<p>I live in NJ. My parents want me to come home from Friday night to Sunday night. But I should be able to convince them if I don’t want to.</p>
<p>Not just your social life.</p>
<p>Yes I strongly believe it will hinder your social life tremendously. You are in college now and you need to get used to being away from mom and dad even if you live in the same state. You will meet some many great people on those days because there are formals, eating club parties, blackbox, and much much more! It is a bad idea.</p>
<p>Work out an arrangement to go home one or two weekend DAYS per month for the first few months. Compromise, but stay on campus most weekends. You will feel more connected, not only socially but academically.</p>
<p>Your parents need to cut the apron strings. Bad bad bad idea. I’m a parent, and I feel very strongly that both the kid and the parents need to transition to the empty nest/leaving the nest.</p>
<p>Of course there are special cases, but in general, college is a time for kids to go to away and come home only on holidays. You could possibly do what jshain suggests…but only at first. After that, you need to fully transition.</p>
<p>This is not easy for me to say. My D is my only kid. I would love to have her come home to us every weekend too. I get it. But weekends at college are essential to the college/away from home experience.</p>
<p>Don’t do it.</p>
<p>Have your parents raise that question during one of the parent sessions at orientation - either the health services one or the residential college reception. They’ll get the answer you’ve been given here, but it might go down easier for your parents to hear it from college deans. (You won’t even be present, so you won’t be embarrassed by this.)</p>
<p>^ I agree with this … or arrange a phone call for yoru parents with some adult chiefs in the residential life group at Princeton … ANYONE at Princeton will tell your parents that they believe it is in the best interest of the student to live full-time on campus and to only go homw occationally. Most top schools have residency requirements for freshman … and that is not because they want the cash from housing … it is because they want the individuals and freshman class as a whole to bond and become engrained into the campus culture.</p>
<p>Another idea do you have adult relatives (aunts, uncles) or family friends your parents repsect who can advocate for you also.</p>
<p>Good luck! (PS - congrats on Princeton … that is a GREAT accomplishment)</p>
<p>My roommate’s house is on the edge of campus (because his father is a professor), and his parents have never encouraged him to sleep at home unless he was ill. Even when he does go home, it’s usually just to pick up more clothes or borrow the minivan, and not to visit. I think this speaks volumes.</p>
<p>I only come home when I need to do laundry (since school is only half an hour away from home and laundry at home is free), and/or when my mom goes out of town and needs me to house/dog sit.</p>
<p>Sometimes I wish I lived near school. No study spot I found at school ever compared to sitting at my desk in my room. </p>
<p>Don’t write off going home all together; college dorms can be pretty noisy at the best of times.</p>
<p>Thank you all, especially 3togo, for your advices. I’m going to suck it up and just talk to my parents about it. They are pretty understanding but when it comes to me leaving for college they can be really emotional.</p>
<p>Not if you invite me to your house. My presence boosts your social life points by 50</p>
<p>You will be doing yourself a disservice of epic proportions if you do this</p>
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<p>Laundry at Princeton is also free…</p>
<p>don’t do it!!!</p>
<p>you’d actually be losing $$ by way of gas…</p>
<p>but the advice that you can come to a compromise is probably best. because it doesn’t seem like you strongly are opposed to the idea because here you are asking strangers on an online forum to give you their feedback on it. if you WANT to go home every now and then no one’s going to stop you (certainly not your parents) but to do it every weekend would undoubtedly detract from the ‘college experience’… just go back like a weekend a month or something… i mean it’s college…</p>
<p>Well whoop-dee-doo for Princeton. Laundry at Xavier is not free. So I do mine at home most of the time.</p>
<p>Oh haha, sorry I didn’t notice you don’t go to Princeton. I thought you were a Princeton student going home for free laundry and I was thinking “Ummm…” but that makes more sense now. My apologies</p>
<p>Posted by mistake, sorry.</p>
<p>gc414: I do really want to fully experience college life yet I’m the only child and my parents are quite reluctant to let a week pass by without seeing me. </p>
<p>We came to a “compromise” that I come home from Sunday early morning to Sunday dawn. Hope I won’t miss a lot in this period.</p>
<p>Nah, generally all people ever do on Sundays is sleep off their hangovers and catch up on work.</p>