If she chooses to marry outdoors do you not support that in terms of help planning or $?
If she comes back to your faith but chooses not to get married in a church (outdoors or not) do you support that?
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When her sister got married in 2017, she got the equivalent $$. We figured by the time DD2 got married it would be difficult to figure out equivalent $$.
Until she sets a wedding date with a groom (and we honestly donât know if BF will become her husband) we have not yet thought out what the reality of her situation is.
DD2 has attended a lot of friendsâ weddings and is probably formulating what she will want when it is time.
Just back from a wedding where we did not get to eat until almost 3 hrs after the 6pm ceremony, the reception was paced with an intended midnight end, and there was only one wedding cake and it was for the bride and groom alone. So that was new. The ceremony was in a C shaped venue so the back half of the place could only hear, we couldnât see. On the bright side, our tablemates were fun!
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My daughter is only having an 8" cake and it is really just for cutting but if others want to eat it they can. There are cupcakes for everyone, and 1/3 of the cupcakes are the same flavor (pumpkin spice) as the B&G cake. And a dozen gluten free being provided by a friend who is a great baker. She didnât even want to have the cupcakes but the person she was trying to get to make cookies never called her back so we just went with the cupcakes.
Her wedding is at 4 and dinner not expected to start until 6:30. She said 'it will be fine, we donât need snacks at the cocktail party." Oh yes you do! Most people will not have eaten since noon and the drinking will start. So we will be having cold snacks (because the kitchen will be busy) and they will most likely come from Samâs club. Cheese trays, nuts, fruit. Any suggestions? It is a rural location with no where close to get anything or have anything delivered.
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Cheese, nuts, fruit (esp fruit!) seem like solid choices and simple to source. I saw an idea for garlic bread cubes on skewers â sorta a walking bruschettaâŠI do understand cupcakes, or a cookie table, in lieu of a cake and I have even been to a wedding where there just wasnât a cake at all. One of the things I do appreciate about modern wedding âprotocolâ is that so many groundless âhave toâ things have been discarded in favor of practicality and/or personality.
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Snack ideas in addition to what you listed:
Mini skewers so people can bold their own âbiteâ : olives, grape tomatoes, fresh mozzarella balls, salami, pickle slices. Cucumber sandwiches.
I admit I was disappointed that D1/fiancĂ© didnât have a big wedding cake - cause I wanted to eat it! - wedding cake is 
YUM!
But it was one spot they wanted to save $ - they had a 6 or 8 inch one to cut for them and then had two different sheet cakes from a beloved Asian bakery that actually were excellent and saved a lot of $.
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We had a small wedding cake only for the bride and groomâŠand so they could cut the cake. BUT there was a venetian table that was supposed to have 6 desserts, but the chef made at least 8. It was great, and a nice variety. Was served along with a coffee and tea station. I thought it was nice!
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I see Samâs online shows a fresh cut veggie tray with ranch dressing; also a fruit and cheese tray. Several of those, mixed nuts, plus perhaps a crackers assortment should help absorb some of the alcohol.
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D2 had an outdoor ceremony with indoor reception. I was not thrilled about it, but the venue had a very nice indoor backup. The morning of wedding, the venue texted us that there was a chance of rain and we had until 10am to make a decision. We literally checked every single weather forecast before we decided to stay with outdoor. We were very lucky that the weather was perfect. We had the cocktail outdoor too.
Both of my girls had most of their wedding pictures taken before the ceremony so they could enjoy the cocktail hours with the guests. People who were goi g to be in the formal wedding pictures were notified beforehand and when they had to be there.
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Are we supposed to buy the bride and groom a wedding gift? We are the groomâs parents and gave them a very nice sum of cash. Enough to pay for a wedding of its own. Plus, weâre taking the whole family to France in a year. DH says no, but Iâm not sure. Would it hurt their feelings? No. Weâve always been generous with them. But I donât not want to do something that everyone else does. Geez, especially the brideâs parents. I donât feel close enough to them to ask that question.
Our gift to the wedding couple was their wedding.
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I donât think it is necessary. But My daughterâs in laws did buy her a gift even though they contributed very heavily to the wedding (enough to pay for most peopleâs weddings) They bought her a beautiful bracelet. We bought the groom his Tallit and Kippah (prayer shawl and skullcap) for their observant Jewish wedding.
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No, I didnât buy either couple a wedding gift. I paid for their weddings, showers, engagement parties. Oh, I forgotâŠthey both took a piece of my jewelry.
They should give me a gift.
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I think youâve done enough.
I think I bought both my children a very small keepsake after the wedding. I canât remember what I did for the first but for the second, the restaurant they had their reception dinner put out a cookbook. It comes out tomorrow and I sent it to the kids. As a remembrance, a small token of affection.
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Ok, Iâm feeling better about it now.
I forgot that our DDs engagement ring was a family ring. SoâŠI guess we gave them that too.
We also arranged for a place for the bridal party and some other friends to stay for four days before the wedding in lieu of a bachelorette or shower. Stocked with food and beverages.
They will be looking for a house in a year. I plan on buy8ng them something for that. My parents bought us a washer/dryer.
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MOG, we paid for probably 70% of the wedding (very extenuating circumstances). We did give them a gift though; I wanted them to have a physical object they could point to when they were 70 and I was long gone, and say âyour parents gave us that as a wedding giftâ
We chose a mid price ceramic from an iconic local event. We will likely do the same, for the same sort of reason, for our other sonâs wedding next summer.
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Should I be embarrassed to say I canât remember if we gave an additional gift.
In all cases we gave them enough money to cover a good chunk of the wedding if not all.
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We have been parents of a bride and a groom. No wedding gift beyond what we paid for during wedding festivities and for my daughter, a bracelet with one of the diamonds from my moms ring.
I donât think itâs necessary. A gift for a new house - that will be really appreciated!
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