<p>I am an ugly girl. Most people don’t realize just how difficult it is to be ugly, especially ugly and female. An ugly girl is perceived as having very little value, except maybe as the butt end of a few jokes. I feel embarrassed that I am so ugly, as if it is my fault and it is something I should be ashamed of. There is nothing more pathetic and undignified than a shy, unattractive girl. It’s really quite horrible to live your life with the constant assumption that people don’t want to be near you. I believe that my greatest service to others socially is to be easily ignorable. The ugliness is ALWAYS THERE. </p>
<p>But I’m sick of it. I want to be likable. I want to make more friends more easily, and I don’t want to keep feeling repulsive and unwanted. On top of everything, I’m also shy and socially awkward. How do I make my unattractive appearance less evident through my behavior? Are there any personality traits that would make a hideous face excusable? Is it permissible for me to be friendly, or would that be unbecoming? Should I continue to try and be invisible, or can I somehow make my existence less unsavory? I’m tired of being invisible!</p>
<p>just believe in urself. u’ll b loved if u love urself. (trite, but true) i know a lot of ppl hate how they look, but 2 shy away nd think tht u’re not good enough 2 b seen is not the way 2 solve the problem. no matter how u think u look, u’ll only get far if u show ur personality. forget about how u look on the outside, show off ur inside nd imo u’ll be the prettiest one out there.</p>
<p>aww wow that’s kinda sad, sorry to hear you have to put up w/ so much :(</p>
<p>but um, I understand that you do’nt want to be “less ugly”, but you should realize that you may well be too critical of yourself, and even if you aren’t, there will ALWAYS be someone who will like you and think you’re pretty. </p>
<p>As for your personality, I think a lot of the negative perception you think people may have of you could stem from the personality itself…try being more outgoing and friendly with people, and ignore what people may think of your looks. people who are really worth being friends w/ or boyfriends (etc etc) will like you for who you are as a person more than how you look. </p>
<p>As for making yourself look better…just be honest and see what you think is wrong w/ yourself. If you are seriously overweight (not like you’re skinny and you wanna get any skinnier, that’s just stupid), then consider losing weight. I think both extremes are bad, so just go for a nice middle weight if that’s the case. if it’s acne, well then there’s OxyClean, etc. If you wear glasses, maybe try contacts? there’s no harm w/ experimentation imo, as long as you do’nt cheat yourself on being someone you aren’t.</p>
<p>Well, I mean, I have friends, because apart from being shy, I’m quite normal, but peoples’ first impressions of me are never good. I need to earn my friendships.</p>
<p>i doubt anyone could be ugly enough to not make friends… </p>
<p>But, I used to be called ugly (by my immediate family, noone else though) and since it was from my family, it really hurt. But what did I do? I became more bold and started to force people to look at who I am on the inside instead of the outside.</p>
<p>Now, either I have really gotten prettier or nobody notices, even my immediate family doesn’t call me ugly anymore</p>
<p>FYI, there are lots of ugly girls that grow up to be quite beautiful (like my aunt)</p>
<p>Never mind the first line, didn’t read your second post happy…</p>
<p>hey, i’m a shy person 2 nd i dont make friends easily either, but im happy w/ who i am. i like the fact tht i only have a few close friends. at least i know who’ll always b there 4 me. those tht rnt ur friends rnt worth being ur friends. nd even if they become ur friends, u’ll never b as close 2 them as u wanna b.</p>
<p>May I suggest you consider Mess Rice (Yes, I deliberatly spelled that with an E), Now that is UGLY. Ms. Condoleezza Rice!! Did you know that she’s never been married.</p>
<p>Whats wrong with condoleeza rice? I admire the woman. No offence but i would pick being condoleeza over some anorexic crack whore, whose husband tosses her out on the street after she puts on the baby weight, anyday. </p>
<p>As for the OP’s topic, sweety i think what you need to do is work on your self- confidence. Once you are confident in yourself, you will loose the shyness. It works like magic! Don’t let what others think of you let you down. How ugly can you be, seriously?</p>
<p>Happypoo, I sahll share my perspective with you. You know Jillian, Brian’s attractive but intellectually challenged girlfriend? Would you rather be her?</p>
<p>She thinks every thing on TV is live broadcast, even WW II documentries.</p>
<p>Being overweight
Having acne
and having glasses does not imply ugliness</p>
<p>If somebody feels they are ugly because of these traits, they are seriously wrong.</p>
<p>That’s the good thing about diversity. There are good-looking people, there are ugly people, but either can be pretty or ugly in their own way. Find people who can look past looks, because everyone else isn’t worth your time.</p>
<p>You won’t be able to make any friends if you can’t look past your own weaknesses, so the first step is to tell yourself that are are pretty, even if people are saying you aren’t. Everyone has a trait that somebody else will love.</p>
<p>I’m not ugly because I’m fat, have acne, and wear glasses. I do have acne, but it’s not grotesque, and I take medicine for it. I am thin but not scrawny, and I wear contacts. I also dress fairly well, have good personal hygiene, and behave normally. I just happen to have an unfortunate bone structure. I know that I am ugly and that I cannot somehow magically change that; I merely want advice on how to overcome my ugliness.</p>
<p>just 2 emphasize, its all about confidence. think of urself as pretty or outgoing, and tht’s wht u’ll become. its all in ur head. u may think u’re ugly on the outside, but i dont think ur personality is ugly. let tht show.</p>