Why do we NOT challenge mean people and put them in their place?

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<p>You seem like a kind-hearted person, and it is great that justice is important to you. I agree, life is not always just. </p>

<p>I’m a mom, writing now to point out something about your statement that I quoted above: Would you really want to date someone who didn’t care whether or not his girlfriend was nasty? </p>

<p>Maybe that guy isn’t really as nice as he appears at first! I dated someone for years that everyone thought was very nice. He went out of his way to be helpful to people, and loved making new friends. It took me a while to realize that he was nice because he had some insecurities and wanted people to like him–and once I was his girlfriend, he wasn’t very nice to me sometimes. Everybody thought he was great, so I thought the problem was me, until I woke up and realized it was him!</p>

<p>I think you deserve someone who is going to value your good qualities!</p>

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<p>WOW APenny I appreciate that story. Puts a different perspective on it!</p>

<p>Another thing that I have seen is a pattern is that the nasty girls are often the pretty ones and guys adore them maybe cuz its all about their looks…so maybe pretty people get away with so much more than average looking girls.</p>