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<p>I saw his earlier post… I just couldn’t resist because the SN fit.</p>
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<p>Is that the eye-candy store?</p>
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<p>I bet in real life this happens more often than you might think. If a new co-worker is good-looking, there could be a sub conscience desire to look better, too – even if a person has NO intention at all of doing something wrong. I think this can happen whether the new person is the opposite sex or even your own sex (even if you’re not gay), because the “office standard” has now been lifted and you might not want to be considered to be low-standard. I remember when I worked in a largely male office (before I became a teacher) and when a new cute girl would be hired, the rest of us females would start dressing a little better - I guess we just didn’t want the comparisons to be so stark.</p>
<p>Jlauer, I am sorry, I stand corrected. I misread the intent of the thread because I honestly thought an “office spouse” was someone you were very married to in the business sense only - in other words, someone you were very, very close to in business, such as a partner, or a long-standing colleague where teamed project work was the majority of the job, or perhaps even a very busy executive and his or her right hand or adminstrative assistant, AND, everyone goes home to their personal lives when the business day ends. </p>
<p>If the correct definition is someone a person works with where lots of personal information is exchanged, then, no, I do not have an office spouse, nor will I ever have one. </p>
<p>In fact, I would be annoyed and offended if I had a husband - or a significant other - who went to work and told everyone - or told even anyone - personal details of our relationship and our home life, good details or bad details. What happens at “home” is private; that would not be very pleasant and I would not like it at all. </p>
<p>I also do not want to hear anything about the detail and minuteau of other people’s personal lives - I don’t mind hearing great news or tidbits about a wedding, or a terrific vacation, etc., but, I cannot stand to listen to someone babble about their personal lives in a negative way, or to use the workspace to talk about problems with their children, etc. That stuff needs to be aired after hours or off the premises at lunch or something.</p>
<p>LTS, there seems to be an excluded middle: with whom to you discuss hopes, dreams, fears, ambitions? With whom do you discuss the effect that reading Rilke, viewing a Holbein or a Bronzino, watching Christopher Stowell dance the role of Mercutio, pondering the parallels between late Roman Empire and the USA today, or the inspiration of seeming Druidical influences in an Easter vigil service has upon you? Never anyone with whom you work? Only your legal spouse? </p>
<p>There’s a vast gulf between discussing private details of one’s primary relationship and restricting conversation to the implications of cell D38 on the lastest spreadsheet from corporate planning.</p>
<p>there seems to be an excluded middle: with whom to you discuss hopes, dreams, fears, ambitions</p>
<p>well since last night was book club…</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/cbs-reveals-identities-of-its-[/url]”>http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/cbs-reveals-identities-of-its-</a>
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<p>TheDad, my worklife is probably the anomoly here because the small group of us travel so much - most of us around the world, and we work very odd, unpredictable hours. </p>
<p>I think the workplace threat to marriages probably is far more likely when you have people who come to work from 9-5, sit at the same desk every day, see the exact same people every day. At some point, people are bound to become bored, or tired of the redundancy, etc. and that is probably fertile ground for chemistries that in turn lead to personal relationships. (I never have time to get bored.)</p>