<p>I think that’s the term I learned on CC for when the high school boyfriend drops the girlfriend (or vice versa) during Christmas break. </p>
<p>My D just left the house to go to BF’s house for dinner and the evening. My husband and I were just discussing this. I don’t think we’ll have a “turkey drop” - though I could admit that I sometimes secretly wish for it! While she still adamently insists they are a couple, she also admits that when she’s at college she doesn’t really miss having him around - she seems satisfied with a nightly phone call - since late August they have seen each other briefly over Labor Day, once when they both came home and once when he went to her school for a day for a formal dance. </p>
<p>While I’d like her to expand her horizons so to speak, maybe the setup they have is good. She already has plenty on her plate freshman year than worrying or starting up a relationship in the often too-cozy-for-comfort college dorm life. Less for us as parents to worry about too! Obviously, her relationships are not my choice to make, just my worries!!!</p>
<p>But they do say, “turkey drops” will happen…share your Thanksgiving 2007 daughter-son relationship updates - how has college affected those high school romances???</p>
<p>I am hoping for a breakup but don’t see it happening. Girlfriend is just a junior. They talk everyday. Have seen each other once before this week. He misses her.
He even dropped the dreaded topic of going to the community college next year to finish up his General Ed. I hope it doesn’t come to that. Since aside from the girlfriend he is loving college.</p>
<p>Man, I’m glad I had my parents and future in-laws rooting for us. :)</p>
<p>8 years later, of course. </p>
<p>I don’t necessarily think that just because the relationship was started early that the horizons have to be narrow. It all depends on what the individual wants in the relationship.</p>
<p>My son is a freshman at state flagship and his gf is a senior in hs. I wish them the best! She is such a wonderful girl; he’d be crazy to not hold onto her. I’m saying this as a mom (female)- usually moms don’t like the gf but she is really great. He’ll not find as good a catch in the next life, so he’s crazy if he doesn’t reel this one in.</p>
<p>“reel this one in” are you hoping for marriage? what if she goes to another college? and what if they do break up? i can’t imagine wanting my D to be reeled in as a senior in HS</p>
<p>and if they do break up which is very possible, will you always compare the new love of his life to this girl</p>
<p>I am not trying to be harsh, but I just can’t imagine a “keeper” in HS, or as a freshman in college</p>
<p>My D has a knew BF who seems to be awesome, but I have no expectations either way…they are still young and life happens…</p>
<p>Agree with CGM. No sure thing at this age. Does not matter even if he is close to perfect. I told D to wait until she’s a lot older. The ideal age to settle is 30 for femaie. Play, play, play until then.</p>
<p>My relationship, which started my sophomore year of high school, has been the greatest source of support during the hardest times. We’ve weathered 2 years in different countries, and almost 2 years in different cities.</p>
<p>However, I cannot imagine I’d be this emotionally satisfied without her in the picture.</p>
<p>Yes, but that’s my point. The blanket rule of “waiting” is, at best, unrealistic as well.</p>
<p>It’s so much better to just “go with the flow,” so to speak, and let the boats flow wherever. If you guys stay in the same stream, great. If not, then at least you tried.</p>
<p>But actively paddling away from one another? It almost sounds like setting up for a self-fulfilling prophecy to me.</p>
<p>I know people who’ve been married 30 years and got divorced so don’t jump to any conclusion yet. Less than 10 years for a relationship does not mean forever.
But my advice to my D stems from the fact that you need to have a lot of experience dealing with people to make a relationship works. It’s best to wait until she is more mature or when they both more mature because at this stage they are just forming. People change from 16 to 22, from 22 to 30.</p>
<p>UCLAri- I don’t discount relationships that start at a young age. I met my husband at age 20. Still happily married. I give you credit for both doing what you want to do but remaining committed. What I don’t agree with is one person compromising their education or experiences for a relationship. I would hate to see my son give up his away from home college experience for a girl at age 18 or 19.
I like my son’s girlfriend but I don’t see it as being the “one”. My older D has had a couple of keepers.</p>
<p>I think a lot depends on how you define “compromise.”</p>
<p>For me, it meant attending UCLA instead of Berkeley or some privates on the East Coast. It didn’t really bother me, and I sincerely doubt that my life has been negatively affected in any way by the difference. Of course, I was fortunate enough to live in the vicinity of a school that was my first choice to begin with. As they say, your mileage may vary. </p>
<p>Granted, I don’t believe in “the one,” anyway. I just think that you have to determine what brings you more utility (applied economist, here) and go with it.</p>
<p>Furthermore, when does the compromise game begin? After school? After children? We’ll always have to make compromises when it comes to the things we do, but the question is always, “what opportunity costs will we accept?” I, for one, have never bought into the idea that careers should always come first, if ever. In the end, we are the sum of our experiences and who we love and know. I think that even had I broken up with my significant other, I would have been better for my choices anyway.</p>
<p>Either way, it’s a “what if?” game, anyway-- roll the dice and hope it isn’t snake eyes.</p>
<p>We’re hoping she’ll dump him, but so far she still calls him daily. D is coming home in Dec for the first time. She seems to really enjoy college, has good grades and is in ultimate frisbee. The BF is working at a dead end job, no desire for education, but treats her well.</p>
<p>That WKRP episode has to be one the funniest shows ever.</p>
<p>Our daughter and her boyfriend went to college with the understanding that both were free to date others and if they both wanted to they would see each other on breaks. Neither has had a date or anything even close to a date since school started. The text messages fly back and forth constantly according to my phone bill. She was in the house 5 minutes and out the door to meet him. It is okay, she comes home often and he does not. I know this is not going to last, but for right now they both seem content.</p>
<p>I meant my post as a compliment to my son’s gf. She is a wonderful person. I’m glad they’re happy together.
I started going out with H when I was 23 (he was 34), so I guess our ages “averaged” out at 28. We married when I was 25 and had our babies when I was 26 and 27. We’re still together (married 21 years in December). Maybe that’s why I’m ambivalent about 19/20 year olds in a relationship. Of course, they both need to finish their educations.
UCLAri, when you find that person who rocks your world, hold onto her/him. It takes a lot of work, you’ll see, but it’s worth it.</p>
<p>I didn’t know anyone else remembered that WKRP episode!</p>
<p>I had a boyfriend the summer before college. When we came home for Thanksgiving, not only did the relationship not end, but we did that which we had never done before, if you know what I mean. We got married three years later and are still married now, 31 years later.</p>
<p>There are exceptions to the Turkey Drop rule.</p>
<p>We have one turkey drop. but not involving Ss. S’s friend broke up with GF a week or so ago, so S’s friend will be having Thanksgiving with us instead of with GF.</p>
<p>Met H when I was 18 and he was 21. Married after college. That was many years ago.</p>