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This is not something I can comprehend. It is my EC.</p>
<p>I don’t enjoy shopping OR wearing dresses. I have no clue what my MIL wore to my wedding, I really don’t care. I don’t remember what MY mom wore to my wedding, being a thrifty immigrant, she probably wore a dress she already had (I have 5 older sisters). As I don’t enjoy dressing up, I would consider buying a dress for one occasion a serious waste of dollars. I have hinted to my oldest D that she should elope, but I assume at some point in the future I will have to drag myself out for a mother of the bride dress. Torture!</p>
<p>It is a measure of how much I would like to see S marry and produce grandchildren that I would <em>happily</em> shop for MOG clothes.</p>
<p>The only reason I vividly remember what my mom wore to my wedding is because she held onto the dress and my sister wanted her buried in it 3 years ago (and I was married over 30 years ago so it was an OLD dress). But it was pale blue (like her eyes) with pretty pearl buttons at the sleeves and she looked MAHVELOUS! </p>
<p>I like Movemetoo’s idea: it’s a tradition! If it look good on you and makes you feel beautiful, then make it “The” wedding dress that you wear to every family wedding. The older I get the more sentimental I become, so I really like that idea.</p>
<p>Seems like a waste of money to me to buy a new dress if you have one you love already. How often are wedding pictures like that side by side, anyway? I would wear it again and enjoy yourself! </p>
<p>I will confess I haven’t read all the postings…but I was once amazed that a friend’s mother wore the same dress to both her daughter’s and son’s wedding. It was a beautiful dress, she had a great figure, and her husband was very successful in running a major company. She was amusingly frugal at most things and very dedicated to her family. I just couldn’t believe that she wouldn’t enjoy the opportunity to have a different dress for her son’s wedding. I attended the daughters wedding and photos for the son’s. I noticed it right away.</p>
<p>I vote “Yes, absolutely!” Why on earth should you need to buy a new dress when you have one that fits and makes you feel pretty? It seems superficial and shallow that anyone might raise an eyebrow if you wear the same dress. I say just forget about 'em.</p>
<p>My DIL wore a green dress for the civil ceremony with S1 in 2012 and wore it again a year later for the reception at their wedding celebration. It was a great color and style for her. </p>
<p>I am terribly self-conscious about my appearance. If I have a magic dress, I am wearing it again. I just wore the dress from S & DIL’s rehearsal dinner to my nephew’s wedding. I don’t think anyone noticed. ;)</p>
<p>I’d have noticed if my mil wore the same dress to another wedding, but that’s because she was quite overweight and wore a bubblegum pink dress. Not at all what I would have chosen, but if it made her happy that was fine with me. I actually remember what she wore to the next wedding too - it was a black vest and skirt with very garish gold braid. At that point she was suffering from dementia noticeably and we were just happy she was still with us enough to enjoy it.</p>
<p>I always remember what everyone wears - including guests! </p>
<p>Oldfort - I have a friend who has 4 weddings to go to in the next few months (including her son’s). She is not a shopper, wears workout clothing most of the day (she’s a personal trainer), and she’s completely flummoxed by what to wear, to the point of nerves. She wants to blend in and she’s not at all self-confident. I’ve told her I’ll take her to a dress shop and take care of her!</p>
<p>For my kids’ graduation (knock on wood!) next year, they are a month apart. D’s is first and S’s is second. I’ve already bought dresses for each, because I wanted to work the school colors into it (this was critical more so for S’s school since I’m an alum too, and I HAVE to have a purple dress for it). When I mentioned this to D, she said - why don’t you just wear the same one to my graduation so you get more use out of it? Well, she’s right in that the only people who would see the same dress would be my immediate family - but I’m not going to pass up the chance to have my theme :-)</p>
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<p>This post must be written by someone who enjoys shopping… not my cup of tea, so I wouldn’t “enjoy” the opportunity to shop or spend the money if I already had a dress I was pleased with. What does it say that it is only acceptable to a dress one time for a special occasion? Seems wasteful to me, they aren’t disposable items.</p>
<p>My only concern would be that perhaps your son might take it as a slight. My children always surprise me with what they read into things - they all are a bit competitive when it comes to their parent’s attention. Your son might just think that D’s wedding was important enough to warrant a new dress but not his. </p>
<p>Kate does it</p>
<p>Emilybee, I hope we don’t know each other IRL. You amaze me…you remember what people wore to an event? Are you in the event-planning business or the fashion business? I’m not being snarky, I’m interested.
I wouldn’t even notice.</p>
<p>I rarely remember what I wear to events and really dislike shopping, especially for formal attire. I would do what you feel best doing–wearing the same dress you love or find another you love as well. Using different shoes and accessories, I think it would make the dress look quite different. Eyes should be on the radiant bridal couple anyway. :)</p>
<p>I’m with emilybee. I notice what people are wearing, and I remember. I also remember what I wore to events that were 50 years ago. I remember the dress I wore as a bridesmaid for my cousin’s wedding, when I was 15. I remember various outfits I had in high school. I remember what I wore the night I pledged my sorority. I remember the clothes I bought right before I went off to college.</p>
<p>I remember what all of my relatives wore to my wedding 36 years ago, and not just because of the photos. I remember what I wore to my two nephews’ weddings and to my sons’ Bar Mitzvahs. </p>
<p>I enjoy clothes. </p>
<p>Do you know the song ‘Dress Has Always Been My Strongest Suit?’ from the musical Aida? One of my favorite musical songs of all times, those of you who love to shop and notice clothes a lot should download it, you will like it. 
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<p>I agree with going ahead and wearing the same dress.
If it makes you feel and look good and you can’t/don’t want to find another outfit that makes you feel the same way, why on earth would you wear something you don’t like as much just because it’s different?</p>