When everyone is on a different page, how do you handle?

<p>We already are not looking at the same schools for either one. They have completely different lists and majors. DD is not decided on a major, but it will likely be either in the liberal arts (maths/science specifically) or music. She has the background for both. She found out CMU will allow for a double major-sort of…called a BXA. My son is not even looking at CMU. He says he would love to, but…honestly…with his issues, I am thinking not. He did love TAMU, but, again…with his issues, I think he would never graduate. It is important to pick a school where he can get in, be happy at, AND, be successful. I wish wish wish there was help out there for kids with special needs-who are college bound.</p>

<p>My daughter, on the other hand, currently has WashU as her top pick, and then CMU, and Rice on her list, and Carleton. TAMU is her back up, but completely does not fit her personality.</p>