In the parent experience, telling a teen, “spending so much time on one EC isn’t the right appraoach, he needs to do better time management,” can lead straight to a shutdown. And it is kinda bossy, a bit tiger-ish.
Plus it’s binary: agree or disagree. Teen boys tend to just disagree.
Parents often know how to communicate to “be heard.” And often, it’s like sales 101: getting the other to think the goal or an idea is his own.
Why not just ask him, “Wanna talk about college?” Versus “telling” him. Add to all this, he may not think you’re an authority, in the first place.
Tread gently. Let kim keep his self respect, flawed or not. It’s key.