<p>Post 49 made me lol. Thank you, Schmaltz!</p>
<p>H went to Columbia, I went to Howard. I sorta thought Howard was a bigger deal until I come to CC!.</p>
<p>shrinkrap-
If you put just the right slow, nasal, elitist-sounding long “AAAA” in there when you pronounce Howard, it will sound like Haaaaaaaaward, which could sound like… well, you know… that school up in Boston. :)</p>
<p>No thanks! I am CRAZY proud! </p>
<p>And our homecomings are the BOMB!</p>
<p>Go BIsons!</p>
<p>I was married to my husband for a few years before I found out that his father’s MBA was from Harvard. Then my BIL got his MBA at Harvard. I didn’t even have a BS for the first 20+ years I knew them but it certainly never occurred to me to feel inferior to either one of them. In fact, it gives me the giggles to think of treating them differently somehow because they went to Harvard. We’re family! We’ve all got strengths and weaknesses.</p>
<p>When I was in HS a friend’s friend went to Harvard, and I’ll admit… he was a bit on the pompous side (but still a nice guy). I also know a kid who went to Harvard more recently. He is accomplished in many areas, but he is wonderfully modest and friendly. There are all kinds on all campuses.</p>
<p>My cousin got accepted to Cornell, and couldn’t attend because she messed up her financial aid. The most naturally intelligent guy I know (at age 13 he took the ACT and scored a 30) is attending Arizona State. My grandpa, who is in our state’s engineering hall of fame, went to our state school. It really doesn’t matter where you went to school. It says nothing about your intelligence or talent. What matters more is the drive and ambition that got you through life. That’s far more impressive than any name on any diploma.</p>
<p>To answer your question, fauxmaven: DH got his PhD from a world renown, elite school. I got a mere BA. But for years I outearned him, so we were even ;)</p>
<p>My wife has a nursing degree from South Puget Sound Community College. I have degrees from Williams, Oxford, and the University of Chicago. It is quite literally more difficult to get into the nursing program at SPSCC than any of my schools, and no ECs, family money, or social connections will help. Get two A-minuses in the pre-reqs at Harvard, even if you have a Harvard B.A., and you won’t get in - period (unless you take the pre-reqs again at SPSCC).</p>
<p>She also makes more money than I do, which is fine by me, 'cause I wanna retire.</p>
<p>(Wanna make an impression around here, and make use of really good connections? Get a degree from BYU.)</p>
<p>Agree with parent1968. </p>
<p>Does it feel good, folks, to pile on in a group smack down? If this is an example of non-elitist behavior than I think I’d rather hang with elitists.</p>
<p>Have re-read the OP and for the life of me cannot understand how she set off such a firestorm.</p>
<p>I agree. I say “hurrah” for people who have such strong self esteem that it would not occur to them that there are things in life that make others feel inferior. However, we didn’t all grow up with parents who made us think that we were the gift of the earth. My mother was not the warm, fuzzy, you-sure-should-feel-good-about-yourself type. And it took me a while to figure out that I was okay.</p>
<p>My thought as I read through this thread was that you sure could tell who the bullies were.</p>
<p>in re: 71</p>
<p>really? you don’t understand the reactions?</p>
<p>try some substitution . . .</p>
<p>“My H took Calculus and sat with the smart kids at lunch in HS, I took regular algebra and sat with the regular kids. I have often felt somewhat inferior to him . We have a great life ,and 4 wonderful kids . Our youngest just finished HS calculus and sits with the smart kids at lunch, which is why I am thinking about it more these days . Anybody else married to someone who took advanced math in HS and sat wih tthe smart kids at lunch, when they didn’t attend take a similar class?”</p>
<p>Here are two possible replies:
1- yes, I know, I can relate, you still have worth despite possessing what you believe was an inferior experience decades ago, but we are so proud that kid is sitting with the smart children in the HS lunch room
2 - grow up; where you sat in the lunch room in HS isn’t that important</p>
<p>Do you really think that reply #2 is unwarranted? Or surprising? Or something that Dr. Phil Himself wouldn’t say?</p>
<p>In re: 72</p>
<p>I think the OP would have received more love if she hadn’t mixed up her self -esteem issues with HYPed schools name dropping . . here’s a rewrite:</p>
<p>"My H went to better schools than I did, and it still bugs me years later because it makes me feel somewhat inferior to him. We have a great life, and 4 wonderful kids. Our youngest also going to a better school than I did, which is why I am thinking about it more these days. Anybody else have these kinds of inferiority issues tied to what happened decades ago?</p>
<p>But the OP just couldn’t make this about her problem w/o going Ivy League . . .</p>
<p>I don’t spend a lot of time evaluating the posts of others. There are a couple of posters who I never agree with (not on this thread, however) and I just skip their posts.</p>
<p>When I read the original post, it struck me as someone thinking life through the years and doing a little reflecting. As someone from the Midwest, the Ivy League schools were always just a novelty. No one put much thought into where people went to school. However, I still see how others like to put people down based on where they went to school–or who they sat with for lunch, how much mioney they make, how big their house is, etc., etc. </p>
<p>I don’t let others dictate my self worth, but it is an issue. THAT is what I thought this thread was addressing.</p>
<p>MODERATOR’S NOTE: I am closing this thread because it is not serving a constructive purpose at this point.</p>