<p>See, no-one said she deserved to be treated like a piece of meat. And, I guess the point of this campaign is to educate the sleazeball men. After decades of this I’m not optimistic that will work. That’s all.</p>
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I think the skinny trousers hipster men are wearing these days are much more revealing than what women wear. </p>
<p>Step back. Take a deep breath. People are raised with different values, have different experiences throughout their lifetimes, and develop different sets of survival skills. Maybe some of the disagreements going on here have to do with different people feeling different things are critical to survival and their ability to thrive.</p>
<p>And when we flame one another here that’s just adding another wrong, which doesn’t make a right.</p>
<p>“Exactly! I would never say “Hey, can I get some of that trouser monkey” because a man has on a tight pair of jeans. Then I would be called a whore right?”</p>
<p>Okay, that gave me the belly laugh of the day. You can say that when you’re walking with me, any time, and no, I won’t call you a whore. Especially in twenty years, we can all be a bunch of old ladies, yelling that those young guys as they walk past. 
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<p>Haven’t read the whole thread, but wanted to post this OpEd by a USCB student comparing her experience in Argentina to UCSB. </p>
<p><a href=“A Tale of Two Cultures: Harassment Abroad and at Home | The Daily Nexus”>http://dailynexus.com/2014-09-25/a-tale-of-two-cultures-harassment-abroad-and-at-home/</a></p>
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<p>People are talking past each other here.</p>
<p>Just because one recognizes the reason why she is getting harassed, doesn’t mean they are saying it is okay.</p>
<p>Just because some of us know how to avoid it, doesn’t mean we think it’s fair that women must go to excessive lengths to do so.</p>
<p>Reality check, that you cannot change everyone elses behavior, you really can’t. But if you are getting attention that bothers you, if you would like to avoid that attention, you know how to do it. You know what areas to avoid, and what clothing to avoid.</p>
<p>That is not blaming the victim, or saying this behavior is acceptable in any way. It’s not. It’s self preservation.</p>
<p>Now time to go elsewhere and avoid this futile conversation.</p>
<p>I’m thrilled that this video has highlighted something that has occurred to almost all women and to only a few men. If more men understand that this behavior is unacceptable, the better off our daughters and grand-daughters will be.</p>
<p>It will take time. </p>
<p>Never mind.</p>
<p>Too many comments have made me roll my eyes. </p>
<p>I’m a young woman who dresses like a tomboy and always have. Almost all of my clothes are loose hoodies and t-shirts, don’t own a single piece of makeup, and my very long hair is generally up in a messy bun. I still get the remarks and cat calls. </p>
<p>I used to get angry and tell people off every once in a while. Now I put in headphones and pretend like it doesn’t exist. That doesn’t make it acceptable but even at only 23, I’m sick of dealing with it. </p>
<p>Controlling eye rolling is a skill. You can do it!</p>
<p>.<a href=“Log in | RTM - RightThisMinute”>www.rightthisminute.com/video/NYC-10-hours-walking-as-a-man-parody-catcalls-men-funny</a></p>
<p>The comments about the woman’s bust size (saying that she’s busty) mystified me. And then I realized why. I didn’t view her as busty at all because she’s smaller than my daughters and me - a few cup sizes smaller. In my frame of reference, anyone that much smaller than me isn’t busty.
I asked my daughter if she thought the woman was busty and she bust out laughing. She agreed with me - not busty. It’s all a matter of perspective and what you are used to seeing.</p>
<p>I also asked my daughter (in grad school) if she thought the young lady was dressed provocatively at all and she said no. She agreed that she was just wearing ‘the uniform’ that people that age wear. </p>
<p>We both agreed that she did experience harassment, but we did not agree that every comment was harassment. </p>
<p>Don’t worry, Romani, keep dressing as you do and it gets better as you age!</p>
<p>Busdriver11 left.</p>
<p>One thing she wrote is so off base…</p>
<p>“Just because some of us know how to avoid it, doesn’t mean we think it’s fair that women must go to excessive lengths to do…”</p>
<p>Sometimes, the harassment isn’t really avoidable. </p>
<p>It’s much better for my status as a member here that I roll my eyes rather than type what I want to 
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<p>This video struck me as quite odd, that there was something more to it. I didn’t understand why people were ogling and commenting constantly, just seemed like an attractive, overweight woman, getting the hooker treatment. Could it be that they pieced together 5 min of comments from ten hours of taping? Were people staring because of a cameraman and a microphone in her hand?</p>
<p>Seems like there’s something else going on. Every time I go to NYC, there are so many people, all doing their own business, nobody notices anyone.</p>
<p>So,I haven’t heard anything about solutions beyond learning to deal. Calling it unacceptable is very nice but solves nothing. I do agree a couple of “Hey baby’s,” when you’re walking past a pack of losery men is probably unavoidable for the average woman. And, actual criminal behavior isn’t going to stop because we say it’s unacceptable or watch a PSA. But, I didn’t see anything criminal, either.</p>
<p>And, I agree Busdriver. It looks like they edited together all of the the creepy comments. And, I could make a video like that this afternoon if I put on heels and walked around past convenience stores in the right (wrong) neighborhoods.</p>
<p>“Muzzles for mouthy men” campaign?</p>
<p>It takes a looong time. First the excuses and the explanations of why men do these things have to stop. ;)</p>
<p>My wife was harassed in a neighborhood where the homes today sell for $750,000 to $3,000,000+. </p>
<p>If you are harassed in Manhattan…</p>