Yup I tried. I’m out, too.
I was responding to someone else’s question.
But let’s not take this viewpoint to extremes.
Many college graduates who have the next stage of their lives lined up – whether it’s graduate school or job – have a gap of weeks or months between graduation and the start of the new activity. I think it’s counterproductive to forbid the young person to come home for this interim period.
If your college senior was offered an excellent job with an August starting date and a mediocre job with a June starting date, would you really want the kid to take the June job because you wouldn’t allow the kid to live at home until August?
Out of popcorn. I’m outta here…
I think the posters are on here are focusing too much on how things should be, not how things are. Yes, most kids should be on their own when they’re 18, but unfortunately, 25 is more like the new 18. People in their mid-twenties need a lot more support from Mommy and Daddy than they did before. Sad but true 
1Dreamer, I actually agree with you now that I think about it. Your brain keeps developing till your late twenties, so there is a big difference between a 20-year-old and a 22-year-old and also a big difference between a 22-year-old and a 24-year-old, etc.
Really? do they “need” it or do they “want” it? Like many of the other posters here who are parents now, somehow we managed and most of us did it by sharing an apartment, using hand me down furniture and household items, eating a lot of pasta that we made ourselves and working a lot of hours. Seems to be this expectation of a higher standard of living supported by mom and dad is the issue, more than anything else.
My son was self-supporting and living on his own at age 20. My daughter was living on her own, supporting herself, as soon as she graduated from college (age 22) – in New York city.
Your problem seems to be that you want support from “Mommy and Daddy” but you don’t’ like their rules. As long as you need their financial support, you are still in the role of child, no matter what your age and education.
It’s your choice as to whether you want to strive for independence. Not the economy, not the times… just your attitude and your decision.
I haven’t graduated yet. My goal is to be one of the only members in my peer group who is self supporting right after graduating college. That way, my friends will look up to me.
Really? You expect your friends to “look up to you”?
First, I have to get myself into a position where they have a good reason to look up to me.
calmom Well congratz for your kids. But I was talking how most peoples’ kids are, not YOUR kids.
Have to say…my kids…and I want our friends to be our friends…not feel,the need for the, to “look up” to us.
I mean really…are you going to look down at them because they don’t meet YOUR standard?
No. I would just feel good if I were the most independent of my friends.
My kids’s college friends pretty much all got jobs and supported themselves.
I don’t know what “most” is-- where do you get your statistics?
I think your perceptions are skewed. I doubt that “most” parents are in a financial position to support adult kids much beyond a few months transitional period while they kids find employment and save up enough to cover a deposit on an apartment.
Are you planning to pay rent to your parents and contribute to other household expenses… or do you just want to keep your teenage lifestyle going for as long as you can manage?
Because a Bachelor’s has become substantially more common, which means that the job market has become significantly more competitive, which means it’s much harder to find a job.
There’s nothing special about having a Bachelor’s Degree, so people who have one are going to have a difficult time standing out to employees.
You are just making excuses. The unemployment rate for recent college grads is 5.6% That means that 94.4% are able to get jobs – only a tiny fraction aren’t making it.
Here’s an article published just this week:
Best job prospects in 8 years for class of 2016
http://money.cnn.com/2016/04/21/news/economy/college-graduates-class-of-2016-epi/
Here’s the problem with your logic- there are plenty of jobs. Jobs for people with degrees, and jobs for people without degrees. The fact that more people have degrees has no bearing whatsoever on the availability of job for those who have degrees-- though it probably is somewhat tougher for the job applicants who lack degrees.
Do you have work experience?
Of course I have work experience. Are you saying that it won’t be anything special if I’m supporting myself immediately after graduating?
Your kids and their friends probably got a degree in a field where there are plenty of available jobs(probably some sort of math or science degree by the sounds of it).
Poli sci.
What part of 94.4% of recent college grads finding employment don’t you understand?
It’s not the major that is holding back the 1 out of 18 grads who can’t find jobs.
What’s your major?