<p>I think this is more a function of having stated expectations and modeling desired behavior.</p>
<p>I am the “ours” in a his, hers and ours family. In both of my parents’ previous marriages, the spouse and their families were drinkers, somewhere between heavy and moderate. Both my brother and sister married people who came from families who were heavy to moderate drinkers. They both have kids who are married or in long term relationships with heavy to moderate drinkers. My brother’s kids were binge drinkers from their early teens. My sister’s daughter married a guy who was a heavy drinker. Both of her children, 22 and 19, have been drinkers since their early teens. She is divorced from their father and in a long term relationship with a guy who is a moderate drinker. They all drink every day, except the youngest, who mostly binge drinks on weekends. </p>
<p>My parents were special occasion drinkers. I drank a bit in high school and college, but never more than a drink or two. I am a special occasion drinker, as is my (Italian) husband. His family drank wine with dinner every night, adults and teens alike and he did his fair share of drinking in high school and college. My kids, 24 and almost 18, do not drink. I always told them that underage drinking was illegal and I strongly discouraged them from engaging in this behavior, even though a lot of their friends did. My son did drink a bit as a freshman in college, but that was about it. My daughter is an athlete and doesn’t really have time to party nor the inclination. I am sure she will drink at some point in time, but I doubt she will ever be a binge drinker.</p>
<p>I think some of the binge drinking behavior is genetics, some of it is a lack of expectation by the parents that the kids will not engage in underage drinking. And a big part of it is what the kids see growing up. It is pretty hard to tell a kid not to drink when their parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and friends all drink, all the time. </p>
<p>We recently went to a birhday party for a two year old relative. The party was held in a public park, at the “tot lot” pavillion. My daughter was absolutely appalled that nearly all the adults and most of the teenagers were drinking! And not just a beer or two. There were a dozen or more bottles of hard liquor on the picnic table, right next to the Elmo birthday cake. She started asking to leave just a few minutes after we got there, after driving nearly two hours. To avoid a family war, we stayed until the cake was cut, but my daughter couldn’t get out of there fast enough! On the way home she asked me what would have happened if the cops had come, would she have gotten in trouble for being there, even though she wasn’t drinking, since there were quite a few underaged kids there who were drinking. I told her she would not have been in trouble, because I was there, but I was happy that she was worried about it.</p>