<p>dragommom, nope. I just like fashion so I notice what everyone is wearing. See VH’s post. </p>
<p>“What does it say that it is only acceptable to a dress one time for a special occasion? Seems wasteful to me, they aren’t disposable items.”</p>
<p>As I mentioned in an earlier post, I know lots of MOGs, MOBs, who have worn their dresses to other people’s weddings. My sister worn her MOB gown to a cousins’s D’s black tie wedding only a few weeks after her D’s wedding. At that same wedding my mom wore the gown she wore to my wedding 20 years earlier! Was the first time she had worn it since my wedding, but it was perfect for this black tie evening wedding… She could have worn the gown she wore to my niece’s wedding but I think because niece’s wedding was mid summer in Maine and this wedding was late summer and in Manhattan she chose to wear a more sophisticated gown. I also bought a different gown for each wedding. The gown I wore for nieces was more summery - lots of pastel colors and for the second wedding the gown bought was black with jeweled neckline. </p>
<p>I’ve worn the black gown I bought to another wedding. I am sure I will wear both of these dresses again - but not to my kid’s if/when he gets married. </p>
<p>I agree with HarvestMoon1. The dress sounds lovely and should be fine to wear again but it wouldn’t hurt to run the idea of wearing the same dress by your son (and explaining why you want to wear it again so there is no misunderstanding of how special his day is to you).</p>
<p>“Kate Middleton repeats dresses (and shoes) all the time. I don’t see why you can’t, either.”</p>
<p>Yes, she does. But I don’t think Kate will wear same dress she wears to Prince Georges wedding to her 2nd child’s wedding. </p>
<p>We all wear the clothes we have more than once. But our children’s weddings are, imo, the most important events in our lives most of us will ever attend. </p>
<p>But then why not wear the best/most beloved dress you have ever owned? The only people who will see the MOG twice are (presumably) friends of HER family. And obviously, most of the attention will be on the bride at any wedding, followed by the bridesmaids and anyone who dresses outrageously. :)</p>
<p>Like I said, I would likely choose different dresses for each. I could find something beautiful at St. Vinnies or Goodwill if money was the issue.</p>
<p>I didn’t attend either of my brothers weddings,(or my sisters for that matter as only members of the temple were allowed in). Or even my oldest daughters ( she eloped)
I do remember what my mom wore to my wedding only because it was dark and depressing, I don’t pay attention to what other women wear, as unless it is a fashion show, that isn’t the purpose of the event.</p>
<p>I did buy a new dress to attend the reception, which was different than what I wore to graduation the week before.
Im wondering are men expected to wear something different or do they just change their accessories?</p>
<p>“Im wondering are men expected to wear something different or do they just change their accessories?”</p>
<p>I think most men buy a new suit to wear to their kid’s wedding. I don’t think they wear they wear one of the suits they wear to the office. Suits also go out of style. </p>
<p>If it is black tie they usually buy a tux unless they choose to wear same tux as wedding party and in that case will rent it. </p>
<p>Tuxes do go out of style. </p>
<p>“And obviously, most of the attention will be on the bride at any wedding, followed by the bridesmaids and anyone who dresses outrageously.”</p>
<p>I think people do pay attention to what the MOB and MOG are wearing. </p>
<p>Let’s be fair Prince George’s wedding (and those of a younger sibling, for that matter) are likely to be televised all over the world with the fashionista’s slavering over every stitch of her clothing. Pretty sure that isn’t happening at the weddings of the OP’s children.</p>
<p>momofthreeboys, No, I don’t think most boys would care (and I’m the mom of two boys) but as HarvestMoon1 said in post #73, you want to be sure the son does not perceive it as a slight. You just never know as family dynamics can be funny. It just wouldn’t hurt to talk to the son about it so there is no misunderstanding.</p>
<p>“Let’s be fair Prince George’s wedding (and those of a younger sibling, for that matter) are likely to be televised all over the world with the fashionista’s slavering over every stitch of her clothing.”</p>
<p>I agree. But bringing up the fact that Kate wears the same clothes more than once for different occasions is irrelevant. I think all of us wear the clothes we buy more than once. </p>
<p>“And that is what many are advising the OP to do.”</p>
<p>I know, but, imo, your child’s wedding is so much more special than things we go to wearing our every day clothes or clothes we have worn to someone’s else’s kid wedding. But, if the OP doesn’t care it is fine with me. I just never, ever, would do that. </p>
<p>And no one is saying to wear “every day clothes” or “clothes we have worn to someone else’s kid wedding”. The suggestion is that a dress that is good enough for kid #1’s wedding is also good enough for kid #2’s wedding, and it is ridiculous to spend a couple hundred dollars on something you already own and like.</p>
<p>I am one of those women who loves clothes and could tell you what I wore probably almost every day of my life. And what everyone else had on, too. My mind is focused on clothes all the time in a way that probably isn’t really sensible, and at this point I see a distinction between dresses that are essentially disposable and those that are works of art. The work-of-art dress deserves as many wearings as possible. in my opinion.</p>
<p>I would totally wear the same dress if I loved it and thought I looked great in it, and if no one in the wedding party would feel slighted that I hadn’t gone out and hunted for a new dress. But alas, that is not my situation … I do love the dress I wore as a MOB three years ago, and feel great in it. But there would be objections, or at least rolled eyes, from the bride, her sisters, and my own mom if I wore it to another d’s wedding, and it’s just not worth it to me to die on that particular hill. I would bet the rent that none of the guys involved in my d2’s wedding give a rat’s patoot about what I wear or whether it’s new. OP, if no one important to you would mind, I say wear the dress you love and enjoy the day.</p>
<p>Actually, I’d be surprised if the boy cared, but his wife might, so I’d run it by her. Ideally you’d get the identical dress in a different color, or dye this one, but I’m not sure that you’d have a lot of options starting with taupe.</p>