Buffalo, Geneseo, New Paltz.
Yes, I have. I already knew of Drew being in Jersey and I have looked at Denison. I search up every school brought up here.
I added it on there because my POC friend went there and she loves it. I thought it was relatively close to Boston? Iāll have to ask her on her experience if there is anything to do around there. For instance take Lancaster, my dad lives in the more rural part. Itās considered rural but you can easily drive downtown and thereās a lot of things in which it can support itself, the main con for me is the negative racial experiences Iāve had. Thereās lots of mini shoppes, a Whole Foods, etc and Harrisburg is an hour away. Iāll ask my friend if she feels stranded, this is also my concern with Wellesley and smith. However, I know my friend at smith regularly goes to Canada/Boston. But thank you for this because I might have assumed UConn was a bit more suburban than it is
My mom has been trying to force me to look at Wheaton or something so Iāll just tell her Loyola is more religious than it is.
At 83% is Loyola a safety or a target?
SUNY Geneseo is reasonably close to Rochester. UConn to Boston is a much longer drive. Both schools are rural.
Are certain rural schools better for you than others? Rochester is a city and it is 27 miles from Geneseo. Not far. Geneseo has a town. Itās not big, but itās very nice.
UB is near the city and is very diverse.
I would take your mother out of the picture. If she has friends all over that will pop in unannounced, that could happen at every school on your list.
Wellesley is neither isolated nor rural. It is in a very pretty suburb of Boston, and there is both public transportation to downtown, and the college runs shuttles to take students to Cambridge (a city adjacent to Boston) since Wellesley students can cross-register at MIT and vice-versa.
It isnāt at all similar to Lancaster except perhaps for the streets surrounding Franklin and Marshall with the nice brick houses and pretty gardens (thatās Wellesleyās vibe). It is a near-in suburb of Boston and students at W are downtown, at museums, concerts, etc. in Boston all the time. There really arenāt parts of Wellesley (or Newton, Waltham, Watertown, Somerville, Allston- all close in cities surrounding Boston) which are rural in any possible way.
Iām from CT. Itās not easy to get from rural Storrs where UConn is locatedā¦to Boston.
I canāt apply to SUNY/CUNY. Iāve mentioned earlier in the thread that my mom just disproves of it and Iāve brought Up Hunter, Brooklyn, Binghampton, even with BSMDs she doesnāt want me at one of those schools.
Last time we had this convo she got upset and I donāt know if sheāll pay for a school she strongly disapproves of.
Iām going to text my friend about UConn. If the campus isnāt self sufficient enough Iāll find somewhere to replace it.
Okay thank you. This helps a lot. If only I had the stats for it . If I got my test scores up would it be feasible or is my GPA really whatās killing everything, even if I explain my health issues.
Thatās fine. Take a look at the other schools that were mentioned. What about Denison?
Oh okay, then Iāll defintely steer clear then. Thatās not the impression I got from it.
From what I found Granville is more red particularly and denville is in a more rural/sparse suburb area. Iām not sure if Ohio is really right for me either. Iāve just always had the perception itās very rural except for Cleaveland and how well Iāll like it
Iāve been to Ohio once I think and I wasnāt a fan
Look at UNC Asheville.
Iāll add that to the list it looks good.
Is very far south would work? How about Rhodes College in Memphis, TN? It is good LAC for prehealth and political science. It is in the city. You neen EA to get scholarship there.
It is difficult to get flights there and your mom canāt drive there often from NJā¦