What tricky planning!
But if it was me, I would not put a large emphasis on analyzing how the schools handle this fall. Here would be my reasoning:
1). I personally don’t believe by the time these kids get to school in fall 2021 things will be at the same state they are in this fall. I am optimistic about what I read on vaccines (and manufacturing of vaccines—if the Oxford/Astra Zeneca vaccine works, they have already lined up 2 billion doses of manufactured product within less than 6 months. One large company in India is already getting started on what it needs for 1 billion of those doses and the other billion I believe is split between a few manufacturers). I also believe that 15 months from now, not only will there be the large possibility of vaccine plus much better treatments, but there will be greater natural immunity from prior exposure (I do not mean to turn this thread into arguing on these points; I know we don’t have “proof” of immunity, but I am personally convinced by readings and infectious disease doctor friends that all appearances point to a good level of immunity similar to past SARS 3+ years immunity—I have no crystal ball or inside knowledge, so this point is simply how “I” would view this decision for my child—I strongly believe fall 2021 will be pretty much back to normal. If I didn’t believe that I would think differently about this decision. Clearly we all have different beliefs about fall 2021 and that’s ok! None of us “knows”…there’s a bit of a gamble either way.
2). While I often think to a certain extent how a [person, institution, government, family, etc] handles one situation CAN be indicative of how they handle all situations, I also often find this isn’t remotely true. I do believe it’s possible for an institution that typically shows incredible regard for its students to botch one thing. So I would still care infinitely more about how my child likes the campus, academic fit, students, level of diversity, extracurricular opportunities, etc more.
3). I think 2020-2021 is an experiment year, and the schools will learn from each other. So even if the pandemic situation doesn’t change one whit between now and then, 2021-2022 could easily be handled differently at schools. If by next spring, it looks like the Stanford model of individual students being on campus 2/3 of the year is best, others may emulate it for 2021-2022. If it looks like there is no flu-season flare-up, this whole “let’s get off campus at Thanksgiving” could go out the window. If tents and portable buildings end up being successful this year even in the Northeast, more would buy them for the following year. If we learn different things about spread, it could change basically everything. But I don’t think just because certain schools get it right this fall, that others can’t/won’t imitate best practices for your 21’s fall.
4). And I definitely would hate my kid to make a decision based on not liking how one person or department phrases things (ie if we didn’t like what a tour guide or even an admissions officer says, or the wording of the tour cancellation, etc). These places are made up of thousands of people and there can always be an inarticulate person who probably shouldn’t be representing the school but occasional bad hiring happens. It’s hard not to be turned off by someone who says something that rubs us the wrong way, but we only spite ourselves if we can’t look past that. If a perfect-fit, fantastic school has a representative who is having a stressful bad day and words something wrong, what a shame to cross them off the list.
Anyway, good luck in your decision process. I am so hopeful for your 21 that things will be 96% back to normal for their freshman year!!