<p>Why is it petty or catty to remember what people wore? Some people – myself included – have very precise visual memories that include memory for detail. When I think back on an event from the past – a random business meeting or a book club meeting or anything really, regardless of whether the event has emotional resonance – i can picture the room, where everyone was sitting, what they were wearing, where the food was placed, what was on the walls, etc. It’s an instant visual memory. Why is that petty or catty? How can an involuntary memory be petty or catty? </p>
<p>Right. Lots of people remember specific details of particularly good meals they ate. I’ve even had people say - that’s where I had the lamb and you (PG) had the chicken, or whatever. People remember different things. </p>
<p>Intparent, Op <em>asked</em> for our opinions. I’m giving mine, not forcing anyone to do anything. You expressed yours… I already asked and you did not answer - why do you think your opinion is worth more than Pizzagirl’s or mine? Just curious. OP is free to do whatever she chooses. </p>
<p>Re: 2008 vs 2014 - it could as well be 2006 vs 2014 because the dress could have been bought on sale. Without seeing the picture, it is hard to say what exactly it looks like. Sorry CF, not going to dig old catogs for you. ;)</p>
<p>“That is where it crosses the line into obnoxious, IMHO. You ARE forcing your opinions onto others if you remember and judge (which I think is going on here).”</p>
<p>Not talking about the OP here - but are you saying that I can’t ever look at someone’s clothing or personal presentation and have any judgments (kept to myself) as to whether it looks good or not? Ever? Everything’s equal? How about a padded 80s suit or a mullet? </p>
<p>Yeah, I don’t get that either. I certainly remember things from certain events or times in my life. Everybody does so I fail to see how any of that can be considered “obnoxious.”. </p>
<p>C’mon, Bunsen. Tell me what about 2008 dresses I should be avoiding. You have the knowledge, now share it.O Otherwise it’s “Bwah hah hah, look at her in that outdated dress. We know what’s wrong with it, but we won’t tell. Superior people like me get to sneer at inferior unfashionable people like her, but we won’t tell our secrets.”</p>
<p>Timely thread for me. S1 got married this summer; S2 next. I am so detail oriented I drive people nuts, but sometimes I truly cannot remember at the end of the week what I wore to work the beginning of the week. Both weddings will be similar in size and formality. Shopping for S1 dress was extremely anxiety ridden and time wasting. I always want to look clean-cut and professional. Otherwise, I do not care about clothes. </p>
<p>There is so much $$ spent on a wedding. It seems so wasteful to me to buy an expensive dress and wear it once. This was long and formal. It would never be worn as a guest at a different wedding. The only guest overlap would be my relatives and they won’t care. This thread made me realize many people do judge this. Hmm, what to do? S2 is very frugal, guess I’ll ask bride and go from there.</p>
<p>Oh come now, Bunsen. You brought up the subject of wearing outdated clothes because you clearly believe that wearing outdated clothes is something that people (in particular, that the OP) shouldn’t do, that there would be something wrong with her wearing the dress she likes if it was outdated. </p>
<p>So I, by no means a fashionista, asked the natural question of what would make one dress from 2008 outdated while another dress from 2008 is classic. Don’t get all shirty. You think wearing outdated clothes is a bad thing. So tell us how we can tell.</p>
<p>Evening wear doesn’t change much. And there is no one hemline length everyone wears now, either. There’s short, long, hi-lo and everything in between. I have been in Miami (a pretty fashionable city) seven times in the last year and I’ve seen everything. I think the details and accessories are what make a lot of styles “of a moment.” For instance, the giant bejeweled necklaces that are popular now are a look I could see going out in a couple of years. But don’t throw them out–they’ll for sure be back eventually!</p>
<p>The only one of those gowns that I actually liked was Georgina Chapman’s. I had to read the caption to know what the apparently upside-down white <em>thing</em> at Parker Posey’s side was. That dress is certainly . . . um . . . interesting. What year do you think it evokes?</p>
<p>People have memories for different types of things, that just “stick,” without their being nosy or obsessive. (Ahem) My memory tends toward the numerical. One of the posters above has a near-eidetic visual memory. That could make it awkward for people re-wearing outfits, but is not a reason to avoid it, in my opinion.</p>
<p>Are tiers, ruffles, fabric flowers and mermaid gowns now passe? If someone showed up this fall for a Met Gala in one of those dresses, would everyone else be snickering?</p>
<p>My sister’s gown she wore to her D’s wedding in 2009 was a mermaid. She wore it again at the NY wedding. She must have bee too busy at her D’s wedding to go to the bathroom, but we went to the ladies together at 2nd wedding and she needed help getting out of the dress to pee - because you cannot pull a mermaid gown up. She literally had to get undressed to go to the bathroom! It didn’t occur to her this would even be a problem! </p>
You expressed yours… I already asked and you did not answer - why do you think your opinion is worth more than Pizzagirl’s or mine? Just curious. OP is free to do whatever she chooses. </p>
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