<p>To each their own.</p>
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<p>Good heavens, about the last thing I need from my kids is a continual update about where they’ll be and for how long. At what age is this supposed to stop?</p>
<p>It really doesn’t matter what OP’s daughter’s purpose was in informing her of her plans–simple courtesy, a way of revealing the nature of her relationship, or an act of defiance. OP wanted to know what to say to her daughter about those plans–the answer is nothing. Unless a college kid explicitly asks for relationship advice, or a dangerous situation is involved (e.g, an abusive relationship), parental lips should stay zipped.</p>
<p>What would I say in this situation?</p>
<p>“Have fun, be careful, let me know when you get back to school safely.” Any other opinion, I’d keep to myself. I also wouldn’t play the money card. That would just be a great way to turn off the flow of communication. </p>
<p>I agree with Romani. They could rent a hotel in the college town if all they wanted was sex in privacy. I’m thinking they are probably sexually active already AND they want to go the city for a nice dinner and a show or something along those lines. No need to borrow trouble by reading anything more into it, and there’s nothing you can do about it anyway.</p>
<p>Also, this isn’t directed at any poster in particular, but why is it that so many people who were sexually active in college have a problem with their own kids being sexually active? My DH is this way and it drives me crazy. When he starts on it to me (and it’s always speculation, never any concrete information), I always say “WHY go there?”</p>
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<p>Really? You must not be an Investigation Discovery channel junkie like I am.</p>
<p>:o</p>
<p>Haha that’s true, but violent crime rates are far lower now than they used to be.</p>
<p>1 - Be safe.
2 - Have fun.
3 - 10 - Be safe.</p>
<p>I’m glad my kids tell me when they’ll be traveling. I don’t want/need to know details, but I do like to know where they are and when they get back to home base safely. D is better about this than S is, but when S doesn’t want to tell us his plans, he at least tells D… :rolleyes:</p>
<p>Mommaj, both my parents still give their parents a heads up when they’re heading out of town for awhile.</p>
<p>Probably more so that they know to call their cell phones if they need anything… But they still tell them.</p>
<p>It must just be a family by family thing. Based on the responses here it’s half and half. ;)</p>
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<p>Unfortunately the tragic event that just occurred in Boston is an example of why I think it’s a great idea to give a heads up when traveling.</p>
<p>As I said earlier, it’s a scary world we live in.</p>
<p>Just put my 22-year-old daughter on a plane to Peru by herself (she’s meeting a couple of girlfriends there). She said she’ll probably be safer in South America than the U.S. right now. She has a cell phone, iPad, Internet connections. She’ll be in touch every day or so. But you can’t watch them every minute. And you have to let them grow up and fly away. Yes, it’s a scary world. But it always has been. When I was her age, I went to Afghanistan without asking my parents, no cell phone, nothing. You got to live your life.</p>
<p>I think your D was right in letting you know where she was going. You’ve done everything else to protect her that you can. Life can be dangerous, and unexpected things happen, no matter how well prepared you are. That’s just the way life is. I think you are upset because after your “little talk”, you probably thought she would listen to your opinion on the matter and respect your feelings, so you may have been shocked when she decided to go anyway. Personally, I would not be that upset. We were young once and survived. My mother told me that no matter how old your kids are, you never stop worrying about them. It’s like a life sentence.</p>