<p>I’m sure we all have ponder this question at times. I mean when do you put the moves on someone you like? Sometimes its just deceptively hard to tell whether or not they are interested. Because you don’t want to: a) embarass your ass, b) make it awkward for the other person, and c) have person never speak to you again.</p>
<p>Isn’t the old saying… three strikes and your out (meaning that by the third date if you haven’t kissed/ gotten physical w/ the person nothing will happen).</p>
<p>“Isn’t the old saying… three strikes and your out (meaning that by the third date if you haven’t kissed/ gotten physical w/ the person nothing will happen).”</p>
<p>If there hasn’t been kiss action/physical flirtation by the third date, chances are she isn’t feeling you. Move on.</p>
<p>the toughest part is breaking the touch barrier. You gotta start somewhere, even if it’s small like putting your arm around her or holding her hand. If she doesn’t push you away then you’re ok and maybe you should try for a kiss at the end of the date or the next date. If you’ve been on more than 3 dates with someone and haven’t established any sort of physical contact at all, I think you’ve moved or are moving into the friend stage rather than the boyfriend stage. </p>
<p>(on the first date, my boyfriend & I went bowling. When it was my turn to bowl, he sat down in the middle of the set of 3 chairs, then put his arm out over the back of one of them. So, I had my choice… sit in the chair with his arm around me, or not. I chose the one with his arm so he knew I was into him)</p>
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<p>wow, that is genius! simple, yet effective!</p>
<p>yeah…and if you plan on getting any sort of physical - even if you just want a good night kiss, don’t wait til the very last second to initiate some sort of touching. try brushing hair out of her face, letting your hands brush against each others a couple times then gently grabbing hers, holding the small of her back in a crowded space, gently tickling her - even something as simple as fixing the tag on her shirt establishes SOME kind of touching, and therefore makes good byes a lot easier - you won’t hesitate so much to hug or kiss someone that you’ve been touching for the past 3 hours as opposed to someone you’ve just sat there and looked at! some of the most akward dates i’ve had involved guys that i wanted to kiss, but since they didn’t respond to anything i did, or initiate anything on their own, i just played it cool and said goodbye…only to find out that they thought I was the one who wasn’t interested! crazy!</p>
<p>you do it like this…</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfsHVfbiojs&search=blind%20date%20parody[/url]”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfsHVfbiojs&search=blind%20date%20parody</a></p>
<p>when they are drunk and can’t say no.</p>
<p>That was freaking hilarious.</p>
<p>^^If a girl ever treat me like that, I think I’d run the other way and leave her somewhere.</p>
<p>x/ When the other person is ready and doesn’t mind at all. =P</p>
<p>See the problem is… I’ve gone on two dates with her and both have gone very very well, but yet nothing has happened. We both have had some def. eye contact at moments and deep stares into each others eyes. She also def. wants to go “out out again”, since she told me to call her. I mean what hell does this all mean.</p>
<p>It means that you’re too chicken to initiate physical contact. Staring deep into the other’s eyes is not physical contact! You need to touch her… hold hands, touch the small of her back… something, anything & soon too before she gives up on you & moves you into the friend catagory of her brain.</p>
<p>o_O Man, what do you guys do after the date? You go your way and she goes her way?</p>
<p>=P I’m confuse, is she your girlfriend or not? >/</p>
<p>Ya Pearlinthemist I know thats not physical contact, that is obvious. Your right I should do something soon, otherwise its too late and i’m f-ed. Punkiie she isn’t my girlfriend (or at least not yet), I mean when the date ended she looked like she was going to hug me, but didn’t, it was the same on my part. So she went her seperate way and I went mine. But she told me she had a “good time and wanted me to call her again”.</p>
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<p>What if sweaty palms hinder you from trying to touch her.</p>
<p>Then prior or during the date you put antiprespirant on your hands.</p>
<p>I think that the rule of 3rd date is silly. Before you initiate physical contact you should really consider how long you’ve known that person. For some people, it is very easy to get going with a total stranger on the 3rd date. For others it is more of a trust issue. If a girl doesn’t throw herself all over you after you’ve known each other for 2 weeks and dated for 2 weeks, this does not mean she is rejecting you. Some people are more physical than others. Some people do not like to be touched very much even by their good friends. There are many people who really dislike being hugged and kissed even by their own family members. Lack of physical contact on the 3rd or 4th or 5th date does not constitute a rejection. It doesn’t also mean that the girl or the guy is totally frigid. An obvious statement of rejection constitutes a rejection. I suggest not orienting by subtle hints here or there but by simply asking something of the sort “Do you like me?” and then watching how the person responds and hearing what he or she has to say.</p>
<p>if u suffer from sweaty palms, dont make a fist often with your hands. keep them open so they can air out, and dry/wipe them on your jeans or something right before you go to touch her. always end a date with a hug and always bring her to her door of her house unless she drove to the date and you did too or something.</p>
<p>to the advice just given. </p>
<p>no.</p>
<p>seriously? “do you like me”??? maybe if you write it in a note with a circle yes/no/maybe option as a (somewhat overused) attempt to be “cute”, but asking that question verbally only confirms the fact that you have no confidence.</p>
<p>the worst thing that can happen is you’ll get rejected. in which case, move on because you have just saved yourself a lot of time, money, and anxiety/pain.</p>
<p>she’s out on a date with you- she likes you. what you really want to know is “do you want to get physical with me?” again, don’t ever ask that ****. assume that she does, be your (hopefully) funny/charming/good-looking/witty/intelligent self, and then kiss her because you know she’s been sweating you all night.</p>
<p>i mean… it’s all about confidence. respect if she doesn’t want to get physical with you- move on. chalk one up for the friend (maybe?) column, and walk away.</p>
<p>girls can read neediness like comic book guy reads comics. so don’t give them any material to work with</p>