<p>You know, I am not sure why the questions stunned her because they weren’t ridiculous or odd in any way - quite what you might expect if you thought about it - but I think there is a huge difference between doing practice interview role playing with her acting coach who she loves and trusts and feels safe with, or with me, and these intimidating REAL schools, especially after a scary and new experience and 10 hours of road time in the past 36 hours.</p>
<p>I’ll add more to this post as I think of them. Yes I was there, but I really didn’t want to answer for her because first of all Soozie and others have said it’s really best if they speak, and I agree, and also, if I speak for her she won’t learn to. I DID speak up when I knew there was a good answer that she was just simply too overwhelmed to remember.</p>
<p>Let’s see. If they called her back and she’d never contacted the school before they didn’t expect her to know about the school and were happy to tell her about it: but one thing she did, because the girl at the Welcome center suggested that it was okay to do this, is she approached a couple of schools that were on our list that did not call her back (when they had nobody else sitting there) and said, “hey, she didn’t actually get a callback, but she is interested in your school, would you mind talking to her” and they said “sure!” (the girl had told us some of them would be like, If we wanted to talk to you we’d have called you back, and others would be happy to. Nothing to lose by asking.)</p>
<p>In those cases they wanted to know exactly why she was interested in that school, and she had to fumble around to remember what that was because the truth is, none of the schools stick in her mind real clearly until she visits them. We have a list and all of the schools on it are schools that she has looked at their online info and thought it might be a good match for her, but except for one or two, if she hadn’t visited, it was hard for her to remember the specifics. It’s like they are in her mind as “schools I know from the visit”, “schools I know about even though I haven’t visited”, and “schools that are on my list that I liked but now I can’t remember why.”</p>
<p>It’s that third category I would suggest working on.</p>
<p>(part of this is because she has NOT had time to prepare for this as much as would have been ideal…she’s barely had time to shower…)</p>
<p>She did approach one of the only-takes-ten-kids-a-year schools and asked if she could visit and they were very nice. The reason she was interested in this school was specifically because her coach told her she thought it would be a good fit, the reason being that D has a lot of dance and this particular school is very big on dance. So they asked her about her dance and I could tell whenever they liked her answers because their ears all pricked up like cats and their eyes flashed. They liked that she could tell them which school of ballet theory they used. They asked what her strength was and that is an answer that is hard for her to say, in a way, because it’s hard to evaluate your own self: it’s not that she wouldn’t expect that question but I don’t know if she’s really figured that out yet.</p>
<p>So I would suggest knowing that. Maybe she should ask her school’s director, “hey, how would YOU answer that about me?”</p>
<p>Another question they asked her that she has been asked before and again, it’s hard for her to say, is “do you think you are a singer who acts, an actor who sings, a dancer who acts,” etc etc. I mean, she did answer that, but I think she needs to really analyze and just be a lot more sure of why she thinks what she does.</p>
<p>A question that really threw her because she just doesn’t have a good answer for it really, is, “what else is in your repertoire?” (we think they didn’t like her song selection, because when she finally found her tongue, they seemed to like the ones she listed better than what she did.) But you see, she doesn’t have this nice little notebook of two dozen Broadway songs she’s done because her drama teacher only finally just THIS year gave her a leading role with a song (because she wouldn’t give her any big roles at all until she practically quit dance, because her teacher thinks dance is a waste of her time, which, don’t get me started) and though she’s had voice lessons for 4 years, she only JUST this past year decided to quit pretending that she was going to do anything other than theater; so most of the songs she’s learned have been popular songs, not Broadway.
And apparently the few Broadway she did learn on her own, were wrong. She told them she had done “Maybe this time” and they tactfully said that was quite an interesting choice. I think she was just intimidated to say “well, I’ve done “lullaby” by Billy Joel and “a Thousand Miles” by Vanessa Carlton.” If they didn’t like that she did “Maybe This time” they’d probably have hated those. (maybe - or maybe not - that is something else she needs to be more confident about.) But see - what does that have to do with her potential to learn how to sing well? All her song choices mean is that she hadn’t had the fortune to have run across someone, anyone, tell her what was “wrong” and “right” to sing yet, and that’s hardly her fault. As soon as she did discover there were “rules” she started learning them. Maybe I am misinterpreting their reactions - I don’t know. </p>
<p>But I would be really well prepared to explain any odd choices of repertoire if you don’t happen to have a big list of vetted Broadway songs.</p>
<p>What we wanted to say was something to the effect of, “look, we are fully aware that she’s not much more than a rube who fell off the turnip truck out here in a podunk nothing town that cares for nothing except football, who has to skype with her coaches from New York because there is nobody within a two hour drive of us who knows the first thing about any of this, okay? We KNOW she must seem horribly backwoods to you, because, she is! She knows NOTHING except what her coaches have taught her starting in August! But she’s so hardworking and she’s fought so hard to acquire the teaching she has gotten and she WANTS to learn everything you will teach her, really really really she does!!!” I mean, it’s as simple as that for us. She didn’t know any better. Now she does and is working as hard as she can to catch up.</p>
<p>But, she was just too dazed to articulate all that, and I don’t even know if that would have been the right thing to say or not. But really it’s the truth. Thank GOD we did get her coaching because she does feel she did well and obviously she did do well because some schools did call her back. So nothing to be ashamed of at all…but she started from behind compared to a lot of kids and she is fully aware of this. But you can’t really go in saying that. It sounds bad.</p>
<p>So I guess you need to really know who you are when they ask you “who are you” and that is not always an easy thing to do.</p>
<p>I’ll post more questions as I remember them. She and I will discuss it more as soon as she recovers. </p>
<p>:-)</p>
<p>I’m sort of pouring my heart out here so please excuse if anything I say doesn’t sound exactly professional. But you all know how this field can be and how it can yank your heart around - that’s part of it and the kids (and we) have to know that’s part of it and take it all in stride. We did get some WONDERFUL advice and information from everyone we talked to. Everyone, even the school who was surprised at her music choices
was nothing but kind, supportive, helpful, and encouraging, and I’m not just saying that, they really were. I really felt like they were all searching as hard as they could for a reason to call back, rather than a reason not to. IF, you could get their attention. I think just standing out from 220 kids is a big part of it in this kind of experience, maybe bigger than we realize sometimes. I don’t know how they managed to stay focused from 8 in the morning until almost 5 on all those kids one after another - I am in total awe of the auditioners. As hard as it was for us, it must be insanely grueling for them, and I expect it’s their training and years of experience that lets them carry it off with the grace they do.</p>