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Time for a new home?
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Frankly I think they will lose the more intelligent posters in the future because they won't put up with the slowness in getting good information fast as we could in the past.
I did it once, when a large group of us from the AOL discussion boards moved to a private board.
It was really nice while it lasted (years!).
It began to fizzle out because it got somewhat claustrophobic. There was no influx of new members and there was a bit of familiarity-breeds-contempt going on after awhile.
Also, Facebook. When FB got big with parents, many of the board members preferred to interact with each other on that platform instead.
Take for instance the whole idea of whether to have a group on Facebook or "no Facebook". (I'm not suggesting or expressing a choice strongly myself). Some have said "no Facebook". But truth probably is, that Facebook is one of the easiest, most convenient spots to set up a group. I'll bet there are several FB groups that have existed and thrived from CC members over the years.
A message board is a job. Yet I doubt that no one is really looking for the "job" of monitoring a group 24/7. So looking for a perfect venue...probably won't happen.
You may remember I love a good protest. I'm all for people voting with their feet, when necessary, making the right noise and following through. I also had the idea of a sick out, a day when we stand behind our words and away from CC. (Not something, btw, that I think can be effectively broadcast.)
But tomorrrow is Bastille Day and I do not see a plan in this exit. With respect, I think it's not fully formed and we run the risk of following in this update's footprints: change that might make initial sense to some, but isn't surveyed, weighed, and planned to meet a viable number of needs, be, itself, viable.
Not a naysayer. But as I tell some kids, "miles to go." If it's worth doing, it's worth doing right.
If we have learned anything from being here for years that it takes all kinds to make CC go around. So one can want a firm plan, another is shy to try any plan and a third jumps at any plan.
And Happy Bastille day tomorrow! I have French heritage and lots of French family and have always loved the day!
Right, abasket, if one aspect of action is planning it right, the companion side is, "Just Do it."
I'm just sensitive to the variance in wants. Some want the Parent Cafe (all PC/all the time.) Some want format control. Some are for the exclusivity, some want new blood.
You get my point.
I can't believe how much Iliked the Instapot thread, btw, seeing as I don't own one and have no intention to purchase. And so many of us do use PM to roll our eyes, smack our heads, and vent with buddies. Lol.
I've also noticed attempts at thread control by someone other than a moderator. Kind of akin to the "thread valedictorian" competitions that sometimes take place. The person who starts a thread doesn't get to dictate the direction the thread takes, and doesn't get to control whether or not the other posts belong in the thread.
I'm still not sure if I'm going to stay at all or try to find a decent travel forum. My lads are out of college with the exception of two more years of med school for one (if that counts). I'm on the computer what seems like 23/7 right now sitting with my mom and I can only handle this forum for short spurts anymore. I try for a new thread or two each time, but then I move back to games which are also getting very boring TBH, but are easier to handle than this format. Hospice tells us mom is in her last hours - today is Day 2 of their 2-3 more days estimate. Once that's done the "work" will start. Otherwise, right now I'm even unsure if I'm going to head back to school in the fall or just start wandering more around the world, backpacking style. If H's dad also passes away (very likely in the next couple of months anyway) we really don't have much holding us "here" any longer post estate settlements. We may just start working on that 1000 Places to See Before We Die (given 25 more traveling years, that's 40 per year or a little over 3 per month). A travel forum could be a better spot for my time.
1. Moderation. You may think you know how much CC moderators do, but you don't! It's a big job. Even long-time users can cause problems.
2. Becoming in-grown. Inevitably, some people will become disgruntled and leave the group (it's happened every time I've been involved in a a "break off" group). The group gets smaller and discussion decreases.
Bastille Day is my birthday, and my oldest son's.
Well I've never thought this place was perfect by any means nor the people! I'm sure I'm not perfect here either - I like a debate, I don't always love when a thread I start takes on a life of it's own, there has been "name calling" (where are my "hardcore" fitness friends?) and there are definitely posters that often drive me up a wall.
But there are many posters I enjoy, many threads I enjoy, probably threads I have thrown off course, etc. All the pros and cons of an active board I believe. And likely things you'll have other places/spaces.
Otherwise, I don't think anyone is upset with CC in general. I know I'm not. It's merely the new hard to read and get around format. If others like it, more power to them. We all have our likes and dislikes. Had this been the format on here back when I first stumbled upon the site y'all would have never known my internet name. Those who stumble on it and don't mind it can replace us.
With regards to a "move," I know personally I just need to figure out how much time I'll be spending online when my life returns to a new normal and where I want to spend it. I've enjoyed my time here and gleaning from the shared wealth of knowledge, but there can be good fellowshipping elsewhere too I suspect. I don't know for sure because I am rather picky at not wanting much in politics or bad language (why I'm not on FB), but I'm also just as happy chatting with the IRL humans we meet on our travels (and at home).