<p>Yeah, but that Parker Posey dress was hideous at the time, too.</p>
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<p>Seconding this.
Sites like that prove to me that I will never, ever understand fashion and I’m certainly OK with that lol. </p>
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<p>Fwiw, I can’t tell you how popular mermaid-style dresses are for brides right now. For the most part, I think they’re hideous. </p>
<p>“Yeah, but that Parker Posey dress was hideous at the time, too.”</p>
<p>Yes, it was. Poor Zac Posen.</p>
<p>Tina Fey’s 2014 dress is an Ikat print. That wasn’t seen much in 2006. It’s huge now. Although, I’m not a big fan.</p>
<p>I can’t stand ikat. I think it’s been out for five or six years, though, because one of my friends and I have had a long-running joke about it. We first started seeing it in home decor. The good thing is I can’t imagine any MOB or MOG wearing it to a wedding!</p>
<p>I didn’t have a Jewish wedding, but I thought the idea of being given away by my Dad was stupid. So I walked down the aisle with my parents and my husband walked down with his. Both sets of parents gave us away. I got married in the mid 80’s too, but no one told me the MOG or MOB had to go with my color scheme. MOG and MOB consulted with each other and agreed they’d both wear long dresses. I think they asked for confirmation from me, I know I was informed. I told my maid of honor (I only had her) that I’d have yellow and orange flowers and she wore a pretty tea length linen dress. My Mom wore an African tie dyed thing that I thought looked too casual, and MIL wore the bubble gum pink outfit that didn’t thrill me either. But I look at the photos and smile - they both looked like themselves, and not like I’d dressed them up like Barbie dolls.</p>
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<p>I just cannot develop the acquired taste of liking one-shouldered dresses, which have become more popular over the past few years. I’ve seen not even a handful of people that they actually look good on (D1 was one of them, in a J. Crew bridesmaid dress). But I just don’t like them. I’ve also become pretty tired of all the strapless wedding dresses - not a fan of those anymore. Too many brides spend too much time during the reception hiking the dress up from the top so their boobs don’t fall out.</p>
<p>I think hairstyles & shoes date you more than a well chosen dress.
Even my Jessica McKlintock wedding dress still looks great to me.
I also have a few evening gowns that I could still wear, if I thought my bare arms passed muster.
I wore more trendy clothes when I was 20, but I don’t have the time, energy or interest to redo my wardrobe every season, so I try and ask myself " would Hepburn wear this?" ( either Audrey or Katherine).
Besides some of the new clothes are so hideous. Its common for people to wear something that is " in style", but it doesn’t suit them at all. Better that they wear something great, that is ten years old.
I still wear a dress that is 25 years old & I still get compliments on it, although it is a bit faded.</p>
<p>MOB and I discussed dresses and colors – I went with blue, she went with jewel-toned purple. She changed to a blue dress during the reception. We could have gone the opposite way on colors and we both would have been fine. Wedding was blue and silver – bride changed into a green dress which she has worn previously (as mentioned upthread). I don’t think either of us moms spent more than $125 on a dress. Shoes, on the other hand, are the bane of my existence. Cannot find comfy shoes that will keep me on my feet. Had a spectacular fall at my nephew’s wedding and I have two ugly bruised knees to show for it. (1.5" sandals were the culprit)</p>
<p>My mom wore a long burgundy dress to our wedding (bridesmaids wore white Victorian blouses, mauve taffeta skirts, burgundy cummerbunds). MIL wore something shot, hot pink and navy. I let it go. </p>
<p>I will be delighted if I can wear my MOG dress again – it would mean I have kept my weight under control! ;)</p>
<p>No…the OP has not been back to this thread at all!</p>
<p>That’s no ikat print. That’s embroidery, probably on silk faille. Gorgeous fabric.</p>
<p>Don’t cry too hard @sally305 - her hands are still 60, hence the gloves. :(( </p>
<p>I did have that dress minus the bottom two tiers in bronze. I was HOT in that thing in 1989! I had cute little matching sling back pumps that I wore with it back when my feet were also cuter and littler than they are today.</p>
<p>CF, sorry, did not mean to disappear. My iPhone battery ran out of juice. You quickly figured out the deal - ruffles was the “in” thing in 2007-2008. Also, prior to that, lots and lots of beading.That was the “irrational exuberance 2.0” period, before the big market crash. Also, what OP owns is most likely close to what was on the racks at Nordstrom, not the runway stuff worn by celebrities. Since it is hard to find a collection of photos of the Tadashi dresses that Nordstrom sold online at that time, let’s use the 2008 Spring Tadashi RTW collection (not exactly the styles that hit the racks, but similar): <a href=“Spring 2008 RTW”>http://nymag.com/fashion/fashionshows/2008/spring/main/newyork/womenrunway/tadashishoji/</a></p>
<p>While some of these dresses would blend almost perfectly with what is sold today, quite a few will stand out because of the details. If the wearer is comfortable with standing out of the crowd, that’s fine. Fro now, all we know is that the OP’s dress is a “lace gown” and she is apparently not much into shopping. So, since our OP had hesitation about wearing the dress in the first place (hence the thread), I thought that it might not be such a bad idea to take a second, critical look at the dress with another pair of eyes. That’s all - no need for calling names and bullying.</p>
<p>And, CF, just a thought - remember the thread about bicycles? When someone mentioned a Costco bike, you quickly advised against it (“just don’t”). No one accused you of “bike snobbery” or “superiority” - your advice was well received because we know you are the expert in the field (based on your posting history). What is so different about fashion? ;)</p>
<p>OMG! 
My H & I had a date night tonight and while he showers, I thought I’d come onto cc. Yikes, this thread has been b-u-s-y! 
Yeah, emilybee: that was me several months ago helping moms find dresses. That’s when I had too much stress in my life and going on cc was a way for me to calm my nerves! Now I’m much busier & less stressed, so on cc much less often…
Getting back to the topic of this thread…most everyone is in consensus that if the OP feels comfortable wearing the same dress, then go ahead! That’s the bottom line! Does everyone agree? No! However, they seem to be in agreement that in this situation, with what the OP has outlined, then if that’ll make her happy, then go ahead! It sounds as if the wedding is around the corner (August), so concentrate on other things!
Enjoy yourself and don’t second guess your decision. At this late date it is hard to find anything anyway, since they are bringing in much heavier clothes now for the Fall. Have fun at the wedding and congratulations!</p>
<p>PS: Lighten up people!
These threads take ‘ugly’ turns rather quickly! We all have different opinions. Stop the name calling and judging! Geez. Personally, I would not wear the same dress to my children’s weddings. However, each circumstance is different. Whatever will be will be. In this case, the OP tried as best as she could. She had no luck. So wear what you have and enjoy the day! :)</p>
<p>Agree, chocchipcookie (aka our resident MOB/MOG dress shopping fairy) :)</p>
<p>I don’t dislike Costco bikes because they look wrong; I dislike them because they break and can’t be fixed. There’s a difference between saying, “Don’t use this product, it will break,” versus, “Don’t use this product, it looks dated.” </p>
<p>"There’s a difference between saying, “Don’t use this product, it will break,” versus, “Don’t use this product, it looks dated.” "</p>
<p>For different applications (biking vs dressing for a special occasion), the meaning is pretty much the same: “do not use this product, it is not right for the intended purpose”. :)</p>
<p>However, that isnt the case for the OPs dress, as it sounds like it fits the criteria for the event.
( and since Costco has no questions asked returns, you wouldnt be out anything if the bike didnt live up to expectations)</p>
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<p>"I can tell a lot about someone by how they dress. "</p>
<p>Everyone makes a decision how to present themselves when they get dressed in the morning, even if the decision is to say “I don’t care how I present myself” but thinking we can tell a lot about someone by how they dress isn’t going to work if that person understands this concept and dresses against it. Then we can just tell what they wanted to us to see but we have no idea of the truth of the appearance. Unless we have some personal knowledge of them beyond the outfit.</p>
<p>Someone I know is a master of disguise. A European in her late sixties, she was raised in a sophisticated, cosmopolitan environment and spent most of her adult life running her own business which took her all over the world. She had a lot of met gala type gowns. That was her life. When she retired she moved to the country to raise chickens. It is a pretty luxurious kind of country and her husband says the chickens lay $50 eggs. When she comes to NY these days, she wears non designer jeans with sneakers, a nondescript shirt, a nondescript LL Bean kind of all weather short jacket, a very inexpensive nylon backpack. The purpose of the visit is a friend’s exhibit opening so that night she pulls the most amazing LBD I have ever seen out of her backpack and puts on a couple of pieces of one-of-a-kind gold jewelry designed by an artist friend. I don’t think someone observing her on the street can tell anything at all about her. </p>
<p>I think what we wear says something but what the wearer is saying and what the observer is seeing may not coincide. A young person is dressing to say “I’m an artist” and an older person may read it as “I’m a slob with no respect for myself or society.” </p>