<p>Umcp, our neighbors sent a D “away” to college three miles away. They saw her at Christmas and briefly at the end of school before she found an apartment to crash in over the summer. I guess she was trying to make a strong statement about cutting those apron strings!</p>
<p>without writing the whole conversation, when the RM’s mom called it was obvious she thought she could get my D’s cellphone # once she realized she didn’t have it(which I didn’t give out without my D’s permission); she laughed & appeared to me to think it was funny her D had been on the phone all day; there was nothing to indicate it was an emergency or that she needed someone to talk to; she seemed unconcerned when I explained my D was @ a required activity (obviously her D didn’t go because she was on the phone) & she would be calling my D during that time. One thing I forgot to mention, the phone #'s in the rooms are set up where one calls the main college #, puts in the one-digit # for the dorm & then the room #. Therefore, if it were really necessary (emergency or separation anxiety)to reach her D, she could have put in the room # for the RA (2 doors away) or the room # for the girls next-door or across the hall. If she had needed to talk I would have been glad to support her.</p>
<p>^^^Just out of curiousity, what was her reaction when you told her there was a required meeting going on as you spoke?</p>
<p>laughing, “I know” & then started talking about her D on the phone while laughing</p>
<p>Is it possible, that she was trying to reach her D bc her D is disorganized and needs a reminder to be at certain place at a certain time? This sounds odd, but if this RM is truly disabled, then the mother might be hovering, and trying to tell her to show up at mandatory meetings. PGPC, your D’s RM sounds like she is just nowhere near ready to be on her own in a college setting, at least not without a lot of outside assistance.</p>
<p>their picture i.d’s actually had the schedule put on the back…lol…guess they have had experience with “didn’t know” Also, some friends met my D @ her room to go & the RM was on the phone when my D told her she was leaving/bye.</p>
<p>I don’t get why a new college freshman would want to be so anti-social, and not want to attend a mandatory meeting. It is just bizzarre to me.</p>
<p>Wonder if the mom’s behavior is what the roomy is ‘running’ from - ie - she wanted to get away from - away from mom - to do her own thing - she just might not give a s…t about rules/mandatory kinda stuff - just wants to be out of mom’s reach. Not so strange at all.</p>
<p>But the mom calling roomy’s mom at that hour - not being an emergency - is a bit off the wall - just MHO - sounds like the roomy’s mom needs some limit setting herself.</p>
<p>mom60- I have to laugh. when the RM was setting up all her sweets (they later made a run to pick up more), my D pulled out cheese, all-natural jam & all-natural pb to put in the fridge. She probably doesn’t have to worry about those being “borrowed”</p>
<p>PGPC125 - so… how are things going with your gal now??</p>
<p>oh, oatmeal too</p>
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<p>No, it is not strange to want to be out of mom’s reach, esp. if mom has no boundaries, and has been hovering over her D through her teen years, and is inappropriate enough to call her D’s RM’s mother at 10pm. What is strange is that RM does not understand that “mandatory” means that you must show up. If she does not know that at her age, perhaps she is not ready to be on her own yet. JMHO.</p>
<p>she called @ lunch to say she had worked a while in the lab after a class this morning & required meeting. Then she would be going back to work some after
eating, before other required orientation stuff. Regular classes start tomorrow.
She thinks the RM may have gotten a cellphone or either something weird is going on. RM is hardly in the room after my D spoke to her about the phone. She did say the RM was seated next to her @ the writing exam yesterday.
There are 2 classes that the books are back-ordered for (new) but her WS prof. told her she could borrow his book since it is the same for her class. Also, he told her he supplies (forgive me if I get this wrong) portable 10gb hard-drives to each lab asst & they can use the laser printer whenever they need it. He also told her where a key is so if she needs to study or wants to work after-hours. Great perks!!! Already met the family of a friend from the local area that told her & her friends to let them know or come over if needed.
I think a shuttle made a run to Wal-Mart last night because she called laughing as she & some girls from the dorm were running to catch it-couldn’t make much out of the conversation due to the laughing, running down a hill & heavy breathing…lol!! She is good kid, she’s going to handle it just fine I’m sure. Thanks for asking</p>
<p>Sounds like a wonderful adjustment so far!</p>
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If that’s the case, then shouldn’t mom ensure that there is a way to reach her D? Like get her a cell phone?? Maybe mom’s just as disorganized as her D!!</p>
<p>Glad things are working out for your d, though, pgpc! She sounds like she can weather any storm. (And it sounds like the best possible scenario occurred - roommate’s out of the room!)</p>
<p>PGPC125 - wow - it sure sounds as tho your gal is doing great - and the perks she is getting are always nice 
She sure sounds like she is making a great adjustment - and that the roomy situation is what it is - and that your gal is making the best of things. Good for her.</p>
<p>Nice when these kiddos settle in and make things work. Not to say tho that it will always float smoothly LOL - but hey - she seems to be enjoying herself - making friends - in good with the prof - likes the job sitation/perks. </p>
<p>Off to a great start it seems Sounds of laughter is music to mom’s ears :D</p>
<p>Excellent, excellent, excellent. I hope your girl stays right on that path.</p>
<p>“(And it sounds like the best possible scenario occurred - roommate’s out of the room!)”</p>
<p>Hopefully not because she or her mom have been reading CC!</p>
<p>no computer @ their home, RM unfamiliar with how to navigate internet (received laptop as college gift), family asked how did we find scholarships (explained about fastweb, ■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■, etc), RM does not have Facebook, MySpace…you get the picture. In addition, if they didn’t realize any of their behavior was questionable, I doubt they would recognize themselves.</p>
<p>forgot, RM’s mother said she only gets on one @ her work to check email & that’s all she knows how to do on it.</p>