Yale Parents thread

The Freedom Trail is a good place to start. There are tours regularly - a person dressed as a historical character guides the walk along the trail. I like to start at the Boston Commons and end at Faneuil Hall. http://www.thefreedomtrail.org/book-tour/public-tours.shtml

Faneuil Hall and Quincy Market (next to each other) are great. Lots of good lunch options at Quincy Market.

Last time I was in Boston, I took a tour of Harvard and it was fantastic! It’s called the “Hahvahd” tour, and is run by Harvard students (http://www.trademarktours.com/harvard-tour/tour-details/). It’s not the official admissions tour, it is for tourists, and I think it’s better than the admissions tour. The guides are current Harvard students.

Boston is a great city - there is so much to do and see.

@Faulkner1897 - unfortunately, the answer (after hours on hold) was that the package was returned to sender. Crazy. They couldn’t use the student directory and make a phone call or send an email to try to get it to the recipient. Hopefully, they’ll get it right the next time!

^that would be far too common-sensical!

That is crazy!

Please send along my suggestion to send to the FedEx 30 Whitney Ave in New Haven, and hold at the location. Unless it is too expensive for an overseas package!

I did, thanks, as soon as you sent them. I remembered you and others writing about the issue in previous posts. Not sure how quickly it will arrive in Portugal or how they’re handling it, but at least they have the info and options. Just sending it to the correct address for the son would have been a start (I think he lives in an apartment). Beyond that, the math department would have been willing to hold it under my son’s name, if necessary, since he has an office. Lots of possibilities. Freshman dorm wasn’t really a good one. Oy.

Probably a stupid question but…
Yale summer programs. Site says if student receives FA tuition will be covered at 50% but is there any allowance for living expenses/travel? If a student does a language program Yale covers tuition at 50% but does that mean student pays full fare for airfare/room and board in host country?
I’m sure @Tperry1982 may know as the kiddo has studied every language available :slight_smile:

Hi everyone. I know this may be a long shot, but if anyone has Yale v. Harvard hockey tickets for this Saturday, that they won’t be using, please let me know. I’ll be up on campus after all, but it’s sold out.

@tonymom - yeah, it’s funny. She has taken advantage of Yale’s extensive overseas options. There are different rules for different programs so its hard to generalize. When she went to Germany after freshman year, she was in the Yale Summer Language Program (one month at Yale and one month in Berlin in the summer). They pay whatever percentage you get for financial aid - a kid on full financial aid would get most costs covered, a student on 25% would get that amount covered). Since the total cost of the program includes, tuition, room and board - just like Yale - you get the percentage off the total. For that trip, Yale took care of everything since the whole class, plus the professor, goes to the country after the month at Yale. They stay with a host family that Yale chooses and that cost is included. The family even gets paid to feed them. I think we paid the airfare.

For her next trip to South Korea after sophomore year, she got a Light Fellowship which paid for everything. This was a competitive program that she had to apply for. They paid the tuition and gave her a big check up front to pay for room, board and airfare. They had to find their own place to live. She lived in an international house with 3 other Yalies for the 89 days they were there. She is now the President of the Light Program so she is in charge of recruiting. The irony of an African American female being the lead and face of this program is not lost on me. So, if your kid is interested in going to an Asian country to study, inbox me and I will give you her information so they can contact her directly.

After junior year she went to Germany again, this time to Heidelberg. Since she went on a fellowship that her German professor controlled the funds for and for which she personally chose her to go, they gave her money for everything but the flight which was $600 roundtrip from JFK. And yes, it was cheaper to drive her to JFK than to have her leave from any airport near DC.

So, with the exception of some spending money here and there and airfare, we fared pretty well on the financial end. From what I understand, there are so many programs at Yale for overseas travel and study that I don’t think anyone would have a problem with getting some, if not all, expenses covered.

Now we are waiting to hear if she will get a Fulbright Fellowship to go, yet again, to Korea to teach for a year or two after graduation in May. Won’t know till late March about that, but she is spending the two week spring break in South Korea just for kicks. Again, a $592 flight from JFK.

Hope this helps - and at this point it should be so easy to figure out who my child is, but since she is grown and graduating, she really doesn’t care anymore.

@Tperry1982 thanks for the wealth of advice. Your daughter’s academic career atYale is quite impressive and you must be a very proud parent :slight_smile:
Son has decided to pass on language program and just stick with LSE. Reading through the available summer programs Yale offers has made this mom very jealous indeed :wink:

Thank you. All of our babies are unique and gifted in one way or another. I always watch in awe as kids do STEM classes and knock it out the park. My D took Geometry in Nature and complained the whole semester!!

I don’t remember all these programs and opportunities being available when I was there. Maybe they were but I was just trying to keep my head above water most of the time. Oh and the small fact that I had to come home and actually work for the summer.

Having 4 kids in one stage or another of their college experience, and having had many debates (mostly on Bogleheads) about whether or not Yale (or equivalents) are worth the additional financial outlay, I have to say that it’s not worth debating. Much is made (by Malcolm Gladstone and others) about how it’s being accepted to a Yale-equivalent that matters, not whether or not one attends. Yeah, okay, whatever you say. :slight_smile:

My kids, for the most part, attend(ed) the school that fit them, one all the way to a PhD. It is indisputable, however, that the opportunities at Yale are considerably more available to the students. My circus; my monkeys.

@Tperry1982’s D and my S are very different, almost polar opposites. We have joked about how if they could impersonate each other in classes, they’d easily rock their GPAs (D taking S’s foreign language, S taking D’s math). What is common between them is that they have benefited greatly from having been at Yale (I can’t believe I just used the past tense for that!), and they’ve had opportunities galore.

I am writing this for any potential Y parents who might wonder if the financial sacrifices are worth it. If you can swing it, without risking your retirement, I say that it’s well worth it.

I just this evening spoke to my son, a senior at Swarthmore, taking a course called “Programming Languages.” (My DD a Yale astrophysics major is now a software engineer at that search company that starts with a G).

Lest you think “Programming Languages” is learning how to program “Hello World” in Python, C++, and Java. No way. He was telling us about obscure languages, more in the realm of philosophy than anything else. Truly mind-expanding stuff where you have to think deep. He loves it, and has thrived. And has a job already after graduation. Maybe for 95% of the programming jobs out there, it doesn’t matter. But for a kid who can take advantage of, and love, these challenges… something else.

@IxnayBob - that’s an idea we should have floated 4 years - them impersonating each other to take the classes they hated and struggled through. And those raising an ethical eyebrow, we are indeed kidding cause there is no way our kids could pass for the other. And yes, you are speaking in the past tense. Their Yale career is almost over - only 85 days till graduation.

@Ixnaybob and @Tperry1982, time does whiz by. Just came back from my annual ski trip with the 8-10 Yale classmates that do this each year. More gray (or less) hair, a little extra weight and creaky joints, but basically the same group I roomed and hung out with now close to 40 years ago. The banter, friendly but usually on point ribbing along with deep conversations on a variety of topics where all viewpoints are heard and facts and logic are applied have not changed. I wish your kids the same experience and relationship to take with them as they venture forth in the real world.

@BKSquared - Thank you so much. I totally agree. Some of my best friends to this date are the ones I met the two weeks prior to freshman year during our orientation program and during my four years there. Whenever we are in the same town, we always get together. We meet up at The Game and at reunions. We talk often on Facebook and keep up with births of grandchildren, graduations, retirements and sadly, deaths. My D calls one Aunt and has done so since birth. I don’t think she realized until she was older that she was not a blood relation. On of my best male friends has a daughter graduating this year along with my daughter. They are in the same college (as we were back in the day) and are BFFs and sorority sisters. We had a core group of friends who are coming up for graduation just to see them walk.

Our kids have never met and because of their diverse pursuits, probably never had a class together. @IxnayBob and I are hoping to find a minute to meet over the long weekend. I can’t wait to meet his son in the flesh.

My D just texted me that Hillary Clinton is the Class Day speaker.

@Tperry1982, that’s going to be a very painful day for me. I may wear earplugs lol

@Saona63 - to be honest, I’m a little mixed on it too. Never thought she was the best motivational speaker. Part of the problem during the election cycle. But it will make this Class Day memorable for sure. Probably her first graduation speech since 2016. She hopes Yale will be a safe space, I guess. Though I know that a lot of the students, including my D, were Bernie Bots from the beginning and I had to twist her arm to keep her engaged after the primaries were over. So we’ll see if that calculation is correct.

Class Day should be interesting for sure…I’m a Trump supporter.

She spoke at her undergrad alma mater Wellesley last year. I remember watching the morning news and hearing that she was speaking at her alma mater and saw a stone building that looked like Yale. But then heard Wellesley.