Congratulations to you and your daughter. Sounds amazing. Can you post pics at some point??
Who was the singer? Inquiring minds want to know.
Congratulations! My son and his wife had a Covid wedding in 2020 with 20 of their local friends lining the
Spanish steps in DC. Everybody was masked.We(and other parents had to watch via zoom.
And then they had a second expensive wedding in 2022 for 100+ friends and family,
Including an 11 piece band. The bride really wanted her father to walk her down the aisls. Luckily,they paid for most of the wedding themselves !
With some help from both families.
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@twoinanddone - you are so right about inviting everyone or no one. I had a big ( though not lavish ) wedding, H and I were both from small towns and felt we had to invite a lot of people to keep the peace. My sister had a small wedding so she could keep the peace.
D and SIL had a really good DJ , but one of Hâs nieces had a band that was out of this world. They could and did every type of music. If anyone needs a recommendation for an amazing band in the Chicago area ( for any occasion), feel free to PM me.
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It is a shame that weddings have become such a BIG BUSINESS instead of mainly a happy and joyous celebration.
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@HImom - it doesnât have to be that way. I admit we spent a lot on Dâs wedding ( no regrets) but our ( D, SIL, H and I) main focus was that everyone have a good time. I did get a lot of comments on how much fun it was.
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Sorry. Not like a known Motown person a known Detroit female singer and I would have to really dig deep to remember her name. She was fantastic.
But⊠I went to school with one of Aretha Franklinâs sons. He could play anything on guitar my ear. He was very good looking back then and the girls swooned for him. Lol.
Also Mary Wilson from the Supremes almost bought our house she was we moved
I found out years later that when I worked with my mom in a furniture store she ran that one of the employees was Kirk Gibson from Detroit Tigers fame. Lol
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Yes, I know it doesnât have to be that way, and am grateful that S and DIL resisted pressure to âglitz it upâ and try to outdo the cousinâs amazing wedding and reception the prior year. S & DIL had a lovely celebration and as far as I know everyone had a great timeâus included.
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For some reason, Thornetta Davis popped into my mind & I just wondered if that was who you would say it was. I remember walking into the lobby of the St. Regis Hotel in the early 80âs, where she happened to be singing, and being blown away by her voice.
Haha - we looked at Gibsonâs parentsâ house when house shopping in the mid-80âs. His awards and framed newspaper clippings were everywhere - we asked the realtor if it was his momâs house or a stalkerâs house!
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I donât think so. If I come across it I will pm you. I think she sang at the Ren Cen with this band. She actually helped us sort of hand pick some musicians. She was well connected and amazing.
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The most enjoyable wedding I ever attended was held on the brideâs family farm. There were lots of barns where guests could congregate out of the drizzle and the bride wore Wellingtons bedazzled with glitter. Donât remember any other details of her outfit! Only family attended the actual wedding ceremony then close friends of the families for appetizers and speeches then many other friends of the bride and groom for the evening party complete with a huge bonfire, fireworks, singing and dancing. The coupleâs friends were asked to bring drinks as their wedding present. So much fun.
I just turned down a wedding invitation that would have cost us well over $2000 just to attend. Just not the way I want to spend money though MOB is a good friend. I considered going on my own but the âformal attireâ instructions banished that idea.
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We have skipped a wedding that was black tie. Was the tipping point for a wedding that would have already required flights, hotel, and rental car.
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I swear @deb922 and I have the same family ---- my inlaws have asked for information about S/DiL wedding lodging. They want to fly, rent a car, and drive to the wedding (itâs about an hour from a major airport). My FiL has never used a gps , cannot use his cell phone. Rarely drives anymore. But wants to fly and drive a rental through a part of the state he has never been in. DH said this is all a terrible idea.
My BiL, nearby, has proclaimed he will not fly, never ever. FiL says theyâll fly from BiLâs city; I said I donât think there are direct flights. FiL says of course, you can fly anywhere from anywhere. Nope. BiL says, make them drive with us. FiL says make them fly with us.
DH says, yâall would need to arrive This Day. FiL says oh no, weâll get there Day Of and you can just pick us up, or drive ahead of us so we donât get lost. BiL says why donât you guys just pick them up, why does it have to be me. DH says, letâs talk about this another time, when you guys have thought this through some more.
FiL says well if you donât want us there, just say so. DH says, you know when the wedding is , and where. You guys figure this all out and let me know, Iâve given you what we are available to help with. MiL says isnât the wedding almost here? DH says no mom, we have months to go yet.
Itâs just amazing to me, but bless my DH for his patience. We are staying with our other kids at a big AirBnb; we booked that months ago and FDiL said donât we want to save space there for FiL/MiL and DH says , no, we are not making any plans that depend on them being dependable. And he has once again been proven right. Stay tuned for more drama 
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From experience, you do not need any extra people beyond your own family staying together cause itâs a hectic time and you donât need the stress of ANYONE else there besides your own kids - who you can lose it with and not feel bad! 
Good on your husband. Do not add more to your plate day of. You never know what I planned things come up. Last year at D1âs wedding Hâs car started having major electrical issues as we were driving to the Airbnb from the rehearsal dinner. He and I spent part of âday ofâ begging AAA repair to make us a priority in a city not our own and then bless them, picking that repaired car up - it was big and the planned car to tote the bride to pics and venue!
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D2 had a black tie wedding. It was a lovely event. My nephew had a wedding 2 months later and it was also a black tie event. I think itâs probably more common around NYC
A good friend got a suit made just for the event, and was very upset they couldnât come when they got Covid.
This is giving me flashbacks, not in a good way.
Your husband is doing a better job of boundaries than mine. My husband will do anything for his parents, even to the detriment of others.
In the end, the in-laws and my mom were very grateful being able to go. Iâm glad it was last year because things have gone down hill and as hard as things were last year, they would be so much worse this year.
I donât think my kid understands how very difficult it was. So Iâm a bit ambivalent about the situation but I know the grandparents were happy to be there.
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After an outdoor Chicago wedding in which people were passing out from the heat and another family planned outdoor wedding in the city that found the bride teary all day when it rained the entire day, my personal motto is âDonât tempt the fatesâ when it comes to wedding planning. My daughter violated that by insisting on an outdoor venue. Although it worked out the stress nearly killed me. Who wants to look with trepidation at weather apps in the days amd hours leading up,to the ceremony. It was horrible.
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This sounds like what went down with DHâs brothers for my daughterâs wedding.
They had a wedding planned, then Covid hit so they postponed for a year later than their original date. DHâs brother had TWO years to figure out how to get there (2 airport possibilities about 1 hour and 15 minutes from the wedding location). He insisted he was not renting a car and not paying for an uber, so he proceeded to harass my husband and daughter to find him (and his girlfriend, his grown son and their luggage) a ride to the wedding.
He actually expected my husband to ask one of his employees to take him 
and called my daughter (the bride) and asked her to call her friends He called several of DHâs and my friends, on his own, to ask for a ride (again for 3 people and their luggage). He whined and harassed us all the way up to the wedding day. He ended up paying for an uber (but wanted to be reimbursed). He also harassed people at the wedding for a ride back to the airport! He has always been this obnoxious. He and DH no longer speak (for many reasons).
Whenever DH and I need a ride anywhere, we always joke that we should call his brother and demand that he take us.
ETA - I forgot to mention his younger brother who decided not to come at all because he and his girlfriend had nothing to wear Again - they had two full years to prepare.
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Itâs amazing to me how as you get older you can see how dysfunctional your birth family is â or, in this case, your husbandâs.
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We went to three weddings last summer. All were lovely. One was local, one was a short distance away, and the third required a plane and hotel. These were all weddings we would not have missed for any reason.
One was black tie, and I actually wore the dress I loved that I wore to our daughterâs wedding. DH owns a tux. It was a gorgeous wedding.
We knew long in advance about these weddings. For the plane away one, we were also able to see some friends on the trip. The local oneâŠall of our neighbors were there.
Every one was just great.
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