^^^ I’m also the bad cop most of the time. In good news, I think my kids recognize that I’m put in that role more than I want it.
gouf78 - your words made me tear up a bit. And your take on it, which, after I take the deep breath, are mine. You and lookingforward’s advice is what I’ll take with me to bed tonight. I’m hopeful, but I’m also deeply saddened by it all too. And yes, I’ve taken him to therapy. I am not entirely sure I have the right person, but the first one was an older man who he said felt like a grandfather. The other person is younger, has 17 years of drug counseling under his belt. But I’m just not sure how good he is, but he’s all I have. So back to him for some more talking maybe? Maybe he and his Dad and I go together? Just not sure on that one.