<p>First, we like the young man very much. After saying yes, of course, what are some other topics that would be appropriate to bring up at this time?</p>
<p>Depends on if it is just you 2 (young man and D’s dad) or 4 of you (couple and parents).</p>
<p>My inclination is just to effusively wish them well and offer support as they plan their future.
Let them bring up any topics, unless you have pressing issues to address.
This is the time for joy!</p>
<p>Congratulations to your family!</p>
<p>Congratulations! Exciting time! I am not sure there is much to say other than to welcome him into the family and express your support. Perhaps reaffirming that you know he will take as good care of her as you have, or something like that might be appropriate. When my DH asked my father for permission to marry me, my father said “your’e kidding”. I dont recomment that (though we laugh about it to this day).</p>
<p>Tell him about your no return policy.</p>
<p>Cbreeze:
Congratulations. Hope your wallet is ready for this.</p>
<p>LOL jym.</p>
<p>Because we raised our kids to be independent, and we know they will follow their convictions with or without our support, I can see a ‘You’re kidding’ come from my H.
Not a ‘Why do you want to?’ type ‘You’re kidding’
more a raised eyebrow ‘You think my opinion matters?’ type.</p>
<p>Just happy to hear that you said yes (25 years ago my dad said no in that conversation… which is a whole separate story for another thread someday…).</p>
<p>Being biblical, say that he has to work for seven years of hard labor then marry her ugly older sister first!</p>
<p>The conversation hasn’t occurred yet. He has taken a day off tomorrow (Good Friday) and has invited us out to lunch without D, who has to work. There will be only the 3 of us. </p>
<p>He is lucky, there is no other sister.</p>
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The dowry.
The pre-nup.
When you can expect grand-kids.
Whose house they are going to spend the holidays at.</p>
<p>j/k! 
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<p>Congratulations!</p>
<p>Happy stories…Thanks for sharing.</p>
<p>Maybe there should be a thread about what not to say.</p>
<p>My daughter’s now fiance called and asked her Dad’s permission. We thought it was cute. Being him, I am sure my husband gave him a hard time. But he would have been expecting it.</p>
<p>I am sure they would have complied if the answer had been no. Ha ha.</p>
<p>You could also tell him you are looking forward to bossing him around as much as you boss your daughter around, and that having an extra set of hands to take care of you is also appreciated. After the awkward silence, you can then yell “congratulations!” :)</p>
<p>I think it is very cool he is taking both of you out to lunch, and I assume he will be asking both of you for your blessing.</p>
<p>H has a hard time remembering our girls’ BF names. He’ll just randomly call them whatever name comes to his mind first.</p>
<p>I can’t imagine my daughter dating anyone who would do this (and I don’t think she’d be amused if he did so). So I guess my response would be, “does my daughter know you’re asking me this?”</p>
<p>Congrats!</p>
<p>I suppose you could ask about time frame for the wedding, whether they’ve talked about when and where and how they want it to happen.</p>
<p>My BIL and SIL said no and then offered to pay for them to go to premarital counseling. They are pregnant with their second child.</p>
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<p>Jym, I actually should be doing the opposite as he is not used to CC’s type of parenting. His parents are the hands off types and he’s a little surprised how much guidance we do for our kids. I really appreciate his independence.</p>
<p>Oldfort, thanks and my H is more generous with his wallet than I am. I will certainly mention the no return policy.</p>
<p>I had mentioned premarital counseling plus a few more recommendations to D and I’ll let her handle it with him.</p>
<p>This summer our daughter will be getting married and last summer my future son-in-law asked my permission to marry her. One of those things you know is going to happen, but just not sure when. We were at a family wedding and during the reception my daughters boyfriend approached me while extending a drink to me and at the same time asked if he could talk to me. He used the sir word in his approach; it was at that moment I thought this guy is shortly to go from being my daughters boyfriend to her fiancé. </p>
<p>For me it was pretty simple; all I asked him to promise me and my daughter (she was not part of the conversation) is to keep God in their marriage and continued to tell him that if he does this, life will be special. There were a few other minor details I had to throw in the conversation too, I had to have a little fun with him. </p>
<p>Family Legend has it that I made him cry which is quite the contrary. He did cry, but to me it was perceived how much he loves my (only) daughter. I will however let the Legend live. : )</p>
<p>Enjoy…</p>
<p>“Ummm…will you guys be self supporting or living on love?”</p>
<p>Congratulations!</p>
<p>My D’s fiance did not ask our permission; my D did the proposing, and she talked to his mom first, which I thought was sweet. She didn’t ask permission; she asked for her support.</p>
<p>My D and her fiance, before getting engaged, worked their way through a book called [Amazon.com:</a> The Ten Conversations You Must Have Before You Get Married (9781552638217): Dr. Guy Grenier: Books](<a href=“http://www.amazon.com/Conversations-Must-Have-Before-Married/dp/1552638219/ref=pd_sim_b_4]Amazon.com:”>http://www.amazon.com/Conversations-Must-Have-Before-Married/dp/1552638219/ref=pd_sim_b_4) . We talked about some of the questions, and I wish DH and I had discussed them before we got married!</p>