<p>I have a cleft lip/palate. What would I need to do in order to get a girlfriend? My voice is nasally and my lip has a scar. Would becoming a great athlete help? making lots of money? going to Harvard/Yale to get an MBA and make 6 figures? Would I have to do all of that to have hope? I am not trying to be extreme and/or pessimistic, but I know most of the world is shallow so I am just trying to be realistic.</p>
<p>I have a good personality so please don’t say that will get me a girlfriend because it has not.</p>
<p>Anyone can get a boyfriend or girlfriend with low enough standards. Are you looking for a perfect 10 with a great personality or are you looking for an average, nice girl? That makes a huge difference.</p>
<p>If your personality rocks, then don’t worry about it. If you make all those achievements solely for the sake of getting a girlfriend, you’re setting yourself up to be taken advantage of. Be patient :).</p>
<p>dude, people barely notice that crap. joaquin phoenix has a cleft lip/palate, and the girls druled over him before he participated in a unabomber look-a-like contest</p>
<p>Lip scars are cute. Everyone thinks their voice is at least twice as annoying as it actually is (and to be fair, you actually do hear your voice differently than everyone else).</p>
<p>Now, I’m not going to lie and say being rich and successful wouldn’t help a lot. But being rich and successful would help anyone just as much.</p>
<p>I have the same thing. And I’m missing a tooth. Being rich and successful will help, but it’s just a lot easier (and almost as useful) to actually learn how to talk to girls. </p>
<p>Really, if you know how to talk to girls, you will get a girlfriend. That’s all you have to do. </p>
<p>And if you don’t know how to talk to girls, or if you’re really bad at it, even with a MBA and making 6 figures, you’re only going to get gold diggers.</p>
<p>Cliffs notes: Learn how to talk to girls. This is by far the most important factor in whether or not girls will date you.</p>
<p>ok
DONT mention the fact that you have it when no one even asked you from the first class. when you go to college.
I dont think people will notice it
it is a faint scar and if you art talented and smart, they will love you the way u r</p>
<p>I know you probably don’t want to hear from parents, but too bad. When I was in elementary school, the most popular girl had one leg shorter the the other and had to were a special shoe. I did not even realize this, until maybe 15 years later, in medical school.</p>
<p>hahahha honestly, I think you will be fine :] just let your personality shine through and i doubt anyone would really notice/care too much about it.</p>
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<p>This.</p>
<p>He’s quite handsome, IMO. And i suppose he looks kinda cute w/ a cleft lip?</p>
<p>anyways, i don’t think you should stress too much about it I think you’ll be fine (:</p>
<p>Um…do you have it repaired? I mean, I know it’ll leave a small scar but is your lip still stuck to your nose? My grandma had cleft lip till she was 14 but it was fixed. She was also dirt poor and they used some cheap community doctor, still.</p>
<p>I’m assuming it’s been fixed a bit, and it’s just a small scar and maybe an accent. It wouldn’t be a problem to me. But the non-fixed kind? Yeah, you better be funny as hell. Also, why wouldn’t you just get it fixed?</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it. Just take a strong pro-socialism stance and wait for the President to nominate you for a cabinate post or the Supreme Court.</p>
<p>hey i have nassally voice too i read ur comment saying voices sound different to the person but like if i recorded my voice they played it am i hearing what everyone else is and srsly plz find the RIGHT answer i REALLY needa know</p>
<p>If you record your voice and play it, you’re hearing the same sounds that everyone else does. Even so, people still think their voice is worse than everyone else does.</p>
<p>Update: Thanks for the advice everyone!! Because of my CLP I am a medical catastrophe for someone my age and to make it worse I’ve just been able (for financial reasons) to get in to see like 5 drs to get the meds/treatment I need. Anyways, Im really driven but simply looking good enough to walk out of the door is a struggle. Im just wondering, do girls care if the guy is consciousness about how he looks? It takes me about an hour+ (which is long for a guy) to get ready everyday. I plan on waking up at 5 AM everyday in college to workout before class because I also have bad triglycerides (family background). Even with me being a medical disaster, will my drive to succeed help at all? All the girls I know just like guys that are trust fund babies because the guy can focus their attention on them 100%. Also, if you take away my acne, I look a lot like Joaquin Phoenix, but I don’t know if thats good enough because lots of girls I know think he’s ugly because of his scar. Do you think he’s ugly?</p>
<p>One more thing. I know Im gonna probably get some angry responses and I apologize in advance if I offend anyone, but many people have told me that asian girls (because of the strong family background) look more for stability and drive when it comes to choosing a BF than looks. I’ve also noticed that asian girls tend to be nicer to me. In general, would you say this stereotype is true? I know its a HUGE stereotype, but remember I said, “in general.”</p>
I think you’ll be fine (:</p>