<p>Hmm… I didn’t think it was “dislike”, but more of, the two rarely ‘click’ with one another. Personally, I don’t group people by ‘cool’ or ‘nerd’… it’s kind of High School.</p>
<p>EDIT: Sorry! I didn’t know it was a necro’d thread.</p>
<p>I don’t know whether I’d be considered introverted or cool; most people say I come off as harsh or **<strong><em>y. Mostly *</em></strong>*y. I can be very in your face and snide. Anyway, I don’t dislike anyone; I love everyone. I just find “nerds” and people who don’t like to have fun extremely boring so I don’t associate with them.</p>
<p>Is this the high school life forum? I thought I was in the College Life forum.</p>
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<p>OP presupposes a false dichotomy between ‘cool kids’ and ‘nerds and inverted people’.</p>
<p>question is redundant anyways
nerds/introverted people are cool kids</p>
<p>I thought I’d chime in here. Shouldn’t we be past the cool kids / nerds labels? College isn’t like high school. Just because certain people are more outgoing, social, and into partying doesn’t make them cooler than you. I don’t think we should keep defining ourselves based off of labels that should’ve been behind left in high school. </p>
<p>I’m an introverted person by nature. But as I’ve grown older I’ve learned that this isn’t something to be ashamed of. I’m not socially awkward or unacceptable in any way, I just enjoy spending my time in different ways. If we keep letting only ONE type of person set the bar for what is “cool” than we are severely limiting ourselves in terms of figuring out who we really are, and finding like minded people without the constant looming thought that we need to change ourselves. </p>
<p>Just because I don’t enjoy clubbing and partying on weekends doesn’t make me a nerd. I love studying, I love being in nature, I love intellectual discussions and art. When I find people like me, I think they’re the coolest people ever. So OP, get over the stereotypes that shaped your high school experience and start living for yourself. :)</p>
<p>Well said, surfer. I made myself miserable for a few days this summer after spending some time with an old high school friend who was recounting her first year at college – she had something to do every night, was always out and about, didn’t do anything without her friends, etc. Listening to her talk I felt like such a loser, because while I’ve made some great friends and had some great experiences at school, I also spend a fair amount of time alone. It took me a few days of brooding to realize that I spend the amount of time by myself that I do because I LIKE spending time by myself. I’m perfectly happy with the way my life is, and if I didn’t have at least an hour or two by myself every day to unwind, I would be totally miserable. Like someone said upthread, all being an introvert means is that you need “me time” to recharge. As long as you’re not a total hermit, and are legitimately happy and fulfilled by the amount of social interaction that you get, there is no “wrong” level. Everyone has different needs.</p>
<p>That said, yeah, some extroverted people (not necessarily “cool kids,” I’ve known a lot of extroverted dorky types) tend to have a really hard time understanding that introverted people legitimately like spending time alone, and can be jerks about it. To which I say, whatever. Some extroverts think people like me are boring and reclusive; I think some extroverts are obnoxious and needy. It goes both ways. Just do what makes you happy and don’t worry about what other people think of how social you are. As long as you’re happy, be happy with that.</p>
<p>There is an orange train on the television.</p>
<p>Clearly “cool kids” dislike “nerds” because that’s one of the aspects that make them “cool”. It’s as simple as that. It’s a bunch of high school bull****. Where do most those “cool kids” end up? Nowhere, so don’t worry about them.</p>
<p>Nerds or geeks are generally disliked by “cool kids” or even by society because the nerd by nature has less of a connection or empathy/compassion with people. This is why they are really into video games/technology. They are more entertained by the machine than they are with people. They do not feel and can’t identify with what other people are feeling, they do not feel others pain.</p>
<p>This also relates to what makes people “cool”. In general the “cool” kids are the nicest and the ones who feel most connected to others. Now this is just a generality and can be refuted by numerous examples I know, but in general terms these observations are absolutely correct.</p>
<p>I will share one example of how I came to this conclusion… in high school I was friends with the popular kids and never really had much interaction with the nerds until I took a pre calculus class my senior year. We had these graphing calculators that you could program and one day this “nerd” asked if he could transfer a really neat program to my calculator. Once he did I learned it was a trick that completely locked out my machine and required me to hit a certain button 200 times in a row to get my calculator to come back on. I was not happy, did not think it was funny and made my opinion known, but he did not care. He had zero remorse and did not feel anything about the fact that I was upset, he just laughed about it with his freinds. </p>
<p>At that point I knew that is what made me and my friends different from him and his friends. At the very least if one of my friends did something similar they would at least say sorry and have some sort of reaction to me being upset.</p>
<p>^^^</p>
<p>I have a feeling that you are a HS student.</p>
<p>“Cool” kids or extroverts don’t spend time hating introverted people. They don’t spend any time or energy trying to hate or ignore you.</p>
<p>Your simply ignored because you’re not being social. Its as simple as that. There isn’t a conspiracy here.</p>
<p>There is no such thing as cool people in the college world man. Sure there are people that think their crap doesnt stink, but you know what karma hits those people at some point, most of them shape up eventually. Trust me I was a bit nerdy in high school, didnt really go out much, not alot of close friends. In college I was 6 hours away from home and I got to start over, I met alot of people and made alot of friends. I went out/partied every weekend, one of my best friends that i met was someone that would have messed with me majorly in HS. The lesson of the story is, that cool kids you refer to have problems too, we are all human. They worry about being accepted and loved like everyone else. They worry about their family and grades and everything, just like you…they just choose to handle it differently. They are great people man, they just have to wear a mask because they are concerned that the real them wont be good enough for their friends. But to help you out, a little empathy goes a long way man, talk to people. Sit next to a girl in every other class, genuinly act interested in them(but only intrested in one or two lol) and strike up a convo with the guys too…invite them to lift or to just play video games or something. Remember take the time out to get to know them and be yourself and care for them, some people will not like you, but most will if you just you know talk to them and take the time to be a friend. You would be surprised about how alike you are with someone youd consider cool man. </p>
<p>Getting off my soapbox!</p>
<p>Cool kids wouldn’t dislike nerds. :)</p>
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<p>Why do you care how other people live their life?</p>
<p>what kind of nerd makes a new account just to bring back a thread from two years ago? smh</p>
<p>I love nerds who don’t give a ■■■. But I hate nerds who take everything too seiously.</p>
<p>What does “cool” mean to you, anyway? Do you mean the “popular” people? Honestly, I find many of those types uninteresting and “cookie-cutter” (no offense).</p>
<p>Actually I graduated from high school in 1994.</p>
<p>I really don’t think being a “nerd” in college is a bad thing. I’m not in any sense a nerd, but I am a math major. I don’t even necessarily believe there are such things as “cool people” in college…</p>
<p>Popularity is much easier to achieve in a crowd of <2000, not 20,000 at my school. I’m pretty sure the smarter you are the more you’re respected in college because college is a place of learning, not really about drama and childish stuff that occurs in high school because people are so emotional. </p>
<p>You can meet someone who is a butthead from any kind of persons. I would think that when most people get to college they start seeing their peers as “people” rather than “jocks” “nerds” “geeks” etc.</p>