<p>“You guys are too sensitive”. </p>
<p>Eyebrows raised - in light of your earlier posts - which btw - you absolutely knew (due to pm’s) were erroneous, judgmental and hurtful! Just “piling on” I guess.</p>
<p>But, go back and read the references to marrying a marine - don’t think it was all about “location”.</p>
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<p>Hard to find a positive spin here, no?</p>
<p>Agree. </p>
<p>I guess it could be worse, cur could have added to his “still has time to marry a marine and not finish college” and “live the rest of her life barefoot and pregnant.”</p>
<p>I second the “too sensitive” comment.</p>
<p>It was a humourous little comment.</p>
<p>Cur’s not out to inflame.</p>
<p>Neither is MOWC.</p>
<p>They’re intelligent honest posters.</p>
<p>Funny, too.</p>
<p>Relax and enjoy the discourse.</p>
<p>It was a joke, folks</p>
<p>didn’t an Amherst graduate class president/val/football captain all in one enlisted and did two tours in Iraq? That is probably not an isolated example. I can definitely see one of those sweeping Cur’s D’s feet off the basketball court. LOL, You guys/women are way too sensitive. Note that I use guys but would not dare to use other terms but “women”.</p>
<p>Our story is also unique. S attended a so called uber elite prep school and opted for an “elite” college with no financial aid. He didn’t get a dime of merit money three years ago. He is now a Junior in college and has done extremely well. He was recently offerd an ROTC scholarship that will pay for the last two years at the top college. This was the only “merit” money he could get.</p>
<p>Three years later, we get a refund, and unexpectedly save about $90,000! Money was not the issue, but S really wanted to contibute to his education, and temporarily take a break from academia after college, and serve his country as an Officer while he is young and fit. He will be Commisioned as an Officer at graduation (a year from now), and he will continue graduate school after that.</p>
<p>Not the path we would chose for him, but he decided he wanted to contribute and do something “challenging” and meaningful before continuing his education.</p>
<p>(He won’t be a marine, but I see SS’s point. It is hard to see the positive spin.) Infact, who knows if that Marine doesn’t also have an “elite” education with an extremely bright future? ;)</p>
<p>Padad,
S has over a 3.6 GPA and participates in athletics and works. (unlike many of his “elite” colleagues…;)</p>
<p>He is currently dating a pre-med woman and has been for almost two years. I wonder who will dump whom? j/k</p>
<p>1sokkermom, please extend our appreciation to your son.</p>
<p>“Eyebrows raised - in light of your earlier posts - which btw - you absolutely knew (due to pm’s) were erroneous, judgmental and hurtful! Just “piling on” I guess.”</p>
<p>I think you owe me an apology, reflectivemom, because I have no idea what you are talking about. What earlier posts? I never received a PM from you and I can’t imagine what you think I wrote that was erroneous, judgmental and hurtful. You better go back and figure out who you think you are responding to. I resent the above comment.</p>
<p>As a military brat and the proud uncle of a young marine , I know a thing or two about the immediate college prospects of a girl marrying a marine at 19. Marrying at all was the first part, being continuosly uprooted was the second part. If I had intended it to be anything more than a statement meaning “stop her in her tracks” I’d tell you. I’m wired that way. But I didn’t.</p>
<p>If my D chose to be a member of our armed services, even after becoming an M.D. or decided to go to the military’s med school I would be very proud of her. Just like I would have been had she chosen a service, academy her mom’s and my first choice for her when she was younger. It would be in keeping with her personality to do such a thing, too. </p>
<p>BTW, my D’s bestie 's mom lived this exact story, val to not finishing after marrying a soldier during the Vietnam War. That’s why it is always close to my lips. Sorry to offend .</p>
<p>I don’t think y’all are being too sensitive, really . I think I was careless and forgot who my audience was and how they might react. My apologies.</p>
<p>I’d like a mulligan if y’all will grant me one and change to “marry a carnival barker and not finish college”. I feel badly I offended someone unintentionally.</p>
<p>You resent? That’s rich!</p>
<p>Thanks reflectivemom. This decision came as a shock to us. He turned 21 in January and made a decision and went after it. My H is really unhappy about this decision. I am worried (like Mom’s do), but have finally realized after 21 years that it is <em>his</em> life. A sad reality. :o</p>
<p>Remember, my H is the Forester. In my S’s eyes he is a “liberal Hippy”. I prefer to think of him as intelligent and sensitive.</p>
<p>They are both wonderful men. Right now they have differing opinions. I’m stuck with them both. (and glad to be in such a position)</p>
<p>…And I still have a D who’s life I can try to plan. :)</p>
<p>But the “humorous” comment is quite telling. Curmudgeon was trying to make a joke by projecting a surprising about-face for his high achieveing D. She’s on a steep trajectory pointing to success, so what would be the funniest, most bizarre justaposition…hmmm. Maybe marrying the village idiot? Or going to work for Larry Flynt? Perhaps starting a pen pal relationship with the Menendez brothers or Charles Manson? No. What comes to mind is marriage to a marine. And of course, that would mean skipping college altogether. "Cause those military wives are dump as stumps. Then cheers chimes in with the feminist comment. Afterall, marines can’t be feminists! (Or women for that matter.)</p>
<p>I don’t think the intention was bad. But sometimes you have to call people on their mindset. It is quite revealing at times.</p>
<p>Interesting backstory, curmudgeon. I’m glad you respect the marines. But I’d still rather see Larry Flynt made to be the worst case scenario here.</p>
<p>1sokkermom!!!</p>
<p>OMG!!! WOW!!! As a fellow mom, and a fellow DUKE mom to boot, I am <em>really</em> proud of your son!!! 
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<p>~berurah</p>
<p>Yes, forgot to tip my hat to sokkermom’s son. You must be so proud!</p>
<p>I’m a military wife of 22 years.
Not a stump OR a dump.
Certainly had to reroute my life journey, though. And if I’d been med school bound it would have derailed those plans for a long time IF I wanted to live with my husband.</p>
<p>Never saw Cur’s comment as a dis on Marines. </p>
<p>BTW, my S turned down the scholarships for the elite school.
I don’t want him to marry a Marine right now either.</p>
<p>reflectivemom, I really think you might have me confused with another poster. YOu and I have had no dialogue at all. Please edit your post which attacks me.</p>
<p>“I don’t think the intention was bad. But sometimes you have to call people on their mindset. It is quite revealing at times.”</p>
<p>My thoughts exactly!</p>
<p>MOWC - my post is accurate as is - no edit needed. If either of us is “confused” it is yourself.</p>
<p>Please respond to my PM and let me know what the issue is.</p>