@ChoatieMom I understand the questions you are referencing. They have been noted in this thread (and elsewhere on the site over the years). I am just saying its not the only way any of such discussions play out. What type happens most often isn’t known. By anyone.
And there are people who are looking for reactions. Not all but some. How many? Tough to know. More than some people would admit though. And some of those looking for reactions are those who also complain about them. She doth protest too much situation.
And I think the “reframe” approach you referenced earlier is likely to prolong the interaction. Different people make different decisions as to what works for them. Doesn’t make the decisions right or wrong. Just different. There is not response to that other than you are right and it ends there. Doesn’t just apply to school or kids in general. Applies to a lot of situations in life.