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<p>Seriously? People say the most amazing things.</p>
<p>I have boys, but I could she cringing a bit if I had girls. Feminists unite! :D</p>
<p>However, it’s really a small thing. I get complimented on ds2 a lot, both looks and his oratory skills. I go self-depracating and say, “Yeah, he’s alright, I guess” and smile. If a relative is particularly gushing, ds will humorously strike a model’s pose. Silly.</p>
<p>I say, “Thank you, and let me note that her nose came from my side of the family.”</p>
<p>How about “and smart, too!”</p>
<p>I tend to smile and say, “Yes, kids do ‘clean up’ well when they put their mind to it, don’t they? How times flies! How are your kids doing?” D has become a very attractive young woman and is always surprised when she’s complimented, even in a group photo of other young women she is singled out. I guess good bones? It still shocks her that people think & say she’s attractive and very smart (tho she is and I think like me & her dad & brother, she doesn’t give much thought to her looks or intelligence, just figures she’s OK).</p>
<p>It can be awkard only if the other person is expecting you to react in a particular way or won’t stop with the compliments. Otherwise, a light rejoinder and change to a more inclusive topic generally works well.</p>
<p>Just say thanks! Being physically attractive, as shallow as it may seem, is something to feel good about, don’t think of it as belittling her accomplishments as an intellectual!</p>
<p>I ususally say something like “Thank you. It’s lucky that she takes after her mother instead of me.”</p>
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<p>Then maybe you should give more public exposure to your Mandarin and less to your abs.</p>
<p>I would just smile and say “thank you”.</p>
<p>I have a niece who is really, really pretty. When she was fairly young she was out with her dad (my bil) one day and he ran into some people he hadn’t seen in some time. They remarked about N’s good looks and then asked bil “Is your wife pretty?”. He just laughed.</p>
<p>“The hot chick is, of course, a waitress.” Wait a minute - Bernadette dumped rick fox on the show.</p>
<p>Oh yes, the best response is a simple thank you. I think you are over thinking it. One of my sons is the spitting image of his father. People often say to me “what a good looking kid” to which I smile and reply “thanks, he takes after me” which is so not true and usually elicits a gigantic grin from the other person and we move on to the rest of the conversation.</p>
<p>People say weird things. My S was a beautiful toddler (still handsome at 16, btw). People were always commenting. The strangest comment was, “He is so gorgeous. Is he adopted?” (He was blond. The rest of the family is dark). I just ignored that one. But usually when people comment on his looks, I say “Yes, I agree. I’ll tell him you said so.” Sure he’s smart, funny and talented - but looks are the first thing people notice.</p>
<p>I agree with those who suggest just smiling and saying thank you. My daughter (now a grownup) was lucky throughout school to have a groups of friend who, like her, were noticeably attractive and also very nice and academically capable. People (including strangers) did comment about her, sometimes at odd times and places, and I thought it was fine–I knew good substantive things about her that they didn’t, and they were focusing on what they saw.</p>
<p>It’s no secret that being attractive can ease one’s path thorugh life; as long as it doesn’t rule your life or make you think you don’t have to do anything else, there’s no harm in being told you’re good-looking–even beautiful! And I don’t think there is any harm in getting vicarious pleasure from compliments like that about one’s children, though of course it’s also great to hear that they are wonderful teachers or writers or mentors–that is, to be recognized for whatever they are are good at.</p>
<p>“We like her, too.” is the feminine version of the reply I made to people who gushed about our son.</p>
<p>Maybe it is because I am parent, but I think kids today are much more attractive than when I was in high school. Most children are out of braces , have perfect skin, no awkward glasses, no awful 80’s perms…</p>
<p>As the mother of 2 beautiful and smart girls, I just enjoy when people compliment me on them. They are lucky young ladies to have been blessed with intelligence and good looks. My H and I enjoy debating who they take after.</p>
<p>I usually say “I know! Thank you.” I think my daughter is beautiful too, I’m happy when other people recognize it. I think, also, if people have watched your child grow up from a child to an awkward tween and then into stunning young woman–they do think that external transformation is worth mentioning. A savvy person might follow up with a comment about her intellectual accomplishments, but unless you’re trumpeting her activities and grades to the world, how would most people know?</p>
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<p>Stats is, as ever, a satirist. :)</p>
<p>You can always change the subject. Start singing “Beauty’s only skin deep, hey hey hey.” That puts them on the spot to compliment your singing voice.</p>
<p>@ Mstee - YES! Seriously & many times too! Amazing. Use to really get under my skin but then I decided that is her problem - not my problem.</p>
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<p>At last month’s Orchestra board meeting the parents were gathered to introduce themselves to the new director. I was near the back, and Bombshell Mom was at the front of the group extending her hand to the teacher. I could overhear him say, “Oh, you must be 'Planestate’s daughter’s mom”. She corrected him, and I pretended I didn’t hear the interaction when I introduced myself. I’m sure he never made THAT mistake again.</p>
<p>I wish the word ‘really’ had 10 letters.</p>