<p>and I thought the thread was about dropping the turkey before it made it to the Thanksgiving table…happy turkey day everyone!</p>
<p>Thanks heavens for WashDad!!! I thought the exact same thing. You know that was voted the second funniest sitcom episode ever - my personal favorite.</p>
<p>In one show, the management of WKRP decides to distribute free, live turkeys as a promotion. Les Nesman is the station’s news reporter. For those of you who don’t remember this shining moment in television history, here’s an excerpt from the script:</p>
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<p>“…but we did that which we had never done before, if you know what I mean.”
LOL, Marian. Laughed out loud at that one! </p>
<p>oaklandmom, I thought the same thing. Haha.</p>
<p>Happy Thanksgiving!</p>
<p>For the record: Met H at age 14, ran around in a group of friends together. Nothing serious. On eve of going to college- first kiss. I distinctly remember thinking “Dang, the future is sealed.” </p>
<p>I knew he was the one, but had planned to not be tied down in college.<br>
We did have other friends that we hung around with, but spent a lot of time together. </p>
<p>Married 28 years, so I guess it might last.</p>
<p>Great, now I have to look for WKRP on dvd. Loved the turkey drop episode, but my all time favorite was when Venus Flytrap explained the structure of the atom to a kid wanting to drop out of school, describing protons, neutrons and electrons as gang members.</p>
<p>Met DH when I was 17 & he was 21, did not date until a bit later, eventually married, 25+ years and still going. Yet, I wish I had gone away to school and experienced that, just because it would be a good thing and I have encouraged my kids to experience life first, before settling down.</p>
<p>That said, D2 is 20, 3 years and counting with BF, they polanned ot break up when she went far away to college, but decided not to as they still loved each other, they are beginning the 3rd year of a long distnace relationship which provides each of them much emotional support, but also allows time to “fi9nd oneself” and time to play, sorority, friends, etc, not being attached at the hip. So, it feel healthy and if she ends up marrying him, it’d be fine with me, though I hope they wait a long time. If they break up, well then they will have been a good team for a lot of years and that’s good too.</p>
<p>I’m the original poster…well, no Turkey Drop yet, but 2 mini meltdowns when D was upset with her boyfriend for screwing up plans they had played. She has obviously become more organized and plan oriented and he seems a bit scattered and wanting to sleep part of his break away…man was she ticked off!!! They are together tonight - will be interesting to hear what she has to say tomorrow about the weekend…!</p>
<p>Okay, I do have to say (and in agreement with UCLari), that i"m glad I don’t come from a family, and my kids don’t live in a family, that roots for breakups and uses dismissive haha terms like “turkey drop” to refer to them.</p>
<p>I like UCL’s idea of going with the flow, letting the future take its course without making judgments based on age. I’m most glad that when my H and I were 17 and 18, our families weren’t rooting against us.</p>
<p>First of all, lighten up - the term “turkey drop” was found on CC - hence the only reason I used it describe this thread - that’s how I saw it referred to here many times before…no offense to a “turkey” or anything else intended…</p>
<p>And regarding breakups - we are certainly NOT rooting for a break-up, but simply hoping for an opportunity to be OPEN to exploring other relationships and possibilities. It is our thought that it is difficult to know that someone is “right” for you if you’ve haven’t had anyone else to compare to. And, keep in mind, while it’s not my job to pick a guy for my daughter, it definitely can be true that “love can be blind” and we can see many ways that a certain relationship may not work or be healthy.</p>
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What? Didn’t have enough turkey or had too much?:)</p>
<p>Heavens, I didn’t think you made up the term. It, like lots of that kind of heartily dismissive language, is pretty pervasive these days. Just voicing my distaste for it. I dunno, it just strikes me as part of a general coarsening of how we treat each other’s feelings…maybe that’s just me.</p>
<p>And, I guess there is a difference between rooting for and secretly wishing for, but that’s cutting it pretty fine, isn’t it?</p>
<p>Well, not a BF but a bff did the turkey drop. DD was best friends with a guy in HS. He has found true love and dropped all his female friends due to jealously of girlfriend. Did not meet with any old friends over Thanksgiving since girlfriend is from HS and he spent all his time with her. DD is really hurt and this has been a hard one to deal with. Put her on the plane to go back this AM and that is in the end the best thing. She will get back to new friends. But she had wanted to share experiences with him and feels sad that he just no longer cared.</p>
<p>We have kids who think all of life should just be swell and perfect and that tough times don’t happen</p>
<p>People get rejected, friends move on, or backwards</p>
<p>There is a balance between comforting someone who is going through a rough time because of a change in a relationship, and letting something like that potential ruin a college path because someone is so distraught over an ex</p>
<p>As for rooting, my friend’s Ds BF was a jerk, and we ALL wanted him gone…this girl LOVED him, blah blah blah, but so much drama was there that the sooner he was outa there the better for all</p>
<p>instead of feeling bad that you didn’t get to see your old friend, why not be happy for him that he found someone? And as for the “jealousy” of GF, how do you know that?</p>
<p>as for a courseness of how we treat feelings these days, I think there is also a pervasive attitude that life should always be perfect, that whatever choices the person makes, we should all just go, GREAT, date the same person and don’t explore other relationships, take the person from HS with you to college</p>
<p>As for the term, it can lighten the mood…yes, these were serious relationships, but they were also HS ones that carried into adulthood, to expect them to last forever is being naive, yes some do, but many that probably shouldn’t are still going because of text messaging, etc</p>
<p>For some, the HS romance can act as a crutch, a safety net…</p>
<p>I know one girl in college who is not having a great time, she comes home often to hang with her BF, and hasn’t made many friends at her college, and gee, she doesn’t like her school because she hasn’t made many friends</p>
<p>gut tells me she will move back home to be closer to BF…NOT something mom would like at all, so yeah, mom is secretly hoping the relationship doesn’t work…a few weeks of crabbiness over the EX would be better then leaving school to be close to him</p>