Probably at my parents’ current home in Wisconsin, unless my sister wants it (and/or unless my wife doesn’t want to live there. hehe)
The dream would be to retire somewhere along the Ligurian coast of Italy. But… visiting is fine too.
H’s GP split retirement time between 2 states, both across the country. They eventually stayed in FL. GM ended up with dementia and GF went to assisted living after she passed away. The 3 children would have someone there every month - my in laws flying clear across the country every quarter. After they retired, they decided that they’d be best off staying here. It’s good for us and SIL because with their failing health it’s a 10 minute drive instead of 5 hour flight.
We are fortunate because I don’t see the girls living anywhere but the PNW, so they can take care of us in our declining years, haha.
Seriously, it is a quandary for all of us as we age and our parents age more and the kids need to be where the jobs are.
We are in suburban DC but will head back to the midwest. We plan to spend part of the winters in Florida.
Unless I win the powerball and then I’ll be in NYC.
We live in a very affordable area but it is not the most exciting area. One dd is three hours away and she has our only grandchild. Other dd lives far away in NYC and I don’t see her moving back this way in the future. I think for now we will stay here as we are close to a major airport (important for dd #2) and can make it to dd #1’s house without to much trouble. The winters are snowy and cold but I think we will just travel and rent somewhere. Our wild card is my dh’s parents who live 7 hours away. I think if something happens and they can’t live alone anymore, dh will want to move to their place. It would be hard to make new friends but if we do move there, I hope I can convince myself that it will be a new adventure. The only other downside is dd#1 would be a full day drive away. Maybe I can just hide the grandson in my suitcase…
@rockvillemom "…One of my observations - and this is based on other family members and parents of my friends - is that elderly people delay moving too long. Better to relocate when you have more energy/stamina/mental faculties, not less. It only gets harder as you age…
So true. I only see one glaring problem with your plan. You keep mentioning moving your mother to NC. Hilton Head is in SC. 
I love where we live. I was born 45 miles from here, went to college etc. in this state (VA). Weather is nice. My children grew up in this 3200 square foot two story house.
I have started the dialogue about getting a one floor home but I’d like to stay in the area. Things might change when my children have finished college. Youngest son will graduate from high school next year so we can move out of this school district if necessary.
I’m one of the few NCal folks who can’t wait to get out - we’ve lived here 20 years so have done well on house appreciation, but politics and general cost of everything really annoy me. My biggest issue is with the housing stock - can’t stand the California ranch - I’m more of a colonial or Georgian style person. Would love to move back to Tx but don’t think hubby can take the humidity. So, probably AZ or Utah or Nevada.
@OspreyCV22 - too funny. S1 lives in NC and we always stop to see him on our way to and from HH. So yes, I know HH is in SC, I just mentally lump it in with the stop in NC.
No doubt right here. But watching this one little section of condos across the river that please me. The light is
right and there is only one little hill to climb to flat land with restaurants and such.
The $$ will no doubt be a wash. The condo will cost a bunch and then I will need to remodel.
But I can see this happening in about 2-3 years.
D is moving back in a year with her H and a baby no doubt on the way.
This area is one they would be interested in for their future.
So about 8 miles from here now.
OTHERWISE, San Diego here we come. Love the weather.
We’ll be staying right here. In fact we are retired and here we are. Both kids live here so why would we go anywhere? And I wonder about going somewhere warm during the cold winter months. If we went somewhere, what would we do all day, every day? I’m not one to lie on a beach. And all my favorite activities happen here in the winter months, wouldn’t want to miss those. The real problem will be when one of us can no longer manage stairs. But I have pledged to my daughter that we will not fight her when she says it’s time to move. We’ll see if we remember when the time comes.
That’s another reason we don’t need to move from our house, we have a California ranch on 2/3 acre, no stairs ever. All the new homes in the Bay Area are 2 storeys on postage stamp size lots.
@cbreeze Just a clarification. Due to the dot.com money, there any many new homes being built in on large sized lots where the CA rancher gets demolished and a new mega-mansion is built.
Unless you purchase 2 adjacent houses to be demolished, the average lot in the Bay Area is not big, perhaps 4-6K sq. ft.There may be a mega mansion there but the lot is still relatively small. I should say I am excluding Atherton and Hillsborough and parts of Menlo Park, Los Altos Hills, Palo Alto where they do not have average sized lots
@ChoatieMom may I ask what city in AZ you found your new community? My H and I have been considering Scottsdale for retirement. My sister already is retired in Mesa. We would be moving from SoCal which I would consider staying in but the taxes are getting out of control.
@cbreeze you said “all” new homes. There are many more “excluded” communities besides the ones mentioned by you. Also, much of west Menlo Park, Los Altos, Los Altos Hills, Portola Valley, Woodside, etc. are 10,000 SF lots or more. Even some of Mountain View, Gilroy, Morgan Hill, etc. And then there’s Marin, Sonoma, Napa, etc. of course.
@sushiritto, if you wish to be so technical about “all”, may I remind you that Gilroy, Morgan Hill,Marin, Sonoma, Napa are not considered Bay Area.
Please don’t remind me of info where you’re wrong. I’m not going to argue about whether the counties of Marin, Santa Clara, Napa, Sonoma, etc. are part of the SF Bay Area. They simply are. Just look at the wiki if you need help. You can’t have lived here long, if you think those counties are not part of the SF Bay Area. X_X =))
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/San_Francisco_Bay_Area
There’s simply plenty or many lots in the Bay Area that are larger than “postage stamp” size. And because of the Silicon Valley building boom, old ranchers with large lots are being demolished for new homes.
For us locals in the Bay Area when you live in Sonoma, Napa and Marin, one just doesn’t say to another local that you live in the Bay Area. You identify yourself as living in Marin or Sonoma or Napa.
I live in an updated old rancher on a large lot…for 40 years.
I’m out of MA winters by 2030! We also have a house in Maine probably about an hour from @MaineLonghorn and Portland. It might as well be MA and most Maine folk would call it northern MA as there are so many of us Massholes. I want Cape Coral, FL. Well at least I think I do and love the thought of living on one of the canals leading to the ocean. Depending on if my kids stay local, we will either get a small lake house in MA/ME/NH and spend the summers there. I have the complication of needing permanent residence is a state that doesn’t tax pensions - both MA and FL fit that bill.
Well I’m a local, have been a very long time, and the Bay Area is the 9-county Bay Area, which also includes Alameda (like Oakland, Fremont, Pleasanton, etc.) and Solano too. Your definition of the Bay Area is not only incorrect, but insulting to those who live in Marin for example.
And while San Joaquin County isn’t “technically” part of the Bay Area, many many many folks who work in Silicon Valley commute from/to San Joaquin County. Some take the Ace Train, some drive. The reason I mention San Joaquin County is because I recently visited a subdivision of 58 homes in Tracy, CA, 54 of which had 10,000+ SF lots and four 1-acre lots.
It’s a mischaracterization of the actual 9-County Bay Area, to not include Marin, etc. and a mischaracterization of the size of the lots to say all or even most lots are “postage stamp”.
My apologies to others for taking the thread off track. Back to your regularly scheduled programming
^can you 2 old time [60years for me] bay area residents give it a REST?
who really gives a rats ass which counties are “technically” in the “Bay Area” or not???
sheeeh…