Would these be the peers in your affluent community where everyone has a college degree?
Yes.
I am surprised at the parents who are saying (at least here) that moving home after graduation is not an option, even for a short period. A lot of kids I know moved home for a while because they didn’t have a job or even if they did, did not have enough money saved to move out. If they need an apartment in an expensive area, they may not be able to move out until they have saved a few thousand dollars. Some kids (like mine) don’t have a car. They may have to save up for that. Some kids have non-paid internships in the summer and any money they earned in the summer is spent at college.
Kids I know that got high paying jobs, like finance, accounting, engineering, had jobs and apartments immediately… But the kids working in marketing or general business lived home for at least a while. I also know a guy that chose to live home for one of his law school years to reduce his borrowing.
Certainly, there has to be an end date but as greenbutton said, we are a family and if one of us needs a place to stay for a little while, that doesn’t spell failure or dependence.
I moved out right away. I remember meeting some couples before our wedding (30 years ago!) who were buying homes together. Almost all had lived at home until they got married and so were able to put that rent money toward a down payment. I was a bit jealous, but was still glad I was not living home.
I expect that if my kids move home for a bit after college, the rules will be much the same as they will be when my son is home this summer:
-Earn money
-Don’t assume you can have the car whenever (single vehicle family)
-Contribute to the household upkeep
-Let me know your general plans, so I know where to start searching for the body when you don’t come home
-Do unto others - blah blah blah - family version
In fact, other than the lack of curfew and absolute expectation of some sort of earnings, the list is pretty similar to his high school years. Also pretty much what my mom expected of me and my brother back in the dark ages - though I never lived at home for more than partial summers after high school; and he did, multiple stretches.
I moved into my own place shortly after graduating from law school. All my sibs lived at home until they married or got their own place in their 30s. My folks and sibs were fine with either scenario.
All of my sibs had fine jobs upon graduating from college/grad/professional school but chose to save their money toward buying a place of their own.
As was stated above, it’s not a competition and my folks didn’t consider housing my sibs a burden. My H lived with his folks until we were married. They were grateful for his help!
@GMTplus I believe he/she goes to a state college that I know to be mostly a commuter school, so without more info to go on, it’s probably more likely than not that he/she has been living at home, won’t be moving out the day after graduation, and wants to know if there was a change in household rules for others after graduation in terms of curfew, where they are allowed to go, etc.
If that’s the case, I don’t think a college degree means the person has suddenly earned a new, more liberal set of household rules. The day one graduates, they are only a day older than you were the day before. Still living in their house? Still their rules, however reasonable or unreasonable those rules may be.
To the OP, the only way you are going to achieve your goal of making your parents proud of your being completely independent financially right after graduating is to find a job and a place to live as soon as you can. It may not be your dream job, you may have roommates and be living on boxed mac and cheese for a while, but everyone has to start somewhere, and they will be proud. As an added bonus, you won’t have to worry about curfews. 
20 is young to graduate from undergrad. Most people are 18 when they graduate from high school and 22 when they graduate from college, assuming they went straight to college without a break and were able to finish in 4 years.
It’s nice that you don’t want to be a burden. It’s nice that you want to be self supporting.
Honestly…hoping that others will be jealous and will comment about it is really unnecessary. I’d let go,of that thought.
I have a son who will most likely be living with us after he graduates in May. I’m really struggling with this question, because I am not aware that he’s done any searching for jobs, and if he moves home it will be hard on all of us. But we will at least give it a try. Our rules will be similar to things others have mentioned - look for a job, help with things around the house, communicate where you are and when/if you will be home. I’m trying to figure out what we will do of those things are not happening.
Yeah, 21 and 22 are average. I just don’t consider 20 young because when you’re in your 20s, 2 years hardly makes a difference. You can’t say the same about an 18-year-old and a 16-year-old or a 14-year-old and a 12-year-old, but for a 20-year-old and a 22-year-old, there’s a hardly a difference.
Not many students start a 4 year college at the age of 16. THAT is why 20 is young. It’s not the absolute difference it is the fact that is is very rarely accomplished that makes 20 young.
@prpinrni Instead of focusing on unrelated details like the above, why don’t you spell out more specific details of your specific circumstances and concerns so the helpful posters here can be of more specific use to you? You are being extremely vague.
OP, you’d be surprised at the 2-year difference between 20 and 22 for some kids. Quoting a police officer I spoke to once about the change in drinking age (back in the day): Some 18 year olds are mature and wise beyond their years. Some 50 year olds have never grown up. A blanket statement that there’s little difference between 20 and 22 isn’t true. And I can say that having 2 kids who are well past 20 AND 22.
I want to echo what @Momofadult said. I consider it a sign that I did some things right that my older kids are happy to visit and felt comfortable asking to live at home during life-changing decisions. I’d think I’d failed somehow if they didn’t feel welcome, even in circumstances where it really wouldn’t be a burden to me.
Agree, @doschicos , and I also feel there can be a pretty noticeable difference between a 20 and 22 year old in terms of maturity, knowing what you want, life direction, sound decision making ability, etc.
You don’t have to start at 16 to graduate at 20. You can start at 17 or 18 and still graduate at 20 if you’re fast enough.
Our kids are both mature beyond their years in many ways, but both would agree that a great deal of maturity occurs in the teen thru early 20s years.
When posters are very vague in laying out scenarios as OP was/is, all responses will also be vague and or not very relevant to any particular situation.
Will you be graduating college at age 20? If not…why does this matter to you?
OP, you seem hyperfocused on irrelevant details and seem to have at least an unhealthy interest in what others think of you or how you compare to others. You also seem to be unable to see outside of your very narrow bubble.
I ask this in all sincerity- have you seen a counselor? I think it might be helpful.
This thread is the CC equivalent of facebook vaguebooking.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Vaguebooking
I’m out. Adios.
Vaguebooking. I like it.
I try to learn something new every day, @doschicos, and you made it happen at 10:30 pm. I was running out of time. thanks. :))
I’m out also.
Ugh. I’m out too. Best of luck to the OP.
And to the OP’s parents and professors. #:-S
No. I started at 19, and I’ll be graduating at 22, because I decided to take my time.