<p>cupcake, I’m not sure why you are insisting on being right here. You say there is no possibility for a romantic relationship for you (for various reasons). We say that there might very well be, based on anecdotal evidence (our own eyes).</p>
<p>If I were you, I’m not sure I’d want to win this argument. But it’s one you can definitely win if you’re determined enough. You set the terms of your own life.</p>
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<p>So true. You can focus on what is unavailable to you (the many guys with strict/narrow and high standards for physical beauty) or you can ignore those people and focus on those who are more open on the physical appearance front (which you will find be having an open attitude toward the possibility of romance in your daily life).</p>
<p>There are parents who are honest about how their kids look. When I was born my mom was sad that I would have to grow up with such a wide nose. To remedy this she and my grandparents would squeeze my nose in hope that it would get thinner. It seemed to have worked since she says I have a perfectly fine nose now. The reverse was true for her, in school she was laughed at for having a thin witch nose.</p>
<p>She also used to make fun of my “Bugs Bunny teeth” and when I had a Bugs Bunny stuffed animal she would say, “Look! His teeth are just like yours!” and laugh. I wasn’t offended and just thought it was interesting to hear. That’s probably why I got braces. Everyone thinks I have a wonderful smile now.</p>
<p>Now she thinks my lips are too big and puffy. I don’t find anything wrong with my lips and I said that men like plump lips. When I said this she said that I had a point. I don’t think they’re that big though, maybe it’s because she has thin lips. She still thinks I’m very pretty though. She always says that she gets compliments about me from others all the time and she never fishes for compliments.</p>
<p>“There are parents who are honest about how their kids look. When I was born my mom was sad that I would have to grow up with such a wide nose. To remedy this she and my grandparents would squeeze my nose in hope that it would get thinner. It seemed to have worked since she says I have a perfectly fine nose now.”</p>
<p>My mother used to do that with my “flat” nose. Pinching my nose didn’t change its shape, just made me feel badly about a perfectly fine facial feature.</p>
<p>My mother would caution me not to sleep on my face, so as not to widen my nose, but also trained me not to sleep on my back, so my “kitchen” could grow! Don’t sleep well to this day!</p>
<p>Northstarmom, YOU know what I’m talkin’ bout!</p>
<p>Stop me if you’ve heard this one ( I post about it often)…</p>
<p>The most popular girl in my elementary school had one leg longer than the other, and wore a special built up shoe. I did not even REALIZE this until I met her again, many years later, when I was in medical school. Of course, she had “good hair”. Who knows what THAT means?</p>
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<p>I’m guessing that most women think that good hair is hair that other women have and they don’t.</p>
<p>Some African Americans call hair “good” if it’s straight or softly waved. “Bad” hair is kinky hair in their views. I was brought up by a mom who had “good” hair and thought that I was cursed by having “bad” hair. Since then, though, I’ve learned to love my hair, and I get lots of complements on my long dredlocs, which I consider my best feature. I’ve learned to treasure the real me.</p>
<p>Ah, okay. Jewish women often refer to having “Jewish hair” which is basically hair that is curly, often with a whole frizz factor that is not especially prized. Straight, smooth, silky hair is envied. My MIL spent a lifetime blow-drying her hair and then when curls came in big she let her hair go natural and we discovered she had the curls that other women paid tons of money to try to get. But she grew up thinking they were a negative and had a very hard time getting over that. Women and their hair – there is so much that goes into how we view it.</p>
<p>As my mom always said “There is only one beautiful baby in the world and every mother has it” I don’t think it really matters to parents what other people see, their child is beautiful inside and out. I believe in chemistry and it will be there when you meet the right girl. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and truly insightful people will see the beauty in the inner person and that is what makes a person truly beautiful.</p>