<p>Negru,
I have read a lot of your posts. You are clearly VERY dissatisfied with Brown partway through your first semester. That’s OK. It may be a poor fit for you. It so happens that every Brown student I have ever met seems to adore the school. So, while the school may not be perfect in every way, the majority seems to like it just fine. More than just fine. I don’t know that Brown is what you say but simply that it doesn’t match what you seem to expect or want. I don’t know what school in the US would match what you want, but that’s another story. Not all schools are for all people. </p>
<p>I have a kid who is currently a senior at Brown. She LOVES Brown and has from day one. I am sure she is going to be very sad when she has to graduate and leave. I have never heard one negative remark by her about anything to do with the college and as parents, we have not had one negative experience or feeling either. We couldn’t be more pleased and are grateful our kid has had such an amazing experience there. </p>
<p>I can’t run down all of your complaints on the many threads on which you have posted. I’ll comment on a couple you made here. Your stereotyping of athletes is disconcerting to me. For one thing, it is funny for me to read that you feel athletes at Brown are “worshipped.” Brown is a school that is quite the opposite in that it is not a rah rah let’s follow our athletes school. Not at all. Anyway, you make assumptions that athletes don’t have smarts. Did it ever occur to you that someone can be highly intelligent and a high academic achiever AND be skilled and talented in a sport they care about? Brown has LOTS of students that fit this description. Brown is filled with students who are not merely excellent students but people who excel in something else besides academics (be it sports or many other EC endeavors). In fact, one thing I admire about the many Brown students I have met is how they are able to excel at academics while being heavily engaged in other pursuits. Perhaps this is a cultural thing for you and is not the way in your country but at at top American colleges, they value students who not only achieve in the classroom, but make other contributions as leaders in other endeavors. Exceling at an EC, such as sports, does not preclude being an academic standout. To the contrary. </p>
<p>My D was not a recruited athlete and got into Brown the regular way. However, she is on a varsity sport team at Brown. I can tell you that the peers I have met on her team excel at academics (most are Academic All Americans), do research, and are primed as applicants to med school, law school, PHD programs, architecture school, and so forth. Actually, many of her teammates are going onto med school. They are not academic slouches by any means. My own kid is applying to professional graduate schools. These students have to put in enormous hours into their sport daily and on weekends. It also involves travel. They do this all the while they are taking demanding classes (some are in orgo, for example), are in other ECs, do research, or for instance, my kid is a TA for a course as well. </p>
<p>It sounds like you spend time missing classes and outside of class time drinking and so forth. That is how you are choosing to spend your free time. Why do you frown upon those who spend their free time engaged in athletic competition and collaboration? If anything, they are spending the time you are spending on your “activities” in worthwhile endeavors. I see you posted at 4 AM. There is no way my kid could be online at 4 AM. She has to be up at 6 or 7 often for her sport. You post online a LOT. There is no way my kid would have time to do that. If that is what floats your boat, cool. Why be negative that someone else is using the time you spend drinking or online to go to sports practices and competitions? You are not doing academic pursuits every waking hour either!</p>
<p>I have read you think many students aren’t too bright and that the courses are not challenging enough for you. Brown is a challenging university and the student body represents some of America’s finest academic and other talented students. I am not sure where you would be happy but if you are this dissatisfied with Brown, it may make sense to explore other options and to ascertain if these other schools are a better fit for what you want. I can assure you that at any highly selective American college, you are going to find students who not only achieve academically but also in other endeavors in their ECs and so forth. </p>
<p>Perhaps you don’t want a liberal arts education and this is a poor fit. I can’t tell. Brown is not for all people. What made you choose this school? My kid explored the school in depth before choosing to enroll and it has met all of her college criteria and expectations and then some. Some factors made you prefer to enroll in this school. I am sorry it is not as you expected. Either work to achieve some changes in either the school or in creating situations that would work better for you. Brown has SO much leeway in allowing you to create educational opportunities. Seek those out. There are independent studies, research, and so on. You are not locked into doing what you don’t like. You have the freedom to choose and create the educational experience you want. Take advantage of that. This is one school where you don’t have to take classes you are not interested in, don’t like, etc. Seek out what you are looking for. If you can’t find it at Brown, create it. And if you continue to be this unhappy, seek out transferring. There is no need to be unhappy at a college. Seek out changes within. If you can’t make that work, seek out a school where you perceive you will be happier. </p>
<p>My kid could not be any more deliriously happy with her choice to attend Brown and her four years of experience there. I wish that for any college student. I hope you find it wherever that may be for YOU.</p>